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    #1

    I really need some support tonight!

    Hello all,

    Something horrible has happened in my family. My brother in law has been shot to death, leaving behind my sister and 4 children under the age of 9. It's all I can do not to get a bottle, but I don't wNt to. Please remind me why not. thank you.
    While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.
    Benjamin Franklin
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    #2
    I really need some support tonight!

    Shite NT.

    I'm so sorry to hear. Don't do it. Don't drink. It won't help you cope. It'll make far, far more worse. And you have to be there for your sister and family now.

    So sorry, really... Stay strong!!!
    AF since 15th March 2010

    The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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      #3
      I really need some support tonight!

      Holy crap, not tonight.
      Forget all thoughts about drinking tonight. Your sister and her kids need you in control NOW.
      It could be worse, I could be filing.
      AF since 7/7/2009

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        #4
        I really need some support tonight!

        Tonight,
        Johnny is right; your family needs you now. You will be no good to them if you are drinking. Drinking will not help anything - alcohol is trying to trick you, please dont let it. Fight this urge and AL will have less power over your thoughts.

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          #5
          I really need some support tonight!

          I've lost my brother in law two years ago. He was stabbed to death. Thank God there was no kids and wife. nevertheless tough. My story is in the my story section. not sure it'll help you. but check it if you want.

          Not drinking is what got not only me but my family through it. I supported them and prayed with them
          AF since 15th March 2010

          The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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            #6
            I really need some support tonight!

            NY,

            Your sister is going to need you big time....her kids are going to need their uncle.
            Drinking will just make this awful tragedy a million times harder to deal with in the long run.
            I am so so sorry about what has happend to your BIL...I cannot imagine what you are going thru right now...

            But drinking will not help. In your heart you know that.

            We are here for you...day or night, there will be someone here to talk to.

            Stay strong, you are going to have to be a rock for a while and it really is best to do that sober.
            "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

            AF 10th May 2010
            NF 12th May 2010

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              #7
              I really need some support tonight!

              Thank you all so much. My sister is in Arizona and I am in London. I'm just stunned.
              While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.
              Benjamin Franklin

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                #8
                I really need some support tonight!

                Wow. that's tough. She got family there?
                AF since 15th March 2010

                The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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                  #9
                  I really need some support tonight!

                  Yes, my parents are there as are her in laws. I will most likely be flying out soon. We were just there in April, trapped for 10 extra days by the ash cloud. Even more grateful for that extra time with him.
                  While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.
                  Benjamin Franklin

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                    #10
                    I really need some support tonight!

                    NT, very sorry to hear about this tragedy. You already know that drinking will not erase the event or your thoughts about it. Drinking would just make everything more complicated and you would pile on guilt and remorse to all the other emotions you are certainly feeling right now.

                    Stay sober. Your family needs you present.

                    DG
                    Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                    Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

                    One day at a time.

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                      #11
                      I really need some support tonight!

                      NT - This is devastating news but can you imagine how you would cope with it hungover and depressed or how you could possibly be of support to your sister in that state. YOU MUST NOT DRINK! NO situation EVER improved with AL, you have to stay strong and focused.

                      I see you have reached 2 months sober! That is absolutely fantastic, Im sure you already know all the benefits it brings, dont throw that away! There are plenty of us here in GMT so stay around tonight if you need to chat to someone. :l
                      "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                      AF - JAN 1st 2010
                      NF - May 1996

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                        #12
                        I really need some support tonight!

                        i really hope you'll manage to get out there. Stay strong. Please.
                        AF since 15th March 2010

                        The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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                          #13
                          I really need some support tonight!

                          NT, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss, particularly the way that your loss happened. I am sure you must be in shock! Thoughts of drinking are always our knee jerk reaction to overwhelming emotions, particularly when we are new to sobriety. But, you already know that drinking is not the answer for you. That is why you came here to talk to us, right?

                          Please take good care of yourself and then you will be able to care for your family. Lean on us, that is what we are here for.

                          xo Kate
                          A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes~Cinderella

                          AF 12/6/2007

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                            #14
                            I really need some support tonight!

                            Not Tonight - I am so sorry. Please stay close to the forum (even if it means all night or past AL sales time or whatever). Wanting a drink is (or was) default mode for all of us. You have had shocking news, and that would definitely be a trigger. As others have said, please stay strong. You have it in you, and someone is always here to listen and help you get past it. Take care.
                            ​​Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind ~ Bob Marley ~ Redemption Song

                            AUGUST 9, 2009

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                              #15
                              I really need some support tonight!

                              I am so sorry to hear this disturbing news NT. I have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!
                              Outside of a dog a book is mans best friend. Inside of a dog its too dark to read

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