The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

[mama bear]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

this is gonna be fun.........

[sick of being sick]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Sounds like everyone is having a great day. It's amazing what I have learned in my struggle in the last few days. I had pretty much shut hubby out of my life and focused all of my attention on the computer. Then God really got my attention when my internet and phone went out. I've been spending more time with him and it is horrible. He wants to sit in the den and watch TV all day and start drinking around 3 and go to bed around 7! Even though I am suppose to keep my legs elevated 50% of the day, I can't stand to be still! There's always so much to do, my mind races all the time. Anyways, I got me a cassette player with headset and now I can listen to some sermons while I clean or sit with him. Anyway, I learned that there has to be balance in my life and I need to spend more time with him and more time cleaning. I worked so hard Monday to prove myself, that my legs and feet were so swelled and in so much pain, I could barely walk and today is not much better, but I have made the time to read this new book, something I never do anymore! I'm learning how to deal with all of life's ups and downs without being drunk and it feels pretty great! I hope somebody buys this book, it is awesome! Anyways, thank all of you for always being there through all my trials and failures. I love you all so much! Vicki

[bird]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Hi all
Yes Pan please come. That would be so exciting. And hey, I have lived here on and off since 1978 and still don't understand the accent hahaha. Spent most of the day ar state park and walk walk walk then rode bike all ove and had a picnic. Now heel hurts but thats ok. Glad you are sounding better Vick and MB back on the wagon now. T hope your tum is getting better, IAD have fun shopping with mom. Gotta straighten up house before kids get home...bird

[mama bear]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

vick...sorry that you are having a tough time of it...my hubs and i would kill each other if we were home all day together...

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Yes, I'm not looking forward to Hubs retirement. We'll have to set some ground rules straight off!
But Vick, killing yourself is NOT the answer. You also need to set some ground rules. Spend from 3-7 with him, then come to chat around 9 PM. I check in off and on during the day as I work. And you need to set your rules for Vicki time. It's certainly as important as his drinking time!
Work 1/2 and hour, sit half an hour. Or you'll end up in worse shape than you are now.

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Vicki - did you even read my post from yesterday? please go back and read it - I care about you!! back in a few - hubs is around but I will post again!!

sun xx

[tlrgs]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

rubywillow;938757 wrote: Yes, I'm not looking forward to Hubs retirement. We'll have to set some ground rules straight off!
But Vick, killing yourself is NOT the answer. You also need to set some ground rules. Spend from 3-7 with him, then come to chat around 9 PM. I check in off and on during the day as I work. And you need to set your rules for Vicki time. It's certainly as important as his drinking time!
Work 1/2 and hour, sit half an hour. Or you'll end up in worse shape than you are now.

YEP VICKY I HAVE TO AGREE WITH RUBY

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Okay - now I feel mean. Vicki - you have to take care of YOU FIRST! On an aeroplane, you must put the childrens oxygen mask on first. This is the same thing. YOU come first. No more going on at you and I am sorry - I didn't mean to be mean. Please accept my apologies.

Okay - I am here. Haven't been here all day. Was not able to get on first thing. Early shift and too much to do before work. Now I don't know what to say. I feel sort of tongue tied. I am too new here to say stuff like that.

Ruby - Hubs is mumbling about retiring and I told him that if he does, I am going to send him up to Hardees where all the older men meet - he has to walk up there (90 mins) then sit and chat (2 hours) then walk back (90 mins) then he has to get a part time job for the rest of the day. Figure that should work.

MB - as far as the drinking - I am STILL waiting for the Topa to kick in so can't say anything. (hanging my head in shame). Gosh am I ever not having a good post! Maybe I should not have started here today.

Bummer. Bummer. Bummer. Life really doesn't work the way you want it to sometimes.

Hugs anyway to all of you,

Sun xx

[tlrgs]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

HANG IN THERE SUNSHINE .. WHEN IT COMES TO RECOVERY WE ARE ALL NEW TO THIS .. yes even with all the time i have in af there always something learning reading or a diffrent way to this or thats .. but as for any pills that is on the market .. to tell you the truth nothing will help unless you are truely ready to commit to what you really want in life ...

[sick of being sick]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Sunshine, I did read and reread your posts and I feel like I have misled you guys. Paul is not the one pushing me so hard, it's ME! I set high goals everyday of things I need to do and I work hard but never get it all done, so it gets added to the next day's full list. I know why I'm like this, because I had to work so hard to receive my parents love and approval and so that's just what I do. I'm trying to change. I do understand him getting mad because I did let the house go, and I spent all my time on the computer or either telling him all about my wonderful friends. He felt left out of my life. I do not want to drive him away so I have to do things he enjoys, like today we set out on the deck because it was so cool and I woulda really enjoyed it but I had to listen to his constant loud stereo he has outside with hard rock jamming, which I hate. But just listening to me complain, makes me realize I am the whole problem! Ruby, you sound EXACTLY like my doctor! Roger, hope you're feeling better. I love you guys for caring so much about me! Now where is grateful, tony, biz and everybody today? Hope everyone has a good evening. I'm looking forward to him going to sleep so I can sit in a quiet room and read my book! Love you guys, Vicki

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

But Vicki - there has to be a happy medium - why do I feel as if I am digging a deeper hole here? I will stop while I am ahead. LOVE YOU ALL

Sun X

[bird]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Well I think your posts are fine sun. We are here trying to help one another after all. I wish my posts were more helpful..it is good to read lots of books and try different things to practice being sober I think. I have to practice my instrument like crazy to get better and I guess booze is the same for alot of us. Sooner or later we get it.

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Vick, you may be PART of the problem, but you're not the WHOLE problem. It takes 2 for whatever, and to make it work, it takes 2. One person CANNOT pull the whole load. You know I've told you Hubs is jealous of this place too, and I make sure I make time for him, and give him my full attention then. I expect the same from him. But it's like the time someone asked him what he thought about me paying so much attention to my dogs, and he told them "I'm a smart man. I'll never make her choose between them and me, because even if I win, I lose."
I'm serious as a heartattack about you taking care of yourself. I know what your condition can lead to. So, you straighten up and fly right, or I'll be on your doorstep, with MB, and we'll clean your clock, lady! :H
And Sunny, you're saying things out of louvr that need to be said. No apologies!

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Great post, Bird.
Did you see the links I posted today? Smithgall Woods has a festival that weekend, for just a parking fee, and they will have old time music being played.
T, are my pics making you get the urge to come??

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for august

Hey Rubes - I will come too!!!!!!!