Army Thread 6th July

[mario]

Army Thread 6th July

ladyjan;904635 wrote: be very honest with you guys...
I am feeling the most like having a drink than I ever had in a long time...

why whats wrong jan,is everything ok

[one2many]

Army Thread 6th July

Awwhhh Janners, whats up babe?

[ladyjan]

Army Thread 6th July

just find it hard to settle down to having ollie at home...
qbviously I love having him home, and wouldn't have it anyother way..

but it is getting to show that I have lived alone for 20months..
and now to adjust to a 7yr old energy bomb...
plus he is testing his limits with me..
not on purpose badly, but I can see it....

[mario]

Army Thread 6th July

ok jan but by you drinking is not going to achive anything, only for ollie to be taken back of you

[ladyjan]

Army Thread 6th July

I was the psycologist on monday with Ollie as well and told him how Ollie is treating me like his friend not his mum..

[startingover]

Army Thread 6th July

ladyjan;904642 wrote: just find it hard to settle down to having ollie at home...
qbviously I love having him home, and wouldn't have it anyother way..

but it is getting to show that I have lived alone for 20months..
and now to adjust to a 7yr old energy bomb...
plus he is testing his limits with me..
not on purpose badly, but I can see it....

That must be absolutely natural to feel that way.
Is there anyone you can talk to for support?

[startingover]

Army Thread 6th July

ladyjan;904645 wrote: I was the psycologist on monday with Ollie as well and told him how Ollie is treating me like his friend not his mum..

I have no idea if this is right or anything
but do you think you might be trying too hard to make things up to him?

[mario]

Army Thread 6th July

jan i dont know much about rearing children, but i do know it will take both of you a while to find yourselfs,maybe you need some professional help there

[ladyjan]

Army Thread 6th July

mario;904644 wrote: ok jan but by you drinking is not going to achive anything, only for ollie to be taken back of you

yep I know, and it is the worst thing I could ever do..
and I don't want to..

but it's that f'ing feeling of..
"it's driving me crazy, I need a fucking drink"..

[startingover]

Army Thread 6th July

ladyjan;904651 wrote: yep I know, and it is the worst thing I could ever do..
and I don't want to..

but it's that f'ing feeling of..
"it's driving me crazy, I need a fucking drink"..

OK, now you got to put your all into staying away from it
Can you sleep?
Bath, book, walk anything????

[mario]

Army Thread 6th July

you dont need a fucking drink, you need to stay here and talk and get it out of you, this craving will pass jan

[startingover]

Army Thread 6th July

mario;904653 wrote: you dont need a fucking drink, you need to stay here and talk and get it out of you, this craving will pass jan

Well said!!

[one2many]

Army Thread 6th July

You are both adjusting hon.....he is gonna test you to the limit to see what he can get away with.

You are gonna have to lay down some ground rules and give him consequences when he does not abide by them and follow this through..otherwise you are not gonna have a leg to stand on.

Kids like boundries, makes them feel safe...even if they don't know they like them lol!

[ladyjan]

Army Thread 6th July

startingover;904647 wrote: I have no idea if this is right or anything
but do you think you might be trying too hard to make things up to him?

thats wot I was thinking today when it was at a limit..
I finally found something he didn't like and I had control of ..
I put his chair into the corner and made him sit there until he would sit and eat his dinner properly..

[one2many]

Army Thread 6th July

Jan, I get it, I totally get it, I have 5 running around here every day and some days it gets too much....it can be very hard...but believe me, try doin it with a hangover, now thats imposible.