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    #616
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    KatieB;851155 wrote: Thank you Spam.. I know that I will eventually draw ppl to me by remaining AF - nicer ppl, and genuine.. families are dysfunctional at the best of times anyway, im lucky i dont have to deal with overbearing mothers meddling, or other family annoyances.. total freedom to bring my son up how i want! im sure lots of ppl would be envious of that! i think friends are more important now.. as you can pick them.. you cant pick your family and ppl struggle to cope with ppl they cant stand just b/c its family! but i dont have to.. thanks again,
    Katie xxx
    Katie,

    You came here via back packing (I think). We came here via work and moved out with Pickfords. I was given a book about "trailing spouses" (women who come with out with their husband's work) and one of the pieces of advice was to accept every invitation whether you want to or not. I think we (with AL probs) may need to be more selective on this but it is advice I followed for years. I have been to every Tupperware party, Enjo demonstration, morning tea, etc and in some cases have friends through the host. I once really connected with a lady called Peta and told my husband I must get in touch with her again only to find her at my son's new school a week later. It can be tiresome but the effort pays off.

    Whoops - rambling again.

    xx

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      #617
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      JACQRABBIT;851141 wrote: Damn...
      That sound familiar too.

      My mother hates me ever since I broke up with my kids dad she hasn't spoken to me.
      He lives quite near her and they are now great friends.
      Jacq - so I am not alone! That must be sooo frustrating for you! jeez.. your own mother - what is it with our mothers?? I know i will always put my son first.. even if I met Brad Pitt tomorrow - my son would still be my main focus! :H
      "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

      :groupluv:

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        #618
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        Spam;851169 wrote: Katie,

        You came here via back packing (I think). We came here via work and moved out with Pickfords. I was given a book about "trailing spouses" (women who come with out with their husband's work) and one of the pieces of advice was to accept every invitation whether you want to or not. I think we (with AL probs) may need to be more selective on this but it is advice I followed for years. I have been to every Tupperware party, Enjo demonstration, morning tea, etc and in some cases have friends through the host. I once really connected with a lady called Peta and told my husband I must get in touch with her again only to find her at my son's new school a week later. It can be tiresome but the effort pays off.

        Whoops - rambling again.

        xx
        Thanks Spam.. thats not rambling, its nice to hear a bit about how you guys coped when you first came out here... You went to an Enjo Party too - don't they suck??!!! I went to one.. sooo boring! My old mothers group were always having those types of party.. but b/c of my drinking problem i stopped going - one of the mothers reported me to Docs for drinking at a party.. even though i didnt have my son at the time - they were a horrible gossipy bunch so I was better off out anyway and rather come to me and see if i was ok, or call me, the mother in question went behind my back and reported me.. some ppl are so cruel!
        I definately vow to be more selective in future.. i have a couple of friends now that are really nice.. im rambling now!
        :H
        Katie
        "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

        :groupluv:

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          #619
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          Nasty bunch!

          Luckily, my friends are a mixture now. Some drink, some don't drink at all. Two of them drink less in a year than I would drink in an evening. They've all excepted my "health kick" without question but they can also see I've lost 8kgs so it's like I am proving it.

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            #620
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            Spam;851063 wrote: Pan,

            Do you mind if I repsond to your comments in one go? I don't see the need to type one sentence per post.

            1) I would agree that people here do want to stop drinking but some think there is a magic wand. The vast majority realise that they have to put in the hard work. Some people think signing up here solves everything and then wonder why their lives haven't changed.

            2) I can decide who is a bad apple, in my opinion. Just as I can decide if there is a god or not. Or what I should wear tomorrow.

            3) I don't take objection. It's called lively debate. Only one person questioned my post. Did you notice how many people agreed with it? And whether you like me or not is irrelevant.

            4) Ah, Pan, yes I can take critism. And I don't beg for recognition or attention either.
            Nup! I don't want to read. If you have a prob, it's yours.

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              #621
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              Spam - they were.. most of them anyway; they all lived in a village rather than suburb so they were all festering there with boredom! :H
              The people I have met at the church playgroup are lovely so far.. so fingers crossed.. I am more confident now I am not drinking (probably b/c I know i am not harbouring a "dirty" secret.. and obviously not doing anything stupid when under the influence to make me feel ashamed or guilty about) - being AF is definately a great thing.. i just have to keep building up my self-esteem then i should hopefully be able to keep some good friends for a long time.. unless i move again!
              "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

              :groupluv:

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                #622
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                Spam;851177 wrote: Nasty bunch!

                Luckily, my friends are a mixture now. Some drink, some don't drink at all. Two of them drink less in a year than I would drink in an evening. They've all excepted my "health kick" without question but they can also see I've lost 8kgs so it's like I am proving it.
                Learn how to spell

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                  #623
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                  You've got to move again...to Brisbane.

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                    #624
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                    Spam, you are are an unstable person. You do do not have the authority to help people. You are only just getting over this beast yourself. STOP!

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                      #625
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                      Spam I said you were unstable simply because of the fact that that you are not qualified

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                        #626
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                        Pan - none of us are qualified.. Spam has been a good friend to me since I joined 3 months ago.. can we please stop this "arguing" or whatever you want to call it! I valued your help this afternoon too.. I just want this to end and go back to the fun thread it normally is!
                        Katie
                        "It works if you work it, because you are worth it!!!"

                        :groupluv:

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                          #627
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                          I'm going.

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                            #628
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                            Look at the chameleon I just found in my garden. It was incredible to see how quickly it changed colour...

                            I'll do whatever it takes
                            AF 21/08/2009

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                              #629
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                              And you're holding it? Are you quite MAD?

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                                #630
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                                Spam;851200 wrote: And you're holding it? Are you quite MAD?
                                I have a whole colony in my garden. They eat insects, not humans
                                I'll do whatever it takes
                                AF 21/08/2009

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