I am not going to drink today.

[Sarasmiles]

I am not going to drink today.

It's a beautiful. cold autumn day and I am looking forward to getting out of work, making a healthy dinner for my family and then watching a movie with my kids. Instead of "treating myself" to a drink, I'm going to treat myself to cuddles with my kids, and maybe some popcorn or hot cocoa with homemade whipped cream.

[Choochie]

I am not going to drink today.

DG - I have been staying at home - I seem to be able to not drink when I am in total control here (day 19 AF). I work from home, so I intermingle that with cooking and all the other stuff that goes along with being home.

I am not looking forward to when I finally allow myself to be out and about in social/drinking settings. That will be my challenge.

[Guest]

I am not going to drink today.

I am not drinking today, and it's been hard. I even had to refuse to be expected to jump for work to do it.

[Doggygirl]

I am not going to drink today.

Wow - lots of great strategies mentioned here! And now I want mashed potatoes.

I decided I'm not drinking today. I see we already have a few people officially "in." Anyone else? How are you going to do it? Keeping busy works for me. And staying away from known triggers. I even did a little closet cleaning of sorts today (put away the last of the summer stuff).

I'll worry about tomorrow when it gets here. Today? No AL for this girl.

DG

[Miss Behaving]

I am not going to drink today.

We (Mr B and his son and me) have an unfinished game of "Risk" left over from last night. I'm usually the complete loser at this game but today I am in with a chance!!! Currently I control North America and Europe, but Mr B has huge numbers of troops in Asia and his son has Africa and South America. At one point last night I thought we might have declared world peace, but it was not to be :H

There is no way I could win this game if I had a drink :H:H World peace is at stake :H

[sapphire1]

I am not going to drink today.

I am going to get off here in about half hour, saddle up my dog, put some loud music through my headphones and stride off into the morning. Take a break in the park gazing at the magnificence of the place that I live in (blessed)....breathe in the crisp mountain/sea air and wonder at the perfection and stillness of the gum trees surrounding me. Then I will get stuck into some house-work, cook an indian curry with condiments for my son who turns 27 today...share that with the other sons for dinner today, where I sit at the table and quietly reflect on how this wasnt possible in days gone by when I was completley taken over mind body and spirit by alcohol.

[Doggygirl]

I am not going to drink today.

Sapphire, your home area sounds fabulous. Congratulations on your comittment to another sober day with so much life in it to enjoy!

MB - :lol: at your game! I wonder if Greenie knows you have control of the US. She is Queen you know. :H

Your posts made me think about my gratitude list. I keep a written list in the back of my calendar / planner thingy that goes with me everywhere. I think I'm going to whip that out and have a read and add some things. There really is so much to be enjoyed in life. All the little things I missed when all I cared about was the next drink. (before I was even finished with the one I was working on!! :egad

DG

[Doggygirl]

I am not going to drink today.

Sheri, that looks like another great book. I want to come hang out in your library!

I feel like I'm in sober school too. I love it. Stretching my mind in new directions for my life today without AL.

DG

[Miss Behaving]

I am not going to drink today.

Sheri;988167 wrote: Hi All,

I won't be drinking tonight either. I spent a few hours today in Barnes & Noble perusing some new books and came home with two, one of which I'm diving into tonight. It's called "Full Recovery: Creating a Personal Action Plan for Life Beyond Sobriety" by Brian McAlister, and I'm really enjoying it.

Like the sound of this book Sheri.. Particularly liked the "Life is not fair - be grateful" one! Of course, today I am in a mood to appreciate that turn of phrase. Much better than when I am in the "Life is not fair - use it as an excuse to drink" mood.

[papmom3]

I am not going to drink today.

Today: Took my dog for a walk after work; hopped onto MWO and caught up with everyone; worked on my blog; made a tapas type dinner (did you know that Blue Bunny chocolate covered ice cream bars are a type of tapas? Yep-and 4 is a serving :H)
Tomorrow: CLEAN THE FECKING HOUSE!!! then go to my sister's for dinner.
No time for AL in this papmom's life!!

:l

[ajaxdragon]

I am not going to drink today.

Hello everybody!

Hi, I have never posted before. I joined this group on behalf of my Girlfriend. She is a drinker that is out of control. I have been trying to gently get her to cut back consumption and she does for awhile but then goes back to it. She does not deny that she drinks too much but is in denial about the ill effects it has on her health and the damage it does to our relationship. I normally refuse to buy her any alcohol. Tonight she requested a bottle of wine and I got it for her. It was a 1.5 litre bottle. I gave it to her at 9:30 pm and I noticed at 11:30 pm she had drank 1 litre ie 2/3 of the bottle! She went to bed at that time. I have decided that I will tell her tomorrow that I will never buy liquor for her ever again. I now need help getting her to stop buying it herself and more importantly finding a strategy to get her to stop drinking entirely. I would greatly appreciate any advice you can give me. Thanks!

[ajaxdragon]

I am not going to drink today.

I forgot to mention....she has Fibromyalgia and often uses this as an excuse. Ie. pain medication not taking effect so the booze helps.

[Choochie]

I am not going to drink today.

Ajax - buy her the My Way Out Book and meditation tapes for abstaining. Get her to visit this site often if she will. Sounds like she may not be ready, though??

[Doggygirl]

I am not going to drink today.

Hello everyone! First off, just wanted to mention that I have made a firm decision that I will not drink any AL today. I can do anything for just one day. And if one day seems too long, I can break it down and just go hour by hour until it's bed time. "Forever" seems overwhelming, but I can handle not drinking just for today.

OK.

:welcome: Ajaxdragon. I love the links that Sheri already provided. While there is nothing you can do to "make" someone else stop drinking, there are things you can do to stop enabling. Not buying the booze any more would be a good start I think.

I also like the suggestion of attending a couple of Alanon meetings to see if that night be a helpful resource for you. As with AA meetings (which I attend regularly) I understand that all Alanon groups are a little different depending on who attends. That's why I suggest going to more than one to really check it out if you decide to give that a go.

Nobody could have "made" me stop until I was ready.

I'm ready. No AL today.

MB - are you the new Queen of the World yet?

DG

[rubywillow]

I am not going to drink today.

Sheri, SunshineDaisies is looking for your post about 'myths about drinking'. Can you bring it up for her? Thanks love.