Army Thread 31st August

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Army Thread 31st August

Whats up hun?

[Chillgirl]

Army Thread 31st August

Hey JC im so sorry you are feeling depressed, here's one back :l

I just had a flying visit from my ex, because things are so bad financially he brought me round some cash to tide me over. He looked a mess, had been drinking heavily again yesterday. He gave me such a nice hug and now im a so sad :upset:

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Army Thread 31st August

It is very sad when we cant help people we care about to see the light but as you know nobody is going to change unless they decide it is their time. All you can do if be there for him. Sorry you are feeling low.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread 31st August

Not to worry, Chill. I've got pills for it.

Don't know what to say about your ex, sweetheart, I can only imagine how you feel

[Rusty]

Army Thread 31st August

Hi Everybody!

JC-hope you feel better soon! :l

Chill-here are two hug for the ones you gave me the other day:l:l Your ex sounds like he's really miserable but it was kind of him to give you a little cash to tie you over.

[Chillgirl]

Army Thread 31st August

he is trying so hard to work through the finanical mess and he supports me, his Mum and his girlfriends children. I just feel so sorry for him and I can see why he is drinking so much but I also know how much better he'd cope AF. The only business he is making any money at is his bar, hence being able to give me the cash. I just wish I could help him and there was a moment when we exchanged a look that touch me so deeply and he felt it too cause then he hugged me... Damn this is so hard.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread 31st August

Hi Rusty,

Does he know he has a problem with alcohol, Chill?

[tiptronic_ct]

Army Thread 31st August

Chillgirl;948021 wrote: he is trying so hard to work through the finanical mess and he supports me, his Mum and his girlfriends children. I just feel so sorry for him and I can see why he is drinking so much but I also know how much better he'd cope AF. The only business he is making any money at is his bar, hence being able to give me the cash. I just wish I could help him and there was a moment when we exchanged a look that touch me so deeply and he felt it too cause then he hugged me... Damn this is so hard.

:l:l:l

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread 31st August

I'm gonna have to disappear for a bit. I'll be back
Chill, hang in there, lamb:l

[Chillgirl]

Army Thread 31st August

thanks you Guys,
i just needed to vent, i feel we have made such a f**king mess of our lives when we had the opportunity for it to be so good :upset: At the same time I practice through my spirituality that the pain is neccessary for us to learn and I need to see what im being taught here and deal with it or it will keep coming back. I just love him so much and want to fix him.

JC - he knows underneath he has a AL problem, I confessed all to him after id quit for a month and he said then that he'd often thought about going to AA and he was in awe of me for managing to stop. He's a big socialiser and owning a bar for the last year has made it 10 times worse.

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Army Thread 31st August

Hi Rusty & Tip.
Chilli its a nightmare for so many the way the economy has turned around, leaving many people in dire straights. Personally I have been in financial trouble for some time now as is well documented. Fell into a bottle a couple of time for the escape but the problem is still there along with a hangover the next morning. Owning a bar for us would be dynamite. Hard to know what to say or advise that you dont already know. Just be there for him is all you can do really unless there is concrete action you can take?

[spuddleduck]

Army Thread 31st August

morning all and happy birthday starts, make it a good one if you can. jc, i hope you feel better soon and get a big fat smile on your face.
i was so busy yesterday that i didnt even make it onto mwo. up at the crack of dawn... really, well almost, to do a car boot sale, sold a few bits n bobs then promptly spent the money on some more crap to fill up my cupboards, stuff i really really need of course. then i went to the local racecourse to gamble away me hard earned cash (?2 a go, i could never be a gambler) .take in to account the burgers, ice cream, ghost train rides and trying to win various cuddly toys i think the day emptied me pockets, but it was great fun.

[one2many]

Army Thread 31st August

Awwhhh Chilly,

That is such a hard situation hon, seems like your ex still cares a great deal about you. It is ok to feel sad...it is a sad situation. I got this in my inbox this morn..




Tears How wonderful it feels to give in and let tears flow when we are overwhelmed with emotions, whether we are happy or sad. Tears come from the soul, from our well of feelings rising from deep down. When we give in to the prickling behind our eyes and the lump in our throat to let teardrops fall from our eyes, we allow our feelings to surface so they can be set free.

Proud parents shed tears of pride in a child's accomplishments, a baby's first step, birthdays, and graduations. Long lost friends fall into each other's arms, tears rolling down their cheeks when they reunite after years of separation. Tears may flow from us when we are witness to a commitment being made at a wedding or even while we are watching a love story. Tears of relief may spring forth from our eyes when we hear that a loved one has survived an ordeal, and tears may fall when we bow our head in sorrow over a loss or death. Tears born from heartache can flow like they'll never cease, whether our tears are for a love that is over, a friendship lost, or an opportunity missed. We shed tears because of disappointment in ourselves, tragedy in the world, pain, and illness. Tears of anger can burn with emotion as they fall down our faces. Tears offer us a physical release of our feelings.

Shedding tears can sometimes make us feel better, although it can feel like the tears will never end once the floodgates are open. There is no shame in letting tears flow freely and frequently. Tears are as natural to us as is breathing. There is beauty in allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to shed tears. Open up, release your tears, and let your feelings flow.

DailyOm.com

[Chillgirl]

Army Thread 31st August

Thanks Oney - Thats a beautiful text on tears, mine seem to flow much easier now im AF, I think for so long I blocked out my real feelings and now they're on the surface. I guess thats what being alive is all about...

I just had a long chat and cry with my Mum, we came to the conclusion I at least have to try and get through to him about his drinking so I will arrange a meeting with him and leave aside all our other issues. I will let him know that I want to help and that I will be here whenever he wants. The sad part is that I know he still loves me, but we made this big mess and now we cant undo it. He has taken on his girlfriends two kids and because I know what a decent guy he is he will not walk out on them. I could easier come to terms with it all if I thought he was happy but he is so obviously miserable.

[one2many]

Army Thread 31st August

Chill, maybe he does just need someone he trusts to talk to. get it out in the open, be honest and get support from someone who understands.

Something is telling me that he is ready to listen and he may be ope to help.

I very much hope so xxxx