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**expat3** · February 3, 2011, 04:44 AM

i'm going to pull out.

:l:l:l You just have to do what feels right for you and your family. I don't know much about buying and selling houses but if this situation is making you ill--than you are doing the right thing. Good luck sweetie! expat xxx

**Wagoneer** · February 3, 2011, 05:18 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Oh Michelle I am so sorry. It's not worth ruining your health and well being over this. That woman seems like a knucklehead. Maybe things are not working out for a reason - maybe it is just not time to move. But through all this stress you have not had a drink and that says to me that you are a strong and resiliant person. That part is wonderful! Everything will work out as it should. Keep thinking positive, visualize what you want and believe. You are a good person, and wonderful, amazing things are around the corner for you!!! (((((You!!)))))))) Love Kat

**Marshy** · February 3, 2011, 05:21 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Buying and selling is stressful and horrible but in this market I'd hang on to a buyer if I had one.
If you pull out and are lucky enough to find another buyer (maybe in another three years time) they will probably want the same assurance about the annexe. Most people would, and certainly most solicitors acting for them would insist on it.
It took me three months to buy somewhere once that was as straightforward as could be. These things just drag on and on.
If you pull out, you're back to square one and will have spent hundreds of pounds on legal fees, surveys etc for nothing. Another ?170 doesn't seem too bad to me.
I would tell my solicitor to get moving ASAP, try to focus on other things and think about how great the new place will be.

**Change** · February 3, 2011, 05:52 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Hmm, i think i'm tending to agree with Marshy. At first i would have said 'preserve your health', but after seeing that you've been trying to sell for 3 years, i'd try to go through with it. Can you pull the Annex down? Is the Annex really an issue, or is it just a matter of getting the permits to show the buyer, in other words, is the Annex legal as it is?

Think about these things and, as i said, if i were you, i would try to push past it by giving it a rest for a few days, or changing my attitude towards it.

**hillsidetime** · February 3, 2011, 06:35 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Hi Lilm, I am sorry for the anxiety and stress you are going through, it must be aweful. I don't know anything about real estate, but I do know that it is excellent that you are not leaning on alcohol in your time of stress - this is a great sign. Keep up the fight, you can do it.
Hill

**Cassia** · February 3, 2011, 07:22 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Hi Michelle,

It's defo a hard call but maybe you have to play her at her own game! If u pull out then she might drop her demand for the annexe chat in writing. I would have thought that if se had somewhere else she wanted to move to she wouldn't be giving u so much hassle. It may turn out to be a clever move on your part!

L x

**Panno** · February 3, 2011, 08:36 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Hi LM you have to do what is best for you, however I do sell property for a living and 8 weeks on the scale of things is not long, on average a house conveyance here in the UK can take 12-16 weeks, also it maybe that her lenders are pressing for the letter, bearing in mind the banking situation we have mortgage lenders these days want the i's dotting and t's crossing before handing over any money and in alot of cases they are making things difficult for both buyers and sellers......just my opinion.

Take care I know just how much stress your going through I see it every day :h

**ATLThrash** · February 3, 2011, 08:54 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Michelle--I think I read once that the most stressful things are moving, divorce, new job and death. Moving is stressfull-- I do think you would ultimately be fine with the sell but see why now is not best. Good luck

**Recluse** · February 3, 2011, 08:56 AM

i'm going to pull out.

Difficult situation LM. Staying off the drink is obviously a priority. On the other hand, almost any buyer is going to want that letter from the council planning office so it might be better to grit your teeth and struggle through the next six weeks. It depends on what your circumstances are. I am currently trying to get retrospective building regulations approval from the council for work that was done on my house a couple of years ago in order to sell it, so I've got some idea of the stress involved. If you can get through the next six weeks without succumbing, you can be confident that you can get through anything. Good luck, whatever you decide.

**lil.michelle** · February 3, 2011, 12:40 PM

i'm going to pull out.

Hi all.
The problem is we have given her all the imformation and it's never good enough. HOWEVER, i went to the estate agent and told them that i'd had enough. i explained that i would pay for the letter but i would not however, sit and wait for it to be done. if she did not like that then she needs to find another house bacause i have gone out of my way for her. Within an hour, she agreed, said sorry and gave me a moving date. So i guess we're back on. However, i'm not holding my breath.

NOW *lol* we go a call from our morgage advisor who said that the house we are buying is not worth the amount we're paying so the lady selling it needs to knock off about ?9000... it's just never ending.. we need to wait now for tomorrow to read the report in full and see what needs doing....

**Change** · February 3, 2011, 04:25 PM

i'm going to pull out.

Hi Lil,

At least things are moving, and let's hope the old owner knocks 9,000 pounds off the new place

**mama bear** · February 3, 2011, 07:45 PM

i'm going to pull out.

nothing to add, but hang in there little mommy!! Good job on being AF

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