what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

[tlrgs]

what are your pro's and con's to you drinking ????... a freind need some help thinking of his pro's and con's of drinking and this will give him some idea's and what HAS change in your life now that you have no AL IN YOUR LIFE and how do you stay busy
thank you and have a great day

[doubter]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

few pros, lots of cons

Hi Roger!
Best wishes to all.
This is a great question to reflect upon after this good stretch of sobriety for me. Of course, the benefits far outweigh the negatives.
For me, one of the biggest benefits has been the reclamation of time and energy. Time to rediscover my long forgotten interests. Energy to work on hobbies.

Still, there is one minor drawback of sobriety that I still am coming to terms with. The easy camaraderie with my drinking buddies which I used to share while drinking is missing now during my continuing sobriety.

But the trade-off in benefits have been more than worth it.

[rubywillow]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Pros: Being invited to family's parties where they all get sloshed

Cons: Being invited to family's parties where WE all got sloshed
DUI, humilition, huge cost
Destroying body
Losing respect of loved ones
Losing trust of loved ones
Losing time, energy, enjoyment
Losing my mind
Its really endless, but as Sheri said, really why do we want to look for a reason to justify something so poisonous, self-destructive? Good exercise for him, though.

[TrappedDad]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

I am the friend Roger is talking about here. I am really struggling with my homework assignment. I need to make a list of Pros and Cons about drinking. My list is small right now, but I am thinking about writing my story later this afternoon in an effort to remember what 20 years of drinking has done for me, the people around me and if continued, what my life might look like 20 years from now (if I make it that long). I think that I lie to myself alot about my past regrets and force myself not to remember the bad times. Maybe it's time I faced my demons? What do ya'll think?

[one2many]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Pro.......I numb out
Con.... Until it wears off.

Pro...I drink to forget
Con..I remember once Sober and it hurts twice as much so I drink some more..

Pro..I laugh and be merry
Con... Until the laugh is on me and I act stupid.

Pro...I can enjoy a really good wine
Con...Until I throw up

Pro...I loosen up
Con.. I fall.

Pro....I gain confidence
Con....I become obnoxious

Pro...I enjoy a good night with friends
Con..I don't remember it.

Pro...It makes my children laugh to see me acting silly
Con...It frightens them when I pass out

Pro....Nothing matters when I am drinking
Con....Drinking has taken over my life.

Pro..I become "The Funny Guy"
Con...I become "That arsehole that drinks too much"

Pro...It is an acceptable form of relaxation
Con...My speech is slurred.

Pro...I am in control
Con...Until it all goes bad

Pro..I know when I have enough
Con..But I keep going anyway.

[rubywillow]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

We first have to be honest with ourselves. Like you've already seen, your the only one you're fooling.
Another exercise I was given was to write a farewell letter to alcohol. Read it aloud to someone. Then take it somewhere and burn it. May sound a little silly, but it's the activity, and really putting your heart in it, that is releasing, in a way. You're doing a great job trap, just by coming back here, asking for help. Other good people here have noticed too. :huggy

[Choochie]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

PROS AND CONS OF ALCOHOL

I like Oney's format:

Pro: Overcoming shyness and inhibitions
Con: Saying something I regret that really wasn't me at all

Pro: Feeling relaxed and carefree
Con: Paying the price for this extremely short-term phenomenon and being miserable the next day with a hangover that took until noon or later to overcome

Pro: Thought it made me sleep easily but kept waking up at 3:00 a.m. anxiety ridden unable to go back to sleep
Con: Sleep is a whole new world now - fall easily, sleep soundly, can go back to sleep if awakened, wake up feeling refreshed and happy instead of ill

Con: Stopped developing and pursuing anything outside of planning my drinking for the day
Con: Became stressed, edgy and argumentative if I had too much
Con: Increasingly unable to control how much
Con: Being disappointed in myself because I could not control how much
Con: Constant battle within myself - in the morning I swore off; by 5pm I justified going back
Con: The torment of trying a new way to moderate for several years - changed types of al, changed time of day when I drank, and on and on and on and on
Con: Feeling like I could not live without al only to find it's light years better without it
Con: Feeling like I could not go to a social event without being partly drunk
Con: Worried about getting a DUI or having a wreck
Con: Constant worry about health effects because it's tied to so many that are detrimental, including cancer

Out of time but I could go on.......................................


So, BOTTOM LINE - EVEN THE PERCEIVED POSITIVES OF AL ARE IN FACT NEGATIVES!!

[tiptronic_ct]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

What Oney said. Good post :l:l:l

[expat3]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Choochie-Thank you for writing my post for me, haha! That is SO me! Except for fear of a DUI or wreck-- cuz I don't drive .

[Choochie]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Expat - isn't it amazing how our experiences and thought processes are so similar! I think it's great because it makes me feel less crazy!!:nutso:

[havefaith]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

This is really Interesting......
I was just reading this thread to my Husband(who is a normie)
This was his response- A normal drinker would probably not have all of these so called CONS!
They don't experience, the DUI'S, Blackouts, Throwing Up ,Being Numb, Etc......
Alcholics tend to have that mindset, that if they are going to drink they are not going to just stop at one
(which is usually the case). That's why we should never even pick up at all!
I Thought I would share someone else's perspective....

[TrappedDad]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

ok, i'll give it a whirl...

If I quit drinking what would be the pros:
1. I could remember more and maybe wouldn't have to rely on Outlook and Task reminders to get me through my life.
2. I would spend less money, and have more to spend on my kids or charity or building Roger a new website cause his needs some serious help!
3. I could spend the evenings writing that book that I have always wanted to, but never could.
4. My wife might actually want to have sex more often...I think I'm sexy when I'm drinking but maybe she doesn't...I'm just sayin...
5. I could spend more time in the back yard with my son Trevor helping him with his soccer game
6. I would stop renting the same movies over and over again because i would actually remember one for once.
7. My liver would actually start to heal, I would take that foot out of the grave and maybe, just maybe I would live to see my grandchildren.
8. I would actually get the nerve to start the business consulting venture that I know I need to, but never had the time to plan and execute.
9. I could make it to all my kid's functions and actually remember being there and what happened.
10. And finally, I would be able to sleep, really sleep for the first time in 20 plus years.

If I quit drinking what would be the cons:
1. um...
2. well...
3. ok, I got one, I would miss the taste of good wine.
4. so...
5. but then there's...
6. yea...
7. drawing blanks here guys...

ok, so there really aren't any cons are there?

[rubywillow]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Good job, Trap. Well done.

[Guitarista]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Welcome TDad.

Your self confidence, self esteem, and positive energy will sky rocket too! Very quickly.

There are NO negatives in being sober. Best wishes, and go for it!

[Choochie]

what are your pro's and con's for drinking????

Well put, Mr. G.