Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Thanks for your support Fancy and Sheri. I do really appreciate it.

Sleep>Believe>Learning Experience>Look Deeper

These are my messages from the Saints, Angels and Oracles to date. They are really speaking to me. One could call it hocus pocus. I try to quiet my mind into a meditative state of intent and openness before choosing my card. Reading back on this thread each day, pondering my daily reading and hope for a wonderful new beginning with my daughter continue to motivate me. xox

[dancelot]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Go Cedars!!!!! That's not hocus pocus. Connecting to and incorporating the higher self is a big part of making this work. The means of getting there is as individual as each of us.

If you're into reading about this stuff, a really great book recommended by Hippie37 is "The Wide Open Door"( subtitled "the Twelve Steps, Spiritual Tradition & the New Psychology," a Practical guide to the Mysteries, Joys, and Rewards of Continuing the Recovery Process"), by Tav Sparks. It talks about "connecting various spiritual philosophies such a Jungian psychology, the Tao, tribal rites of passage", etc (I'm quoting from the back cover). It's an easy enough read that I can follow it.

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

dancelot;1021122 wrote: It's an easy enough read that I can follow it.

I love you!!! That works for me too. I'll look it up on Amazon and hope there is a cheap copy out there. Thanks Dance!

[NoraC]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Hi RC - just dropping by to say HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!!!!:l:l

[betty boop]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

NoraC;1021136 wrote: Hi RC - just dropping by to say HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!!!!:l:l

Me too RC, I saw you over in the Army but wanted to posted my support here .......... You're doing great!!! :l:l

[dancelot]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Ringing Cedars;1021128 wrote: I love you!!! That works for me too. I'll look it up on Amazon and hope there is a cheap copy out there. Thanks Dance!

That's where I got mine - and it was cheap!

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

I have a dinner party tonight with the "Wine Club Girls". I didn't think it would be a problem. My closest friend will be there and knows I am going AF through the holidays and all the reasons why and completely supports me. The other girls are relatively new friends. The host is a fairly heavy drinker. My plan is to mix some perrier with cranberry cocktail and fresh lemon, have dinner and leave quite early as I have lots to do tomorrow. The close friend will be coming over to help with some cleaning and organizing. I still won't drink but my stomach is beginning to churn a bit in what I suspect is anxiety over the affair. If asked why I am not toasting with wine, I will clearly state that I am going AF over the holidays and that will likely be sufficient. So what is the problem??? I'll seek some insight in the cards before I go.

[Guitarista]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Good stuff RC. Leaving early is a great plan. I alway's made sure i had my own transport worked out so that i wouldn't get anxious and stressed waiting for someone else to be ready to go home, so there would be no room for error. Enjoy your night out! ;-)

[dancelot]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Even though it is a dinner, eat a little something before you go so you're not super hungry.

Do some type of meditation to clear your mind and spirit - this helps put you in a good place.

I put on my what I call my "Goddess Armor." Kind of stay centered and think of it as a place of power as well as peace. This is something I use as a confidence booster when I have to go into any stressful situation - like a bunch of people. Call on it when you need to. remind yourself you are the goddess, ain't no need to fear a mere mortal's question, should they dare ask. Amazingly (or not), heavy drinkers don't really notice or comment.

I had the occasion where I felt I needed to tell a friend (not a close one) I no longer drink (I'm going to a party at her house, and she was telling me all the stuff she had "which I'd really like" (that's just her personality). She ended up being more embarrassed than me. Stay strong, stay firm. "You are staying AF over the holidays." Spoken like a goddess!

I'll be putting mine on tonight too, remember that! We nomadic tribe folks gotta stick together - we didn't conquer all that stuff being wussies! - Amazon Goddess Dance

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Ok then. Just making a bite to eat and visualization of the Goddess of the Mighty Cedars. Have a blast Dance! And thanks All for the ideas, support and well wishes today!:l:l:l:l

[sunshinedaisies]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

RC - I will be with you in spirit tonight - you will be fine!!

Hugs, Sun xx

[tiptronic_ct]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

We're eagerly awaiting to hear how it went!

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

The gathering was fun. The host's daughter is 40 and has been clean from drugs and al for 3 years. Mother and daughter are quite the characters with hilarious story telling ability. Mother was a stripper in her prime and has known some famous musicians, politicians and spiritual gurus. Interesting stuff! No pressure whatsoever to drink. I must admit I did miss having a glass but it's not part of the program so no problem. I was home by 9:30. I don't have any other engagements (yet?) to fret about now.
How's that Tips?
Dance hope you had a fun evening too! Look forward to hearing how your night flowed?
Sunny~~thanks for popping in friend!

[sunshine_gg]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Wow.. the company you keep, RC! :H

Very happy to hear your evening was stress-free! I've actually found that in the past as well.. it was ME doing the fretting... nobody else really gave a hoot if or what I was drinking

Well, Goddess... have a great day - very proud of you!

[Ringing Cedars]

Ringing Cedars, your 30 AF days start here!!!

Hey it's my other Goddess friend Sunny! I'm blessed!

Yep, it was all me and for nothing. The things we do to ourselves. Damn ruminations!

I'm very proud of you as well Sunny! ((hugs))