Does this site make you worse?

[fighting back]

does it? I have lurked mainly for a while, but think I could at least mod for a while if left to my own devices. I am in a situation right now where I wish I had never come to this site, it is so confusing!

[medic]

Does this site make you worse?

what is mod?

[KundaliniGirl]

Does this site make you worse?

FB, this site has really helped me. I was able to go 2.5 mos. AF and now am successfully modding at 1/2 bottle of wine per week (dinner out with hubs). I could not have done that without getting a chunk of AF time. I've done it for a month. I don't drink anything at home during the week and it's no struggle AT ALL. Now, I may falter, but I don't feel in any danger whatsoever of doing that right now.

Medic - mod stands for moderate.

KG

[medic]

Does this site make you worse?

FB,

I've had this thought before. I think that MWO doesn't make you worse if you get out of it what you want to.

Contribute, lean-on, share your demons... whatever it takes to deal with getting out of your own ruminations when the tension mounts.

If moderate drinking is your desire then you've answered your own question. If abstainance is what you want then ask for advice... rely on others. That's what they're here for.

Best wishes to you,

med+c

[chartreuse_lily]

Does this site make you worse?

To me, this forum has been a god send.

It would upset my family too much to know the truth about my drinking and my boyfriend doesn't think I have a problem so I have very little support for my sobriety. I've tried AA in the past but every time I opened my mouth someone volunteer a pat slogan and I don't feel like I made any kind of human connection.

I feel like I really have that connection here at My Way Out. I've only been reading and posting for about a week but I feel like the people here are mostly sincere and open minded and interested in genuinely helping rather then pushing their own agenda on you. I'm really happy I found this place.

As to the question of moderating or abstaining, you need to decide that for yourself. I realized after my last relapse that I need to be alcohol free but others can drink in moderation after they've broken their pattern of over drinking.

[medic]

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Char,

I totally agree with you. This site has been a God-send for me too. I couldn't talk about this stuff with anybody outside of the forums.

med+c

[Mish]

Does this site make you worse?

FB, this site has saved my life. Admittedly, in the early days, it caused me to focus more on alcohol and I had more drinking sessions than I would normally, but that was just where I was. I like to look at the big picture, which means I can look at all the support, friendship and knowledge I've gained. Since finding MWO in late August I've used everything I've felt would help to find my sobriety and myself, something I've never had before. I'm filled with joy, love and appreciation for life and it's entirely down to MWO.
I guess it's horses for courses, but MWO has also given me an outlet. I've felt free to open up and express what's in my heart without fear of judgement, and I've been able to express my feelings about my journey which I've found very cathartic. I've also had the joy of reaching out to others and sharing my experiences and giving back to others. All of these have been paramount in finding this wonderful space I'm in.
FB, I hope MWO can give you the same joy in life and sobriety that it's given me.

[mylife]

Does this site make you worse?

FB, I really think what helps different people is an individual thing. AA works for some and not others. Some people just decide to stop drinking and do it with no support. It's really up to you what works for you.

[medic]

Does this site make you worse?

What I would say FB is, give MWO time. It took awhile for me to actually give in and participate. The rewards have been enormous and it will save you a fortune in therapist bills (smiles).

med+c

[Sunbeam]

Does this site make you worse?

Like so many things, you get back what you invest. Helping others is a great way to get honest with yourself. Post your goals and get ideas for how to achieve them. Use your postings about yourself as a journal of your relationship with alcohol. Perhaps just reading would make one just think about drinking more. I can't say I've heard from anyone who said that they successfully addressed their drinking problem just by reading here.

[allswell]

Does this site make you worse?

This is a site where people with something in common share experiences. Don't allow it to be confusing, it's simply alot of people offering their 2 cents and a place people can feel free to talk about their problems without judgement or lecture.

[medic]

Does this site make you worse?

Very well put Allswell.

m

[TheSunFlower]

Does this site make you worse?

I think

MWO is great. But, allows us to still hide. Not like you have to shout it out from roof buildings....but, hiding behind a computer gives us a ton of freedom.

Just be honest with yourself...is this helping or hurting.