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[K9Lover]

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Coco: You have the BEST avatars

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Yes she does.

[NoraC]

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I'm glad that you are back & posting RC! Also glad that you got rid of the wine.
Drink some water & feel lots better!!! :h :l

[rebirth]

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Hey RC, Glad you are back on track.:l

[dancelot]

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Hang in there, RC. :l :h Tai Chi sounds good. I find a memory of "yuck" thoughts very motivating myself. Wine = headache and nausea, the opposite of health and positivity.

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Hey Nora--lots of water and soup broth. I is sick now. Guess I deserved it. I read you were going through some kind of audit. Hope that goes well for you. You guys are really ripping it up at Dos Gatos.:H

Rebirth~~thanks for your kindness too. I've also respected you honest and kind posts.

Ms Dance! Tai chi has been good. It's a martial arts form that really focuses on containing energy as opposed to learning motions that are aesthetically pleasing to watch. That's what the instructor keeps saying anyways. She's 60 something with thighs of steel!

I received a really nasty pm from someone I have never interacted with besides while on my last escapade. Apparently they received many pm's saying to ignore me. Which would have been sage advice. I didn't think they would have recommended a vicious attack though especially from someone sober and of apparent sound mind. I will again apologize to anyone I have offended.

Peace to all. (It is not an easy thing to come by even sober--but sober I will be!)

[rubywillow]

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RC, of course I have no idea who you're talking about, but I've found NO excuse for any nasty messages to someone here. You know you're drunk, they know it. If they're not, they may not remember it, so what's the point. Seems I'm really laid back until someone pushes JUST the right button, while standing on one leg and whistling Dixie, then I go OFF the grid! Usually I end up regretting anything like that, so, again, what's the point in nastiness??
I'm sorry someone came after you. You know of course what your own ups and downs are. Being reminded is OK, we should know if we upset people. Coming here and being disruptive is not ok, but sometimes we can't control it. Then we should make apologies, not be flogged.
Let's all show respect here, in so many ways. Again, my fav saying, none of us got here by singing too loud in the choir. :huggy:

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I agree with you both Ruby and Zenstyle. This person was seeming to carry the torch on someone elses behalf though and hasn't revealed anything specifically that I said to hurt them. I have received no pm's from anyone else. I welcome anyone to be specific if I've hurt them so badly.

[rubywillow]

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RC, you and I spent a lot of time on chat when you were open that you'd been drinking. You were goofy, but not obnoxious like so many have been, not on the attack. Is it pleasant trying to talk to someone drunk - no. Because there is no way to be rational. But because of the nature of this site, it's gonna happen. If we've been here a while, feel good about ourselves and our journey, there is no reason to be nasty. Of course it's better to post only when sober, since when you talk to someone drunk, you're talking to the bottle. But just like the drunk dialing I used to do when I thought I was being so open and erudite, it happens. Let's all try in sobriety to do the right thing. For one, I've been punished mightily for what I did drunk. The day after is bad enough.

[KateH1]

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Hey RC, first of all, well done on getting rid of the rest of the wine!! I truly enjoy chatting with you when you have not been drinking! You are intelligent and creative and interesting. But, like so many of us, your personality completely changes after drinking. Perhaps not every time, but I have seen in several times. This is not a judgment. It takes one to know one! A big reason that I finally accepted that I could no longer drink was because of my complete personality change all too often when I drank. I finally accepted that drunk or not, I was responsible for my words and actions and the only way not to repeat the bad behavior was to Not Drink! Not an easy decision for sure! But, today I can tell you that I am far happier with less regret than during my drinking days!

Some time without AL will help you to sort things out for sure! It takes more than a few days or weeks or even months AF before our minds really begin to get clear, but each day is truly a step forward! I am here to support you in your AF journey!

Best Wishes!
Kate

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Katie I thank you for your jumping in with your support. I have enjoyed many chats with you as well.

Rubes, you know I love you!

I agree we are responsible for our bad behaviour drunk or not. I personally find sober bad behaviour even more offensive. But then again bad behaviour is a personal perception. The person has not responded to my query so it is time to move forward. I have enough stress on a daily basis as it is. And no, that is not a poor, woe is me plea.

Going to have a sober day, reflect on positives in my life, work hard and hope for the best!

[K9Lover]

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rubywillow;975020 wrote: Again, my fav saying, none of us got here by singing too loud in the choir. :huggy:

This is a great saying Ruby, I love it!

RC - I don't really know what, if anything happened, but what I DO know is that when I was drinking, my personality completely flipped. I was the ultimate Jekyll and Hyde. I think I can honestly say that if I didn't have SO many embarrassing drunk texting, emailing, calling, etc. incidents, I'm not sure that I would have quit drinking So whatever did or did not happen, please know that we love you for who you are, and I personally admire your tenacity in never giving up this fight.
Hang in there girlfriend :l
K9

[southernbelle47]

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RC.....I just saw this.
I'm so sorry that your weekend was rough.
You have always supported me and I do the same for you.
I'm very happy to hear that you pulled through and are back on track.
x0xBelle

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K9~Tenacity? Surely you jest? Thanks for noticing.:l

Oh Belle~~Thanks for popping into my very own thread. I do feel a special bond with you. We are here for the same reason, we love the Lord AND we have the same name! I hope that you will call on me when you need a friend. :h:l

I've been repeating "full circle" as my mantra for 10 years now and I feel like I need a new one now to move forward. I'm going to try "that's their reality" on for size for awhile. Hoping it will hold me in the present and focused on what I really need to do for me.

I contacted the author of a book on PAS that I just finished and she has directed me to a support group for people with similar experience. There is not alot of documented research on this situation let alone support groups. Hopefully I can seek and give valuable input with people who really understand. It will go along way to preserving my sanity.

Might be babbling to myself here but I'm feeling ok with that. :h

[Guitarista]

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Best wishes to ya RC! Rock on.....