Hi all,
I thought I would write down a few points that I have found amongst my reading material, to share with you all, if it will be any help to anyone..
Self-acceptance
Healthy people choose to accept themselves unconditionally, rather than measure or rate themselves or try to prove themselves.
Risk Taking
Emotionally healthy people choose to take risks and have a spirit of adventure in trying to do what they want to do, without being foolhardy.
Non-Utopian
We are unlikely to get everything we want or to avoid everything we find painful. Healthy people do not waste time striving for the unattainable or for unrealistic perfection.
High Frustration Tolerance
Healthy people recognise that there are only two sorts of problems they are likely to encounter: those they can do something about and those they cannot. Once this discrimination has been made, the goal is to modify those obnoxious conditions we can change, and to accept (or lump) those we cannot change.
Self-responsibility for disturbance
Rather than blaming others, the world, or fate for their distress, healthy individuals accept a good deal of responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.
Tolerance
It is helpful to allow humans (oneself and others) the right to be wrong. It is not appropriate to like obnoxious behaviour, but it is not necessary to damn oneself or others for acting badly.
Flexibility
Healthy individuals tend to be flexible thinkers - as opposed to having rigid, bigoted, or invariant rules, which tend to reduce happiness.
Self-interest
Emotionally healthy people tend to put their own interests a little above the interests of others. They sacrifice themselves to some degree for those for whom they care, but not overwhelmingly or completely.
Social Interest
Most people choose to live in social groups, and to do so most comfortably and happily, they would be wise to act morally, protect the rights of others, and aid in the survival of the society in which we live.
Acceptance of Uncertainty
We live in a fascinating world of probability and chance; absolute certainties probably do not exist. The healthy individual strives for a degree of order, but does not demand perfect certainty.
I hope this helps.. I am going to try and integrate these points in my own life..
Katie xx
I thought I would write down a few points that I have found amongst my reading material, to share with you all, if it will be any help to anyone..
Self-acceptance
Healthy people choose to accept themselves unconditionally, rather than measure or rate themselves or try to prove themselves.
Risk Taking
Emotionally healthy people choose to take risks and have a spirit of adventure in trying to do what they want to do, without being foolhardy.
Non-Utopian
We are unlikely to get everything we want or to avoid everything we find painful. Healthy people do not waste time striving for the unattainable or for unrealistic perfection.
High Frustration Tolerance
Healthy people recognise that there are only two sorts of problems they are likely to encounter: those they can do something about and those they cannot. Once this discrimination has been made, the goal is to modify those obnoxious conditions we can change, and to accept (or lump) those we cannot change.
Self-responsibility for disturbance
Rather than blaming others, the world, or fate for their distress, healthy individuals accept a good deal of responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.
Tolerance
It is helpful to allow humans (oneself and others) the right to be wrong. It is not appropriate to like obnoxious behaviour, but it is not necessary to damn oneself or others for acting badly.
Flexibility
Healthy individuals tend to be flexible thinkers - as opposed to having rigid, bigoted, or invariant rules, which tend to reduce happiness.
Self-interest
Emotionally healthy people tend to put their own interests a little above the interests of others. They sacrifice themselves to some degree for those for whom they care, but not overwhelmingly or completely.
Social Interest
Most people choose to live in social groups, and to do so most comfortably and happily, they would be wise to act morally, protect the rights of others, and aid in the survival of the society in which we live.
Acceptance of Uncertainty
We live in a fascinating world of probability and chance; absolute certainties probably do not exist. The healthy individual strives for a degree of order, but does not demand perfect certainty.
I hope this helps.. I am going to try and integrate these points in my own life..
Katie xx
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