Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

[Rusty]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Scan,

I just thought of something else you might want to do. I've been a boss many times in my life and you might want to go in with a plan written down about how you're addressing your AL issue. 1) You are taking Antabuse now 2) You have joined an on-line support group. This will show you've thought about the situation and took the time to devise a well-thought out plan for recovery. Whatever happens, whether you keep your job or not...I would write your boss a note, apologizing again for letting him/her down. Like Mish said, anything that will demonstrate courage and hopefully give you your dignity back. Good luck, and PM me if you need to.

[Scandinavian]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Ok so here how it is:

Got sacked and I am on my second day AF

Physically I feel ten times better, but I just cannot sleep even though I feel tired. I will start working out again soon.

And my apetite is WAY WAY up. Its true what they say that those who don't drink eat


Anyway. Looking for a new job is kind of exciting too, but I am of course a bit nervous about econimics, how I will make the days pass and so on.


Oh and I am very often bored now because my social life involves a lot of drinking which as of now is something I have to stay away from.


So this is my plan:

* Try to find some AF friends and activities
* Stay AF for as long as possible, at least until I find a new job
* Excersise a lot to try to hopefully get more sleep during the night


Oh and by the way, it feels great to be not-hung-over

[Doggygirl]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Hi Scandanavian. Just happened across your thread. Like so many others, I can relate to your situation. I got busted for drinking on my last corporate job. I denied it, etc. rather than accepting the standard help for substance abuse that my company offered. In the end I quit rather than get fired. Denial ran very deep for me.

I'm wondering about the part of our action plan where you say you plan to stay AF until you get your next job. I assume that means you are thinking of drinking when you get your next job? How do you envision that working out?

All the best to you,

DG

[Scandinavian]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Yes it seems pretty stupid to start drinking again when I get a new job.

What I know is that going to work is why I sober up between binges so if I start drinking *before* I get a new job then its "over and out" for me.

But with the help of this forum I will hopefully stay sober for a long time

[ATLThrash]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

In the US it is a fine line with admitting you have an alcohol problem-- if you do it at a certain point they can't legally fire you because you are disabled in a way, have to give you one shot at getting well-- however most folks wait past that point and they get you not because you have told them you are an alcoholic but because you have not performed your job. Scan-- this could be a new start for you-- I am nto sure how this will reflect on your record with other appliations but as others have said-- a plan will be great-- and could be the key to future jobs!

[Scandinavian]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

I start a part time job next month. Thats very important for my mental health I think as being jobless is a surefire way to drink out of boredom, stay up all nights drinking and watching bad movies, and then having to sleep all day and drink again to be tired in the evening.

And this is my third day or so AF. Feels great except from falling asleep which is a total bytch. I hope this will get easyer when I start excersising.

[red67]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

"And this is my third day or so AF. Feels great except from falling asleep which is a total bytch. I hope this will get easyer when I start excersising."

Great job on day 3! I am on day 6 and falling asleep is getting easier (I do excercise everynight for an hour so I am hopefully sore and exhausted).

[azmarkm]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Fired for being drunk

Don't they an EAP. How are they helping you?

[Scandinavian]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Azmarkm: I don't get any help, neither did I ask for any.

Maybe I should see a psychiatrist...

Day 4 AF and I feel very good, especially good because I have good conciousness for not drinking. However I feel kind of emo and a funky feeling on the evenings/nights. Hope this will pass. Also I am not so easy to entertain when I am sober. If I had been drinking now I could have watched music videos on youtube for a few hours, ate and went to sleep. Being sober I am more restless and thinking a lot.

And now weekend is coming. What the cr@pp should I do then? And what about the next weeks with lots and lots of time to spare...

[SpiritGirl]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Make a plan for this weekend before it gets here... I find that when I don't I put myself at a huge risk to drink... Just wondering - did you take the Antabuse? I am thinking about starting it again tomorrow... I want/need a stretch of feeling good to clear my head .... Great job with day 4! You're awesome!

[coalfire]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Scandinavian;1083272 wrote: Azmarkm: However I feel kind of emo and a funky feeling on the evenings/nights. Hope this will pass. Also I am not so easy to entertain when I am sober. If I had been drinking now I could have watched music videos on youtube for a few hours, ate and went to sleep. Being sober I am more restless and thinking a lot.

And now weekend is coming. What the cr@pp should I do then? And what about the next weeks with lots and lots of time to spare...

I really picked up on those few sentences as they described my mindset in my first sober month. This is what worked for me.Like yourself I tended to watch youtube a lot when I was drinking on my sofa. It was a case of sofa=youtube=drinking to the point where they were synonymous in my mind so I had to change all 3 for the first month. In the evenings just before witching hour I got into my pjs and went to bed with my laptop.It felt really weird at first but I could not let myself go anywhere near that living room.I also couldnt let myself stay in my outdoor clothes as it would have been too easy to walk out the door.I flatly refused every invitation that came my way as I was too weak in my sobriety.I then overdosed on television that I watched through my laptop.I posted this thread recently.
https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...mas-48853.html
Sometimes I watched 4 episodes of a program in a single night.People might say that that isnt very healthy but it was that or drinking for me.It really, really, really helped.

I also ordered a ton of recovery literature from the library. There are some good books listed in the reading section of MWO.If I wasnt in bed watching costume dramas I was in bed reading recovery literature.My bedroom became my living room as I had never drank in my bedroom and there was no trigger association there for me.

Like yourself I was an evening drinker so I decided to shorten the evenings as much as possible. Shorter evenings=shorter cravings =shorter misery.I found that the best way to do this was to get up really early in the mornings. I had taken some time off work but I forced myself to get up at6.30- 7.00 every morning. I made my days as full as possible and always tried to include one 40 minute walk. This meant that by 9.00pm I was starting to yawn and feel pleasantly tired. Tiredness is mother natures anti craving medicine I think.Two weeks ago I finally stopped the obsessive tv watching and started to use my living room again. I now remain in my outdoor clothes to bedtime.The association between my living room and drinking has been broken now. I see it as a living room now and not my private drinking den.I couldnt have done that for the first month.You must have your own drinking patterns in place in the evenings. My advice would be to look at all of them ie where you sit,what you wear and what you watch and change all of them together.It really helped me to smash down my drinking patterns. I also wouldnt worry about things like watching too much tv, or reading too much or spending a lot of time on MWO etc.You have the rest of your life to find a balance in these things.For the first month it was just a case of finding anything that would keep me away from the drink.I am now almost 60 days sober and these are the things that got me to this place.Take a look at the meds as well. Low dose baclofen ie 20mg taken 3 hours before witching hour really helped to soften the whole evening craving thing. I also love lithium orotate taken daily as it calms and evens me out. Good luck.

[FloridaBoy]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Scandinavian;1082536 wrote: Ok so here how it is:

Got sacked and I am on my second day AF

Physically I feel ten times better, but I just cannot sleep even though I feel tired. I will start working out again soon.

And my apetite is WAY WAY up. Its true what they say that those who don't drink eat


Anyway. Looking for a new job is kind of exciting too, but I am of course a bit nervous about econimics, how I will make the days pass and so on.


Oh and I am very often bored now because my social life involves a lot of drinking which as of now is something I have to stay away from.


So this is my plan:

* Try to find some AF friends and activities
* Stay AF for as long as possible, at least until I find a new job
* Excersise a lot to try to hopefully get more sleep during the night


Oh and by the way, it feels great to be not-hung-over

Yes it does. The hangover lasts a lot longer than the buzz.

[hippie37]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Maybe this is the wake-up call you need Scandinavian......Maybe it's still out there waiting for you. Who knows. When you've really had enough I'm sure you'll feel it!!

Good luck with the Antabuse.

Many Blessings
Phil

[Reenie]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

I'm in the process of losing my job as I too was drunk. Im embarrassed and ashamed. I'm destroying my life. First, my relationship with my husband is on the outs, I have DUI and now this. God help me! Attending AA. Just enrolled with my alcohol counselor again. I want my life back.

[coalfire]

Just lost my job because I showed up drunk.

Im sorry that you are going through this too Reenie.How are you getting on with AA and your counsellor?Are you managing to stay AF this week?