BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME :)

[Guest]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

I'm not ashamed to be an alcoholic and I'm really very proud to be an "alcoholic who doesn't drink".

If anyone asks I say I don't drink, if they ask any further I say I stopped drinking because it was going to kill me. Generally get a lot of respect for that. Despite what it may appear quite a few members of society hold recovered alchies in high esteem - to get through such an illness takes a lot of strength, usually because we have to look very deeply at ourselves. Something the majority of the world don't do but we HAVE to do it to recover.

Lecture over.

[ladyjan]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

only thing is they do label us..
for insuance purposes etc..
when I was in the dentist today they asked me about illnesses & medicatons etc..
and about any drug addictions.
I had to answer that I had, had a problem with alcohol..
so I was then classed as an alcoholic...!! (which I was..am..???????)

it just made me so mad when I told them I had stopped,
they said it didn't make any difference, as once an alcoholic that must be noted on the file as such...!!!
Grrrrrrr

[wannachange]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

That's f*cked up Jan, I am labeled as one as you know by a judge who took words instead of evidence, so proving I am not will make no difference, even tho my solicitor said "maybe you do have a problem with drink but..." yeah he was putting it lightly, but I had this debate before and am so so glad it came up again

[ladyjan]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

wannachange;861352 wrote: That's f*cked up Jan, I am labeled as one as you know by a judge who took words instead of evidence, so proving I am not will make no difference, even tho my solicitor said "maybe you do have a problem with drink but..." yeah he was putting it lightly, but I had this debate before and am so so glad it came up again

honey this is excatly my point to this thread..
not to upset or offend..
but just that the "name" we are classed as forever, bugs the hell outta me

[Guest]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

Jan

In their defence sometimes medical professionals need to know since they need to be careful with certain meds which may contain AL or be addictive. Also I've been told that redwine and AL in general is very abrasive on teeth, plus also can cause mouth cancer too.

They do have a duty and sometimes it might be as simple as protecting their own backs.

[Rags]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

ALCOHOLABSENTEE.......??????


Well, you'd need to be sober to be able to pronounce it!!! LOL

[rubywillow]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

Jan, my favorite name, for you and me, is Mommy. Nothing else matters. Labels are for idiots.

[daybyday]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

Originally Posted by mario
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."Harvey Fierstein

Love this Mario, thanks for sharing.

[tlrgs]

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im just a non-drinker

[ladyjan]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

mama bear;861254 wrote: How about EXSTUPIDPERSONTHATISSMARTERTHANYOU?????

Hi mama,
only thing with that one is, I don't reckon it would fit on the forms they have

[girly wirly]

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rubywillow;861422 wrote: Jan, my favorite name, for you and me, is Mommy. Nothing else matters. Labels are for idiots.

perfect answer, just perfect! i may have alcohol issues but FIRST i'm a wife, a mum, a daughter, a sister, an employee xxx:h


Originally Posted by mario
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."Harvey Fierstein

wise words as always mario, never a truer word spoken. only I know what i am inside.

people that are uneducated on a subject can be harsh judges. tell them you're an alcoholic and you'll never be anything else in their eyes. "oh she's a plonky" etc...

"i don't drink" is all those people who don't know me need to know. i'll tell a professional where appropriate. my life is mine and mine only. i have been judged and sniggered at all my life for being overweight, i wouldnt want to give the gossips something else to rip me apart for. it's a cruel world out there. those who love me know and care about me. thats all this girly needs. i don't need to scream my problems to the world in order to recover.
some people do. its our own individual recover/ journey xx

[one2many]

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I had to accept that I was an alcoholic, that was the main thing. I think you've got to. But I try not say that I'm an alcoholic. I prefer to say that it's a disease I've got.
Paul Gascoigne

[mario]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

IMO For me accepting that i cant drink is the most important part, if that labels me an alcoholic so be it, dont have a problem with that.

[catch22]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

Hi Ladyjan,
Interesting post to read what other people think i never thought i was a alcoholic i was in denial for sooooo many years, but i think once Alcoholic, always alcoholic, I still like to look at myself working in progress, if anyone ask me now if i want a drink i just say i have a allery. I know if i have one it will not stop there. Everyone to themself, Thanks for the thread.x

[gyco]

BRANDED AN ALCOHOLIC FOR LIFE.NEW NAME

ladyjan;861245 wrote: We are alcoholics and it is a horrid name,
it takes a hell of a lot for any of us to admit it..

coz it has such a bad mental image and stigma attached..!

but when we start to get better, we are told we will always be alcoholics till the day we die..

basically coz there is not another word to call us..

I personally hate it..

coz I am proud of what I have done and many of you are the same..

and many are struggling to get there,

but it infuriates me that our brand name never changes..

SO.........

I have come up with a new name for what I feel I am and we are..
it is so much more a positive "label" for us I think.....


ALCOHOLABSENTEE.......??????

Wot do you reckon..???

hi l j,i to agree with you.you are alchoholic when you say you are one,it does nt matter what other people think,as long as we lern to conquer the terrible urge we get to get drunkis tht nt all tht matters,worryig about us,for a change,ty gyco great thread