Today is Day ONE!????

[paguy]

Today is Day ONE!????

Hey Zach - Congratulations on making it through Day 1! This is the beginning and keep reminding yourself how good you feel this morning - it will help you in upcoming days when you feel challenged. Stay focused and committed - You CAN do this. Nice job!!

[tlrgs]

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TrappedDad;998019 wrote: I have made it past day one!!! It is 652 am EST. I feel no guilt. No shame. I'm cozy in my bed. The kids are still asleep and ya know what? I am 70% sure that I can do this again today.

awesome buddy i have 120% FAITH IN YOU ... in with ya inspirit ...

[Doggygirl]

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TrappedDad;997787 wrote: Here comes the good part. We are in the bath and my 4 year old asks me if he can have a sip of my drink, and for the first time EVER, I tell him YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I almost cried! Seriously, it was the best feeling I have had in a long time.


Hi Trapped Dad! Congratulations on making it through Day 1! I love this - it gave me chills. One of the things I do as a tool to help me stay sober (and sane!) is keep a written gratitude list. I take it out often and read it when I need to change my mind set (i.e. if I'm feeling sorry for myself or deprived of AL or anything in life). I need that reminder about what is good in my life, and all my good reasons to stay sober and appreciative. I try to add to that list often and keep it fresh and long.

TrappedDad;998019 wrote: I have made it past day one!!! It is 652 am EST. I feel no guilt. No shame. I'm cozy in my bed. The kids are still asleep and ya know what? I am 70% sure that I can do this again today.

I suggest making a FIRM 100% decision that you will not drink today. Just for today. Otherwise the door is open for AL. You can get through anything for one day. You didn't die from being AF yesterday. Your world was actually GOOD, right? I suggest making a promise to yourself that you will not break - at least not for today.

Strength and hope to you!

DG

[Choochie]

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TD - Excellent on your accomplishment. If you can keep going you will see that it does get easier and you will ultimately feel like you are only better off and not missing out on anything by giving up alcohol. I know it doesn't sound possible this early on, but you really can get there.

I've posted this before and I'm sure it's also elsewhere on the website, but it's helpful to me to have a letter with me that I wrote when I first became sober. It would be a great adjunct to DG's gratitude list.

This letter lays out everything negative about my life with alcohol. I wrote in great detail every problem it caused for me. I keep it with me and read it if I ever feel the need.

Sending you peace and strength to hold on to your sobriety.

Choochie

[greeneyes]

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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

I heartily agree with the gratitude list! They physical act of writing it helps to solidify the positive thought pattern in you brain. (really) I also agree with the 100% part. Go ahead and make the promise!! Just for today - you CAN do it!

[TrappedDad]

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Day two. Usual Saturday triggers are after the daily kid activities end. Soccer is over, lunch is eaten and I am left with a variety of manly choices. I usually take the manly errand run choice. Hit the hardware store, stop off at the liquor store and grab any groceries needed for dinner that night.

Well today I need to change the routine. After soccer, I am taking the whole family for lunch then we will all go to the various stores together so that I won't have an opportunity to buy any alcohol.

Then I will drink a real coke with Trevor while he sits on my lap and helps me mow the lawn for the last time of the season. Then instead of spending most of the afternoon enjoying what I used to refer as harmless outside beers, I will drag my sorry but inside and help my wife with cleaning, doing laundry, or whatever else it is she does.

Then tonight. We own a Drop in Chilcare business, so Trevor, our 4 year old will go there, I will put the baby to bed early, cook my wife her favorite steak dinner and enjoy her company.

Aftrwards I will go pick up Trevor put him to bed and retire myself.

Anyway. That is my plan for today!

Over 20 years in the bottle and I am kickin ass on day two because of all the support of all you wonderful people!!

[sunshinedaisies]

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You go Zack! You have your plan - just keep checking in here when you need to. Stick to your plan - and take a Xanax (sp?) if the cravings get too bad! Great going!

Hugs to you,

Sun xxx

[tlrgs]

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TrappedDad;998080 wrote: Day two. Usual Saturday triggers are after the daily kid activities end. Soccer is over, lunch is eaten and I am left with a variety of manly choices. I usually take the manly errand run choice. Hit the hardware store, stop off at the liquor store and grab any groceries needed for dinner that night.

Well today I need to change the routine. After soccer, I am taking the whole family for lunch then we will all go to the various stores together so that I won't have an opportunity to buy any alcohol.

Then I will drink a real coke with Trevor while he sits on my lap and helps me mow the lawn for the last time of the season. Then instead of spending most of the afternoon enjoying what I used to refer as harmless outside beers, I will drag my sorry but inside and help my wife with cleaning, doing laundry, or whatever else it is she does.

Then tonight. We own a Drop in Chilcare business, so Trevor, our 4 year old will go there, I will put the baby to bed early, cook my wife her favorite steak dinner and enjoy her company.

Aftrwards I will go pick up Trevor put him to bed and retire myself.

Anyway. That is my plan for today!

Over 20 years in the bottle and I am kickin ass on day two because of all the support of all you wonderful people!!

AWESOME AWESOME SIMPLY AWESOME PLAN

[Choochie]

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TD - SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE DAY 2 UNDER CONTROL. SENDING YOU BEST WISHES AND STRENGTH.:l

[madmans]

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first thing i did zack was check this thread to see how you got on. if you can do one day you can 100% do two well done

[LVT25]

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greeneyes;997426 wrote: Yay dad!!!! Go for it!!

1) lemon water has a purpose - to help you body rid itself of toxins. Right now, drink what you'd like to drink - caffeine free preferably. I like seltzer water with a splash of cranberry juice and a squeeze of lime. Keep a glass of something in your hand to keep it busy.

2) in my opinion, xanax is not AL; AL free is AL free. Go for it if you need it, but don't use it as a replacement.

3) perhaps something different? something you don't associate with AL. A man-project like organizing your workbench sort of thing? Plan a weekend get-away? Solitaire, crossword puzzle? Mediation or yoga DVD? Rent movies you like.

Hope that helps some. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! IT'S ONLY FOR TODAY!!!

You already have some great advice from all of the posters above as well as Greeneyes. I would add that in my case, I was a beer drinker, and although it is a great idea to drink something healthy to replace the al--I drank Diet Pepsi in a can. Or, Club soda and lime in a nice glass, or tomato juice. (The wine drinkers like to put some cranberry juice in a wine glass). I sat down at the computer a lot, and for awhile couldn't do any of the things I used to do while drinking, which were a lot. Gardening, yard work, cleaning house, socializing, etc. etc. With time, it was hard, but I could do those things, without al, and every time I did, my brain was being trained to know that those things do not go together!

I hope this makes sense! Good for you for trying!!

[techie]

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TrappedDad;998080 wrote: Day two. Usual Saturday triggers are after the daily kid activities end. Soccer is over, lunch is eaten and I am left with a variety of manly choices. I usually take the manly errand run choice. Hit the hardware store, stop off at the liquor store and grab any groceries needed for dinner that night.

Well today I need to change the routine. After soccer, I am taking the whole family for lunch then we will all go to the various stores together so that I won't have an opportunity to buy any alcohol.

Then I will drink a real coke with Trevor while he sits on my lap and helps me mow the lawn for the last time of the season. Then instead of spending most of the afternoon enjoying what I used to refer as harmless outside beers, I will drag my sorry but inside and help my wife with cleaning, doing laundry, or whatever else it is she does.

Then tonight. We own a Drop in Chilcare business, so Trevor, our 4 year old will go there, I will put the baby to bed early, cook my wife her favorite steak dinner and enjoy her company.

Aftrwards I will go pick up Trevor put him to bed and retire myself.

Anyway. That is my plan for today!

Over 20 years in the bottle and I am kickin ass on day two because of all the support of all you wonderful people!!

GREAT plan. Stick to that and I'll see you on day 3 brother. Awesome focus and attitude. That's the ticket to success....Techie

[mistysmoma]

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I am new here and I just joined here to reply to TD. I have been lurking for a month now and AF for 3 weeks since coming here. I have been following your story and I am so glad you made it thru day one. I thought about you last night and came here to check the post first thing after work and was relieved to see all the good post. This morning I even checked on you before I checked my emails, news, etc. and I dont even know you , but I do feel the connection and can surely relate. First few days are difficult but it gets better and better..I know. I never thought after 30 plus years of AL that I could do this, and here I am. This site has been a godsend for me, and I am most grateful to all that post here, as you all inspire me to keep going. I will post my story soon in newbie thread, but I just had to make this my first to TD..Prayers and strength to you, and I hope you will continue to be strong. Only advice to you that has helped me..when the thought pops up to take a drink, just dismiss it immediately and replace with something positive and keep doing that, no matter how often. Onward and Upward my friend.

[gyco]

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mama bear;997656 wrote: give the xanax time honey...and dont take another one or you wont be able to drive....
PAY THE LATE FEE....call me on the way home if u need to

why because that is what we do,i thot i posted,earlier,why becuse you were in need of help ,b4 it gets worse,never forget your special,if not for people like you,beleive it or not i would not be the person i am today,and yes ,as onester said the other day,sometimes it is good to sirt back,and think about what your gonna say,we,get offended real easily,it is only cause of the state were in,maybe i didnt go far enuff in the posts,and maybe my earlier reply came up,notice the support you got ,here,only cause we care,i wish yyou well,you only have to do one day at a time and not worry about yesterday,it cant be changed,and tomorro aint here,
:goodjob::thanks:gyco

[Accountable for Me]

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Way to go, TD! You are kicking butt! So, very inspiring and I am so happy for you!