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    #76
    Army Thread 22nd August 2010

    Zenners dealing with right here this minute, you know that the AL doesn't help, it might block it out for a while but it won't make it go away and will only make you feel more depressed. Get a few days AF and you will be able to cope easier but I agree with Start that you need to speak to a professional
    "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
    AF - JAN 1st 2010
    NF - May 1996

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      #77
      Army Thread 22nd August 2010

      If speaking to your Mum keeps raking this all up it's best you put some distance between you for a while
      "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
      AF - JAN 1st 2010
      NF - May 1996

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        #78
        Army Thread 22nd August 2010

        OK, this is what I have learned.
        The only person we can take responsibility for is ourselves. Thoughts, feelings, actions.
        There is no way on this earth u can change your mother from the person she is. You might just have to accept that she is a bad mother, a bad person and let her be her own way.
        You might need another counsellor too.
        Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
        Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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          #79
          Army Thread 22nd August 2010

          Zenny I am going out in ten mins but will be back later. You know we are all here for you.
          Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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            #80
            Army Thread 22nd August 2010

            Are you drinking now Zenny?
            Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
            Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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              #81
              Army Thread 22nd August 2010

              Zenners, I can identify a little bit, I was neglected and left home alone from age 3, a lot of psycological and some physical abuse but no sexual abuse. I understand the anger and the hurt and the downright desperation of being a child carrying a burden.

              I think sexual abuse does run much deeper, I also think that it needs to be addressed....if you did not like the last counsellor, find a new one......you HAVE to deal with this, no matter how hard it is....otherwise you will carry it like an open wound for the rest of your life, it will destroy you.

              Keep yer distance from your mother......right now speaking to her is not helping you, you cannot "fix" her no more than she can "fix" you.

              She is what she is and you need to work on yourself.....

              Time to start healing.
              "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

              AF 10th May 2010
              NF 12th May 2010

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                #82
                Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                Zenny - Starts is right, you Mums deal is her deal and if she is going to lie about it you can't change that. You need to put her aside and deal with healing you
                "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                AF - JAN 1st 2010
                NF - May 1996

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                  #83
                  Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                  Zenstyle;941136 wrote: And I feel so guilty Oners. It's my time to start taking care of her.

                  Man...
                  Nooooooo, not at the expense of yourself!!!!!!!!
                  Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                  Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                    #84
                    Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                    Zenny could you take care of her without destroying yourself?
                    "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
                    AF - JAN 1st 2010
                    NF - May 1996

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                      #85
                      Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                      Zenstyle;941136 wrote: And I feel so guilty Oners. It's my time to start taking care of her.

                      Man...
                      You cannot take care of anyone if you are broken Zenners, you need to work on you before you take on the roll of caregiver...

                      It is not a selfish thing..it is necessary.
                      "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                      AF 10th May 2010
                      NF 12th May 2010

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                        #86
                        Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                        Peeps, Zen has a very strong love for her mother. You need to remember that.

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                          #87
                          Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                          What are you feeling guilty about Z?

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                            #88
                            Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                            Is that you Pan?
                            "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                            AF 10th May 2010
                            NF 12th May 2010

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                              #89
                              Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                              opan;941141 wrote: Peeps, Zen has a very strong love for her mother. You need to remember that.
                              Yes, I think we do realise that Opan.
                              Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                              Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                                #90
                                Army Thread 22nd August 2010

                                Oh great just what we need PAN back to stir everyone up.
                                Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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