Happy Fathers Day
Wow phil, that is one hulluva success story and I see the steps you have taken and the steps I am at.
I was drunk one morning when I went to be with my son shortly after we split up, she got a restriction order on me and stopped me from seeing my son because she was worried for him.
6 Months later with a lot of work under the belt I finally get to see him again, not only because I am sober but because she sees the steps I have taken to get to the point where we are now, this includes counselling, alcohol specialists and psychotherapy, I am also not bombarding her with texts and messages any more which seemed to put the blame on her.
I too done this outside of courts, there is the argument of course that I could get better "access" by going through the courts but we would be bound by that for life, yesterday the meeting held promise that I will eventually have unrestricted access, weekends, holidays and so on, not next month or in 6 months time but eventually once she sees how much work I am putting into this.
I will stay sober, and I realized last night that I am far from the finish line, because when I got the news that I could see him my mind flashed thoughts of congratulating myself by having a few beers, sure I don't need to stop now that I have my reward. Lucky I didn't and realized it was a mind trick, but it goes to show that I have a lot of work to do.
I love your success story, I am going to copy and paste it and read it when I am feeling a little under the weather.
Wow phil, that is one hulluva success story and I see the steps you have taken and the steps I am at.
I was drunk one morning when I went to be with my son shortly after we split up, she got a restriction order on me and stopped me from seeing my son because she was worried for him.
6 Months later with a lot of work under the belt I finally get to see him again, not only because I am sober but because she sees the steps I have taken to get to the point where we are now, this includes counselling, alcohol specialists and psychotherapy, I am also not bombarding her with texts and messages any more which seemed to put the blame on her.
I too done this outside of courts, there is the argument of course that I could get better "access" by going through the courts but we would be bound by that for life, yesterday the meeting held promise that I will eventually have unrestricted access, weekends, holidays and so on, not next month or in 6 months time but eventually once she sees how much work I am putting into this.
I will stay sober, and I realized last night that I am far from the finish line, because when I got the news that I could see him my mind flashed thoughts of congratulating myself by having a few beers, sure I don't need to stop now that I have my reward. Lucky I didn't and realized it was a mind trick, but it goes to show that I have a lot of work to do.
I love your success story, I am going to copy and paste it and read it when I am feeling a little under the weather.
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