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    I've dealt with multiple deaths this year, in 8 months. Two beloved elderly aunts, one uncle who was closerthanthis to my late Daddy. Three friends who were deeply involved in denial and alcohol.
    Today, minutes ago, I found out that the brother of my oldest friend, who I grew up with, shot and killed his wife, just outside Houston Texas, and his grown son was shot twice by him, and forced to shoot back, in an attempt to save his mother and himself. He shot and killed his father, and finally jumped through a window in order to save himself.
    This is someone I've slept under the same roof with for more than 50 years. Whose sister was once my closest, first friend. As a child, I knew there were serious problems, but what do you do? I hoped he had found peace. Instead, he found mayhem and death.
    Two families have been again condemned to a living hell. The parents were as close to me in ways as my own. I was sleeping in their home when I learned my own house had burned to the ground, and we lost everything.
    He was always a sweet, shy, reluctant to share person. Not graced with a good personality, considered ugly, made fun of, his life has ended. But not the suffering that follows. There is no way I condone his behavior. But it began a half century ago.
    What does it take us to understand how our actions affect others? I know more about the family than I want to. They condemned drinking, yet it was there, hidden. He was condemned on so many levels, and now the remainders of his family are condemned.
    I have two other relatives who are hanging on, victims again of AL, as well as a friend I met here. They will never recover. Not being dramatic, but true. I am older, have seen more. What can I do to make you who are younger understand how important it is to see how your actions affect others? Alcohol = death. That's it.
    Man, ex-wife dead after shootout in Manvel home | abc13.com
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    so sorry for all you and yours have been thru, Ruby. :l:l:l
    :boxer: Get the hell out of my house, Al, you worthless bastard!!

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      Thank, you DH. I've missed you!
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        Ruby,
        I'm very sorry for all that has happened. Tragedy seems easier when it's unavoidable, and when it doesn't, it's just madness.

        I was just looking back at my (1984) Senior HS yearbook and was fixed on a picture of a boy who was slow, ugly, and we were all bastards for how we treated him. Not overtly, we would be cruel and he wouldn't even know it. I've talked to my kids about these things but the lesson needs to be reminded.

        ALL PEOPLE DESERVE DIGNITY!

        I wish I had something...significant....to say to ease some pain, but I will right now say a prayer for all involved.

        Stay strong,
        Symbols!

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          Sad....so very sad.
          "Be still and know that I am God"

          Psalm 46:10

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            Cha.. Cha....Canges....! Your in my thoughts and prayers..... Tony
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              That is so horrible Rubes. You and yours will be in thoughts and prayers!
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                How perfectly awful.

                Weird isn't it Ruby ?
                The ONLY thing we can count on in life is change.
                If your 8 year old self met you, would they be proud?
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                  Thank you all. I live in a huge communiity now, but when I was a child, we knew everything about everyone. I'm trying to figure the best way to show my sympathy to his parents, and friend. It won't be easy; they will only be embarrassed. (((sigh))) It is SO sad.
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                    I am soooo sorry Mimzey
                    I love my family more than alcohol.:h
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                      oooh Rubes that is just so awful, as they said in the news clip, wot is the point of a restraining order, it doesn't do anything..
                      that poor family, and you Rubes, you have been thru soo very many sad deaths in such a very short period of time recently my darling,
                      I wish I could reach and hold you, same as you do for soo many of us here...
                      :l:l:l:l:l:l

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                        Thank you, all. Jan, I'm so happy to see you weigh in here. Though the people I know in this case are on the husband's side of the tragedy, they called his wife to warn her he was coming for her. Yet nothing protected her. I can't believe in this world, officials can know a crime is imminent, but can't stop it. My heart goes ought to all - women, children, and YES, men who are faced with crazed individuals who only want their way, or revenge. There is a thin line between our emotions. I have no idea if Stan was using anything (al, drugs) but it doesn't matter. It ended, with lives destroyed. And the perpetrators ALWAYS have choices, but they choose to feel themselves the victims.
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                        awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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                          Ruby,

                          You have had more than your fair share, in all honesty I have never known anyone to have so many people die who are close to them. You really are a strong woman, so many would have given up whist faced with such adversity.
                          "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                          AF 10th May 2010
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                            Thank you, litlle one. It's the price we pay sometimes for casting a wide net in our friendship.
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                            awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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                              Rubes - my heart goes out to you - I am so sorry - what does one say - you go through SO much yet still have heart for others - I love you my friend!

                              Hugs to you, Sun xx
                              How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now and there will never be a time when it is not now....

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