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**expat3** · October 30, 2010, 02:14 AM

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Happy Saturday Army

, Looks like everybody has a lot going on today-Jan has her son coming home, Oney her fund raiser, KTAB hopefully getting to spend some relaxing time with his family, Starts keeping busy (but relaxing too!).... hopefully the rest of you will write in about your weekend plans. It's always fun to hear about what's going on all over.

**Chillgirl** · October 30, 2010, 02:14 AM

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Morning Starty darlin

In answer to you Q, I think it very much depends on each individual what works best. For some people molly coddling is the worst we can do and at the same time tough love can send them over the edge. It's a matter of balance, if the person really wants to change their circumstances love, support and encouragement may be all they need. If they aren't prepared to do the work then I think you can be tough and say that you can't help them until they are ready but when they are you will be there or them 100%.

Where the hell is everyone else today?

Jan - thinking of you this morning and wishing you a wonderful family time with Jamie....

**Chillgirl** · October 30, 2010, 02:17 AM

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Hi Expat x post

What you up to for today?

I have my parents staying with me and this is the last day, tomorrow they go into our timeshare apartment and I'm looking forward to getting my space back......

**expat3** · October 30, 2010, 02:22 AM

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Hi Chill! I was just sitting back trying to think of how to respond to Starts question--and you hit the nail on the head! It really does depend on the individual. For me it's a mix of both-too much of either makes me run. But I think each situation needs to be evaluated and see how the other person is responding to our help-and then move on from there. I am going through something similar with a dear friend from back home. I am really worried about him. I tried the soft approach because I know many other people have been using a REALLY hard tough love approach.

**JackieClaire** · October 30, 2010, 03:02 AM

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Morning Starts,Expat, Chill and all those yet to drop by.

Starts, I'm really gonna have to think on that one. Mr JC's used tough love and the softly softly approach. Neither of them worked until I was ready to open my eyes.

Jan, I'm so blooming excited for you.

Lynda, You know it's a charity very close to my heart since I lost my bezzie mate to breast cancer. So GOOD LUCK, darling

Right where's the rest of the motley crew

**jodiex** · October 30, 2010, 03:18 AM

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Morning all, woke up sober with my baby(9) in bed beside me

day 6 now,got another meeting last night.

My daughter wants to visit the library today so ill pick up a good book for myself too.

Have a good day everyone xx

**JackieClaire** · October 30, 2010, 03:25 AM

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Morning Jodie,
You are doing fantastic,lambie.:l

**startingover** · October 30, 2010, 03:32 AM

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Hi again folksies
Chilly you are absolutely right. Depends on the person and the situation.
JC, you too, I would never have done anything till I was ready.......
I just worry that I enable sometimes or desert someone who needs me.
Why is life so feckin hard sometimes

Jan, have a fabby one

Jodi, thats amazing girl, well done!!!

**Guest** · October 30, 2010, 03:57 AM

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hello all, im feeling great today! Going to get in my halloween shite for the kids that call and taking the kids to the dvd store to pick up their scary movies. Picked up one for me last night, 'the orphanage' and it was in feckin spanish subtitles, I was disgusted!!Dont do subtitles...bah!
On the up side im feeling very strong this time, ive seen how happy Oney, Fi and Chill are without the drink and I want that, never felt as strong, my overall feeling is that I just hate drink!
Zak came home last night, just after myself and partner had a big row over him, one that culminated in my smashing the phone to bits...He will never ever understand how much I love him , he cant see past how much he cant stand him so unfortunaly he is not going to be much use to me when im upset over Zak, even told me I fucked him up ! I will have to rise above it tho, cos besides when it comes to Zak, hes ok.

**startingover** · October 30, 2010, 03:59 AM

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Jaysus Limey, you have got a lot on your platter.
I feckin LOVE your attitude tho.
And you are right, life truly is better sober.....no matter what is going on.

**Guest** · October 30, 2010, 04:00 AM

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Starts, just do whatever YOU think is right and dont be listening to the like of me. Your a lovely special person.
Jan, enjoy today, im happy for you all.
Jodie, thats what its all about isnt it,waking up sober and safe with child.Have a lovely day.
Expat and Jc...hiya!

**jodiex** · October 30, 2010, 04:01 AM

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hi limers,so glad Zak is home

dont worry about you and your partner you will sort that out.. im gonna do the same as you today,library visit and the the halloween shite in. might see you in tesco lolxx

**startingover** · October 30, 2010, 04:01 AM

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limers;992868 wrote: Starts, just do whatever YOU think is right and dont be listening to the like of me. Your a lovely special person.
Jan, enjoy today, im happy for you all.
Jodie, thats what its all about isnt it,waking up sober and safe with child.Have a lovely day.
Expat and Jc...hiya!

I listen to you cos you are wise, and cos you are my friend. So there :l

**Guest** · October 30, 2010, 04:03 AM

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startingover;992871 wrote: I listen to you cos you are wise, and cos you are my friend. So there :l

ah thx :l

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