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[Miss Behaving]

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my favourite story from the news this morning: a 90 year old Northland woman went out for a walk a couple of days ago in a bird sanctuary and didn't come home. Her family put out the alarm and Search and Rescue were brought in but they called off the search after 54 hours. Her grandsons found her a few hours later, up to her waist in a swamp, and badly sunburned. She managed to keep hold of her handbag, and when rescuers arrived, she said that she hoped she hadn't been too much trouble, and she wished that people weren't fussing so much. :H

We build 'em tough here!

[Mish]

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Miss Behaving;1037313 wrote: my favourite story from the news this morning: a 90 year old Northland woman went out for a walk a couple of days ago in a bird sanctuary and didn't come home. Her family put out the alarm and Search and Rescue were brought in but they called off the search after 54 hours. Her grandsons found her a few hours later, up to her waist in a swamp, and badly sunburned. She managed to keep hold of her handbag, and when rescuers arrived, she said that she hoped she hadn't been too much trouble, and she wished that people weren't fussing so much. :H

We build 'em tough here!

What a great little story, Missy. I love this type of news item. I can just picture her clinging to her purse to keep it out of the swampy water. What a darling hoping she hadn't been a bother!
News stories here are pretty heartbreaking with the floods over east and in Carnarvon. People losing everything! I almost feel guilty enjoying the beautiful weather here. My heart goes out to all the people dealing with the flooding.
Rags, I'm green with envy over your NY trip. Any room to spare in your suitcase? Are you going to meet up with Sarge as well?
Well, have a great day everyone.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Sanctuary......

Sanctuary......

My interstate ex drinking buddy arrived a day early yesterday, and what a 24 hours eye opener THAT has been...
I had already read her the riot act ahead of time re my own drinking, and that there is never going to be any mind changage about that. She is/was respectful of that, but it has become abundantly apparent that her own drinking disease has progressed exponentially.
Undies, I just can't believe what I'm looking at.
The last thing I want to do is judge, and God alone knows I have no right to.
I think what scares me shitless is the mirror of my own behaviour being held up before my eyes.
What an UGLY UGLY disease this is.
Don't worry about old Bridget folks, this has only served to make me INFINITESTIMALLY more determined never to go back there
I was hoping to slip away for shower night last night, but was too frightened to leave her alone in the house. It is like the worst and most undignified babysitting job imaginable.
I never want to be the 'one that others have to deal with' again.
In addition I am seeing it through my housemate's eyes, who is being great about it, laughing and making light, but there is a sad, pitying complicity between us, that I also never want to be the subject of again.
Conversations are going to have to be had. No sense now as she has only just gone to bed an hour ago. I was astonished to wake up this morning (having told her to 'get to bed' like a child at 2am) and find her in her underwear in the middle of a maelstrom of filth in the kitchen, having been up all night.
If I don't have a serious sit down and at LEAST register it with her, I will be guilty of enabling.
Anyway wish me luck.
My soul feels tired.

[Mish]

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Oh, Bridge, what a humiliating spectacle you've witnessed. It sounds ghastly. Knowing you have to have "The Chat" with her must be weighing heavily on your mind and I'm sending encouraging hugs via cyberspace.
It's hard to find anything positive to say about this situation, but I guess that you're outta that space now must reinforce the good choices and changes you've made.
Big loves.

[tawnyfrog]

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Oh GACK! Bridge, hideous situation. So when's the best time to have "The Chat"? When she wakes up in five or six or seven hours from now feeling like shit? Makes me sure glad I don't intend to ever go back to that dark place again.

Good luck.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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ABsolutely right Mish....it reinforces better than any other method that I really REALLY have changed my headspace.
I just wish someone had put the gloves on and taken ME aside......then again maybe they did and I can't remember.
Re Bac side effects, I still get alot of tiredness and lack of motivation on 120mg a day. Great sleep, electrical 'shocks' in my fingers, difficulty finding words esp nouns.

[Mish]

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I had the electric shocks in my hands and feet too, really badly, and twitches, but haven't had them for a while. I had the worst time losing things and finding words and spellings as well. And slurring a bit when speaking. It's still better than ending up like your friend.
I don't know whether to give her a hug or a darned good slapping.
Maybe both.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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tawnyfrog;1037503 wrote: Oh GACK! Bridge, hideous situation. So when's the best time to have "The Chat"? When she wakes up in five or six or seven hours from now feeling like shit? Makes me sure glad I don't intend to ever go back to that dark place again.

Good luck.

There's never going to be a 'good' time, but I don't want to corner the poor bint when she's down, so probably tomorrow for a good hard non judgemental chat.

I looked back over my own post and hope I don't sound arrogant and self righteous above. I know I've done this and MUCH worse while pissed.
But when you're looking at it from the outside, seeing all of the subtle looks pass between the other folk, well it's just fusking sad.

By the way this woman's life is falling apart at the seams because of her alcoholism. She's seperated, kids have related stress issues which is all coming out in councelling, can't work, health going down the gurgler. It's pathetic.

[Mish]

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It's tragic.
Thank goodness we've done something about our own problems. I can clearly remember how exhausing all that BS was, and I'm enjoying using my energy for good instead of evil.
Best wishes for the inevitable, unpleasant chat.

[sapphire1]

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byebyebridgetjones;1037510 wrote: There's never going to be a 'good' time, but I don't want to corner the poor bint when she's down, so probably tomorrow for a good hard non judgemental chat.

I looked back over my own post and hope I don't sound arrogant and self righteous above. I know I've done this and MUCH worse while pissed.
But when you're looking at it from the outside, seeing all of the subtle looks pass between the other folk, well it's just fusking sad.

By the way this woman's life is falling apart at the seams because of her alcoholism. She's seperated, kids have related stress issues which is all coming out in councelling, can't work, health going down the gurgler. It's pathetic.

Nothing arrogant or self righteous here Bridge, just concern for her and also a knowing that there really is another way to live. You are in a position to gently lead her to a better place if that is what she is looking for. If she isnt ready, I for one would be having a go at letting her know about it anyway. Poor bugger, and yes people have said that about me hundreds of time I am sure. :h:h

[sapphire1]

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Mish;1037516 wrote: It's tragic.
Thank goodness we've done something about our own problems. I can clearly remember how exhausing all that BS was, and I'm enjoying using my energy for good instead of evil.
Best wishes for the inevitable, unpleasant chat.

Hi there Mish,

Hope you are well. I am at work and sneaked into MWO for a few minutes. Have a wonderful day my friend.:h

[sapphire1]

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tawnyfrog;1037503 wrote: Oh GACK! Bridge, hideous situation. So when's the best time to have "The Chat"? When she wakes up in five or six or seven hours from now feeling like shit? Makes me sure glad I don't intend to ever go back to that dark place again.

Good luck.

Too bloody right T. Frog, makes me glad too

[sapphire1]

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Rags;1036682 wrote: Ragsy, I have just joined Curves myself & would be interested to compare notes.. I find it frustrating having to move on every so many seconds but I guess it's a good way to ease on into the whole gym thing. Shant complain until i'm fit enough to move on. PS, Love Big Bang Theory



Hi Fickle,

When they took my photo I was wearing one of Sheldons T shirts... the pale blue one with the 3D coloured rods... They took the photo from further away so the T shirt is in the shot!! I wore my Leanard red T shirt with the leopard face yesterday.
I'd like us to compare notes, as I am a lazy bugger and need someone to encourage me, so that will be great!. I think 45 seconds to a minute at each station would be good, but I guess they don't want it to be too hard for very unfit people. I'm also going to do some extra work as Mr Rags is incredibly unfit. Asked him if he would do weights (we have some) or ride the bike on the stationary thingy (we have that too) and he said probably not. Soooo I went to Joyce Mayne yesterday and bought an x box and some exercise games. Told him to install it, and we'll both do it together before dinner. That will start tonight. Will pump up the tyres on the bike and start exercising my legs for skiing...

I have the first 3 series on dvd if you want to borrow them... at the moment they are doing the rounds at the dive shop but I'll get them back in 10 days or so. Will get the 4th series when I'm in the US.

Ragsy if you want good conditioning for your legs to prepare for skiing do a wall sit: Perform a set of sqauts 1 X 15-20, then sit against the wall as if you are sitting in a chair, feet wide and hips knees in line....maintain this pose until you cant hold any more and repeat x 3. Build up the static hold for 2 mins each sit. Follow by stretches to thighs, bum etc.

[sapphire1]

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Better still Ragsy,

Take me along as your P/T..I promise I wont talk too much and I have my own toothbrush

[tawnyfrog]

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sapphire1;1037576 wrote: promise I wont talk too much and I have my own toothbrush

Hey Sapphy - don't worry about your own toothbrush. Raggsy sleeps with her dentist ... bet she's got HEAPS of free samples ...