The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

[mama bear]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Thank you for all your loving words. I just got so MAD at myself for drinking again and Hubs and all his issues. I love you all more than you know. Thanks for the call Sunni Bunni and the sweet nessage grateful. I am worried about your tooth too.......REALLY worried
RC - so happy YOU ARE TEXTING.
Mas...thanks for the thought. it's a good one. jean Meyers keeps telling me to give it to God and I am trying....
Vicks - get some rest.
Hi Hill....yousound like you are really growing and learning like my sweet Nora
Rubes - all I can say is I love you
Ok...closing the office and heading home. Have a stack of work to do from home tomorrow, but starting to see some progress. And antabuse will be taken!!! (I promise Nora)
I love you all.....gonna try to find some funds to take Hubs to True Grit at our fav theater.....he can drink beer and order pizza...just to take his mind off things

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

MB, honey, you are so much stronger than you know. You're digging yourself and your workplace out of a hole. That's wonderful. But you need help for your own self, and retreating into AL isn't giving it to you. Sometimes, when others ask so much, we have to find our own little niche, and be completely selfish there. Enjoy ourselves, be loved and pampered, understood. You have that here, with us. You have been swimming upstream but haven't given up, and you ARE winning. Sometimes, the others in our lives have to fight their own battles. Whatever happens, with that house, with what you had, is in the past, and you've come through leaner and tougher. You understand what IS important, and just being your own sweet self will win the others. I'm SO sorry for what your hubby is going through. It's got to be so difficult for him. But if you can pull through it, so must he. Your boys are a great testiment of what you've done together. Things will even out, get back to a 'normal'. But this trial, as well as the others you've come through, have made you stronger. And, as I've told T, you have me always to come to. I'm always here for you, and I'd LOVE another cook in my kitchen!!:H Call me, when you get a minute. I'd love to just listen and tell you how proud I am of you.
Grate, hope you check in, I'm SO worried about you, darlin'. Don't forget to think about you.
Everyone else, HAPPY SATURDAY!! I've been a lazy girl, and I'm not apologizing! :H Since I won't see Hubs for hours yet, if then, I've done my own thing today. Weather is getting SO much nicer, but my feet are still cold, so I'd love some spring weather. I do have bulbs starting to sprout already, a VERY good sign. I have a TERRIBLE barefoot habit!!

[Grateful]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Ruby...I'm jealous of your bulbs coming out already! I also LOVE to go barefoot-that's the hillbilly in me, I reckon. First, let me say that Jan I totally agree with Ruby about how you have gotten stronger thru each challenge you have been faced with...and you always get thru them. You are not a quitter-you just keep chugging on and that is what is important. Like I said in my pm to you, I think it's good that you are staying so busy right now and learning new things at the office. I am like Ruby when it comes to finding our own little niche....we have to have that place just for us to escape for a little bit. Like I told you, I love to read at night-especially if it has been a stressful day. We all care so much for you and we are rooting for you & your hubs. Okay, so now you know you have another month to get thru until he gets paid....you can do it...you went thru a longer period of time right before you got your new job. You found ways to survive-you didn't just sit on your butt and say "woe is me....". I think it is a great idea to take your husband to the movies-it will do you both good to go on a date and get away from the troubles for a while.

Okay-now, about me (which I don't like talking about me..but I guess you guys already know that)....the specialist thinks I have Eagle Syndrome-a very rare condition that affects the temporal styloid bone which is close to the ear and I think down the neck. It is very painful. He is putting me on my 3rd medicine in 2 weeks and if this doesn't work, he said that he would have to do surgery to remove it - or maybe part of it....I choose to believe that these steroids will take the pain and inflammation away because I sure as heck don't want surgery!! He only sees about 1 of these cases a year...so I guess I'm it this year. Anyway, he is keeping me on vicodin which does help with the pain..so as long as he gives me that, I am good. I have to wait for a week to see if the steroids help. So that's that. BUT,
I HAVE A VENT......CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?

Okay, so today I don't have Addy and am excited about cleaning thoroughly. I started with my closet that's been driving me nuts. Both my husband and I are guilty of keeping clothes that don't fit or in his case are too ratty to wear anymore and they've just been piling up on the shelves. Today I went thru everything and had 2 huge trash bags full to take to the good will box. I folded and neatly organized everything and it looks so much better. When he came in to take his Mother to mass, I showed him the closet and where his clothes were....old jeans in this pile, nice jeans here, sweatshirts here, long sleeved shirts here...etc. Nothing-no wow-that looks great, you worked hard, Thank you. When I went out I heard him in there mumbling about how he couldn't find anything...then he said Aww, Kelly, what did you do with my shoes......I can't find them....I told him I didn't touch the bottom of the closet. He just mumbled something and I broke down. But before I said something I would regret later, I left. I went for a long car ride and prayed that I would not let him bother me....I know how he is and he is miserable-90% of the time. My kids can do no right, I can do no right, he hates Josh's dog, yada-yada-yada. I am trying so hard, Sunny, to apply the advice you gave me on how to handle this situation.
Okay-vent's over.

Has Swannie been back since she was sick? I'm sure I've missed a lot these past few weeks....Is everybody else doing okay? Nora-are you feeling better?Mas-have a great time in Orlando..hope you get to meet up with T, maybe even Jan. Tony-looks like your Ravens are doing good so far! I was so sorry to see that SunnyGG's Mom passed away...does anybody know where she lives? GG said she had to get her papers together and I was just wondering....Vicki..I hope you are not doing too much today - You're gonna wear yourself out!

Well, I guess I've talked enough for about a week. I am just so grateful to be able to come here and so blessed to have so many truly caring friends. Speaking of which, Ruby - I am hungry...what's for supper?:l:l

[sick of being sick]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

hillsidetime;1042183 wrote: Hey SOBS, I got lazy a few weeks ago, I uploaded 400 family and friend pics to a photo company on line, and they put them into a hard cover book, about 80 pages, with 4 or 5 pics per page, it is awesome. A little more expensive, but no pics to put into books.
Take care,
Hill

This sounds like a great idea, Hill. pm me if you have the name of a website. Only problem is I live so far out in the woods, my satellite service is horrible! It takes me 15 minutes to download one pic on fb and I do have atleast 1000 pics, I'm embarrassed to say. It is so wonderful that you are spending quality time alone with your daughter. How old is she? A little girl NEEDS her Daddy's love and attention, no matter how old they get. MB, I love you. We all do and we are so very proud of you. You have done so well, so don't feel bad or beat yourself up. GRATEFUL, I am so very proud of you that you opened up and shared your feelings! We ALL love you so VERY much and we hurt when you hurt. I know you have alot of stress with your job and your family and now your health, WE ALL JUST HAVE TO PRAY FOR YOU, BECAUSE GOD ANSWERS OUR PRAYERS! I knew you were gonna have a tough weekend. You were suppose to rest, not clean out stupid closets, sweet girl! You are like a fragile flower that is beautiful inside and out and gives way too much of herself. Please call me if he says another mean word to you! I love you, all of you, so much and I hope everyone has a peaceful night! Love, Vicki

[sick of being sick]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

God always honors the prayers of those who quote His word, so let's please pray these scriptures for Grateful.

"Ye shall serve the Lord, your God and He shall bless thy bread and thy water and take sickness away from you." Exodus 23:25
"A wicked man falls into trouble, but a trustworthy gains healing." Prov 13:17
"Then your light shall break forth as morning and your healing shall spring forth speedily and your righteousness shall go before you." Isaiah 58:8
Jesus went about teaching and preaching the Good News of the Kingdom, healing every disease and sickness among the people." Matthew 4:23

[Grateful]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Thank you, Vicki. I am holed up in my bedroom...think I'll order take out and have them come to the bedroom window -:H. Just kidding...I don't feel like eating anyway. I'm just tired of always doing the wrong thing in his eyes.....but I'm okay. Think I'll go take a nice hot shower and see if I can find my backbone.

[sick of being sick]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Grateful, I sent you a pm. Please call me. Sounds like you need to listen to those approval addictions cds again, because you still think you have to please him, when that is not your job, sweetheart. Your job is to take care of you, because no one else does! I love you so much, girl. I think me, Ruby and MB are coming up there and beat the pulp outa your hubby! Girls?? Okay, goinmg to pray for you. Paul is hunting so call if you wanta talk or cry. I'm always here for you. Love, Vicki

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Hi all - I am here - Grateful - will e-mail you - and Jan too. I am SOOO tired! It is only 7.40 and I am already ready for bed!! Nora - your post was sweet - thank you -I do hope that things are going better for you. Vicki - you are cheering folk on as usual - you are such a Godsend for the people here. Ruby - such good advice as usual!!!

I have actually sat and watched a movie - first since 'Officer and a Gentleman' or was it 'Ghost' - I know it was a long time ago - I watched 'The Holiday' - it was such a cute movie - I am not good at watching movies - I usually fall asleep - but I didn't !! go me!! Not sure if I will be back or you will have to wait til tomorrow - now there is a cliff hanger!!!!1

love and hugs to all

Sun XX

[NoraC]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Oh Kelly - I am so very sorry. That is not right. You are the most wonderful person and there is no excuse for him to treat you like that. :l I want to tell you that you are such a caring, loving person and I am glad to call you my friend. Please try to remember that. :h

Ok - I have to go out to dinner with my sister-in-law, brother-in-law and his parents. I will be back. I have been trying to get on chat and I can't. I really needed a little boost and saw Rubes on there. Oh well.....

[Mish]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Hello, all on the Journey. I've been busy in my garden for the past week so I haven't really checked in for a while.
Grateful, it really sounds like you're doing it tough at the moment. I don't really know you very well, but you can add hugs and best wishes from me to the long list of loving friends who care for you.
Mama, you know as well as I do that a little guilt and remorse can be a good thing, but you have to keep it at a level according to 'the crime.' You had a few beers! You didn't get smashed and do anything stupid, so just a little remorse and regret would be appropriate. Anything beyond that is self-defeating and can drag you into a hole. Not worth it, sweetheart.
Nora, have you read "Co-Dependent No More," by Penelope Leech (I think)? I was a major co-dependent and this book really helped me get a grip on it. It was exhausting trying to solve everybody's problems and make them happy, but what I didn't realise at the time was that all it did was build resentment in us all, make me come across as controling, it achieved nothing and, of course, it's simply not my job. It's actually 'caretaking,' not 'caregiving.' You're taking away from them the opportunity to make choices for themselves and learn from them, mistakes and all.
Your job is to live your own life authentically and make yourself happy. Hopefully, in doing so, you can command the respect of your loved ones and maybe inspire them to do the same. Really, setting the best example for your family is the greatest gift you can give your family and yourself.
Vicky, I've been digging around and I've found what I was looking for...hurrah...some beautiful, inspiring words to build ones self-esteem. When I've finished my present project in the garden I'll sit down and type it all out for you.
Love to you all, beautiful people.

[tlrgs]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

oh oh oh AM I THE FIRST ONE HERE TODAY heheheheheh

[tlrgs]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

OK GET YOUR ASSES UP AND SHIFTING .. well i got a few things to do today in the shop make a custom countertop and three fillers for cabinet and just kick around the house .. me happy ...
well looks like everyone is well doing thier best .. stay strong and keep shifting forward love and hugs

[bird]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Hi all
Hi T....hey Sun I have trouble getting through movies too without falling asleep. Am getting a little better at it. Saw that old movie The Birds at the thrift the other day and brought it home. Told the kids oh this was so scary but we hee hawed all the way through.....hey MB we saw true grit. It was ok I guess. Sorry about all that is going on but you really have done a phenomenal job through all this.....Vicki I know what you mean about the pictures. I am having the same problem and is an ongoing project. I dont think I'll ever get it done and worse yet have thousands of photos on ext. hard drive now in no order......Grateful that sounds bad about your mouth now. I hope it goes away and well your hub, it is hard to bite the bullet sometimes isn't it? Sometimes it makes things go by smoother but I wonder if it is bad for us? I do the same thing and head for the door at any sign of conflict....hey Mish I read that book Co depentent no More and it was so good. Think it was by Melody someone though. Really helpful stuff.....Hill sorry about the ice fishing but seems to have turned out ok nevertheless...Nora, seems like that caretaker thing is kinda built into us women and hard to let go huh?.....Rubes don't know how you keep up with all your family stuff. It wears me out reading about it....RC glad your bday turned out ok after all....had a big day here yesterday with all the kids over and they had a wonderful time then had jazz band where I played lousy and we all groaning about no gigs around. Well gotta check out the pics we took yesterday havent had time....b

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Got tons of stuff to reply to and am out of milk so can't have my tea! I must have my cup of tea so am going to go and get some milk! Back later - hugs to all and GOOD MORNING!!!

Love, Sun xxxx

[mama bear]

The Journey begins here...So Get your ass in gear for 2011

Good Morning...will you get some milk for me too!!
True Grit was GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The little girl is incredible. And Jeff Bridges is such a good, drunk, grumpy guy. I loved the old version, but I think this one is better.
Got your call Sunni, if its 8 there, its 9 here. I am home now if you want to chat, but I am better and feeling stronger. I have a pile of work to do that I brought home, but first I am going to have some coffee and relax for a bit.