My darling 15 (almost 16) year old daughter Sally came home last night with a truly broken teenage heart.
I had just received a phone call from her boyfriend (of 10 months) mother giving me a heads up that Sal was very upset, the kids had broken up that day at school.
Her son was crying and feeling lousy as he had made the break.
They weren't fighting but the relationship was become too intense for teens.
They are both very sensible kids and it was a nice relationship,
they were not living in each others pockets and only saw each other occasionally outside of school.
When Sally got home I could see that she was emotional but she was not ready to talk,
opting to go straight to her bed.
She stayed quietly in there for 3 hours and I just popped in occasionally and gave her a hug.
She didn't want to talk about it and didn't want dinner so I just left her in her thoughts.
She ventured downstairs about 7.30, having freshened her face and sat having a cuddle and then her dinner before returning to bed at 9pm.
We had a little chat about it this morning and she will be ok.
The positive here is that the old AL affected mum would have pushed her into talking and stayed in her face until she did,
probably even coming up with a bunch of useless suggestions and solutions resulting in us ending up in an unhelpful argument.
My point is that with a clear head I supported her and allowed her the space to bring herself back downstairs rather than be a complete pain in the a**e and I like the way I feel today, and I remember the evening rather than having to wonder what stupid things I said last night.
I'm loving the 'new AF me'
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