My New AF life is CRAP!
BUMP!
I just stumbled across this! Wow, Oney, thank you!
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BUMP!
I just stumbled across this! Wow, Oney, thank you!
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My New AF life is CRAP!
Nice reminder for all of us who get complacent about why we stopped drinking in the first place.
:congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:
Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
I know enough to know that I don't know enough.
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Thanks for this, it was just what i needed todayComment
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Great Bump Sol, loved it first time round - love it today Oney, thanks.
Coincidence maybe, but yesterday I found myself 'talking' to myself about how little situations in the day would have been so awful if I'd been drinking and were lovely little moments, truly experienced 'gratitude' for sobriety - it was lovely! Just reading back - a few names missing lately - where's GG?Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
contentedly NF since 8/04/14
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I see GG on Facebook a lot, I hope she drops in here soon.mollyka;1095826 wrote: Great Bump Sol, loved it first time round - love it today Oney, thanks.
Coincidence maybe, but yesterday I found myself 'talking' to myself about how little situations in the day would have been so awful if I'd been drinking and were lovely little moments, truly experienced 'gratitude' for sobriety - it was lovely! Just reading back - a few names missing lately - where's GG?"It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"
AF 10th May 2010
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Glad this got bumped back up- I missed it the first time around- nice post, Oney...
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Yet another reason why I love this woman. Oney, as always you speak directly to my heart. Thank you.February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h
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Every day I come on here, something stands out and hits me , EVERY TIME , and reminds me why it is SO much better to live sober.
Thanks Oney, brilliant post . x
Damo.....Still trying !!!
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Great post, Oney! You should write a book, blog or become a motivational speaker! You always put a smile on my face
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wot? You mean life isn't a Hallmark card? We been tricked!
Seriously, great post! Every little reminder about why we choose sobriety is to be savoured. Thanks, it made my day.
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Brilliant.Comment
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I'm SO glad this reappeared, thanks Solitaire.
I remember reading it the first time around on a day that I really needed to (if you know what I mean)
You're a very special lady Onester.If your 8 year old self met you, would they be proud?
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Thanks Oney.....we need to get down to our roots ! The road is rugged and littered.........but we must make a new way around it ! Keep fighting....the truth is not far away ! Keep fighting, never give up ! Tony?Be who you are and say what you feel because
those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
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Nice one, Oney.
Needed that. I now know it just takes time and, for some of us, perhaps rather a long time, but........am no longer rushing myself and demanding happiness today........it`s in the offing for all of us........I actually `feel` that in my heart now.
You`re the best!!! :l
Much love,
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life is what it is
hi one to many, i have to agree, this is one of the best posts,i ve ever read, maybe even better then another irish lady the swim one,:Hbut never forget where you ve been,:upset:many let downs for the 1st years of sobriety,then you have the 2nd and still more let downs, then comes 5 years 10 years and even 30 years,the emotional edge will never change, ask the person in AA who s attended for 30 years, they still wonder of the 1st drink ? we all have to remember there are many new people coming in and out every day, in the state there in to have a moment of sobriety is a life saver,and yes they ll rant and rave, we with some sobriety under our belts, have to cringe at the thot, WHAT IF,great post kid hope your well gyco:goodjob:one2many;867834 wrote: It seems to be a commen theme this week on the boards about feeling let down or unfulfilled by your new AF life...I posted this on another thread but am putting in here too, just to let you all know that you are not alone and this feeling is very normal and happens to us all.
When I ditched the booze....
My life would change....
I would become happier, more confident, everything would slot into place, my troubles would be over, I would be on easy street, Nothing would worry me or upset me, life would be a piece of cake, my brain would work differently, I would be happy all the time, I would no longer have depression or sad thoughts, I would have a wonderful life, people would applaud me, fanfares would sound and angels would sing..
NOTHING prepared me for the brutal reality that this wasn't the case.
I felt cheated and disappointed and somewhat angry that I had put in all the work to kick booze and I didn't feel any different, my life was NOT any better, and yes I wondered why I even bothered...what was the bloody point..you were meant to feel better..right?? It was meant to get better? Life was meant to change.....
It didn't except for...
My clear head in the mornings and the feel of clarity on waking...
No hangovers, headaches and sick tummy..
No flashbacks of things said and done and no cringe factor upon remembering.
The bedtime stories now told lovingly to my children instead of the excuses as to why I couldnt read them as I had to go and relax with first drink of the evening.
The money I have saved by not buying alcohol and smokes.
The compliments I have received telling me how well I look.
The feeling of freedom knowing that alcohol has no hold over me, I have broken free of its power and I am living independant of it.
The problems that are there are now being dealt with and not swept under the carpet in a drunken haze.
The little pieces of me that emerge day to day...new pieces of my personality that have been stifled by alcohol.
The feeling of LIVING and not just drifting along from day to day doing the same old thing and expecting different results.
The feeling of acomplishment, and getting to like myself again ( I am not at the loving myself bit yet but still working on it, we are all a work in progress)
The knowledge that, although I felt like a fish out of water the first few times I went out socially, it is slowly but surely getting much better and easier to handle and when I look around and see some of the antics going on , I feel blessed that I have made the decision not to be the ringleader any more.
The chance to FEEL........I mean really feel...all my emotions...without the crippling distorted illusion of alcohol..I can identify my feelings and deal with them accordingly.
And finally the realisation that my problems are still there, money worries still present, sadness, fear and confusion are with me on a regular basis...BUT I can deal with them now...feel them, understand them and know why I am feeling this way..instead of burying them or intensifying them with the help of alcohol.
In conclusion....life is not all sweetness and light, not the perfect world I did expect it to be..but it is a Utopia in comparison to the one I was existing in and for that I will be eternally grateful.
Oney xComment
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