Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

[tawnyfrog]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Morning Missy, Saucy, Jonesy and Grinder,

Years ago I had work-related reason to visit Packer's humungous property Ellerston near Scone. The polo fields are heated. Yep - underground heating.

Another gorgeous day here. I'm orf.

MrG - I see Dutch Tilders popped his clogs on Sat. There goes another Melbourne musical institution.

[Angelcakes]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Undies, I have an issue - I feel the need to share...
As some of you know I've been trying to help my brother extricate himself from a very damaging/destructive relationship. He & his ex have been on & off - mainly off for the last few years. But they own a house & have a son together. So Mr Cakes & I offered top buy her 50% of the property with the view to living there, she accepted the offer so we sold our apartment. Now she's done a backflip & is refusing to sell to us...it's crazy as I thought it was just about the ONLY solution for them. She doesn't have a job and therefore can't buy him out, he can't borrow enough money to buy her out on his own & the property was on the market for 9months without any interest (she's messy & a hoarder & the house is pretty run down)
So now we have to move out of our place in 4 weeks - we're very lucky in that my parents have a big house & have said we're most welcome there if we need to. The thing is Mr Cakes & I lived there previously for about 12months but during that time my sister's husband took his own life & she came to stay there also. She went extremely crazy & it was an aweful time. I don't think I really dealt with it...was trying to be strong for the family. The thought of going back there to live is stressing me out - my family, bless 'em, are a major trigger for me - just the thought of some of them makes me crave a drink.
So, do we go & rent for 12months near we are currently living or do we save $600/week & go to my parents place while we look for something else to buy?

[Guitarista]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Morning Missy, BJ, HP, Cakes, and all to come,

Hope your day off is sealed Grinder?

Missy, re my avatar, i just like wolves. Lean, mean, knowing, sharp.......quite unlike me!

Stuffed olives are grouse! A local deli or three have a selection of huge ones stuffed with chilli, or anchovies and fetta, and lot's of other concoction's. Think i'll grab some today. Good for you too.

Ooroo.

[myhappyplace]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Froglet!! Mr H thinks you could be the perfect woman, what with the olives the firewood the trailer and all. I can only aspire...

On a tye dye note has anyone checked out the Dos Gatos thread? Rainbow baby...

[Angelcakes]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Morning TF...underground heating on an open field?? Wow.

[myhappyplace]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Totally cross posted.

Cakes thats such a tough one. Spending the money stings but if your family is a trigger....I guess you can make it your job - no - mission to get out there and find something and limit the amount of time spent back at home.

[byebyebridgetjones]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Jeez Cakes !
Is it just a control issue? Did she have a hissy fit, and if so is she likely to cool her heels and see sense ?

So, if it all falls through, could you go and rent somewhere more reasonable, like the coastal area that you were going to move to anyway ?

[Guitarista]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Cross posted Tawny and Cakes.

TF, thanks for telling me. I knew Dutch was very crook. I had an impromptu jam with him in the dressing room after one of his gigs many years ago.

Vale Dutch Tilders.

Cakes,

Well this puts a spanner in the works. But, your health, and hence your family's health, i.e. your relationships with Mr. C and the junior Cakes', which your mood/emotional state etc will undoubtably influence 24/7, must be a priority, in my opinion since you asked. Stuff the expense of renting if you can afford to do so for a time? So, renting might be the go for now, however, is it worth you trying it out at your mum's and seeing how you go health wise? Now i think about it, if you are already stressed about moving into mum's with those memories, maybe you should scrap that idea now.

It'll work out Cakes, but for me, YOUR health and mental and emotional equilibrium must be protected and maintained for your sake, and that of your family's.

[Guitarista]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Hiya Bridge.

[byebyebridgetjones]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

tawnyfrog;1105167 wrote:

Years ago I had work-related reason to visit Packer's humungous property Ellerston near Scone. The polo fields are heated. Yep - underground heating.

What the hell do you people do for work ?

Staying at Hiltons. Flying hither and yon. Visiting media moguls.....


I'm lucky to have a designated park, coffee supplied for the first time in my working life and do community visits to places that are so filthy that I actually once saw a mug stuck to a work surface with mould.

Clearly I need to retrain.

[byebyebridgetjones]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Guitarista;1105177 wrote: Hiya Bridge.

Peeky Boo

[tawnyfrog]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Grinder - would it be possible to try the parent option for a while? I reckon you'd know within a month if you can hack it or not.

myhappyplace;1105170 wrote: Froglet!! Mr H thinks you could be the perfect woman, what with the olives the firewood the trailer and all. I can only aspire...

Saucy, tell him I'm probably a lousy lay. That ought to sort it.

[Charlotte's Web]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Well, life has changed enormously for me this weekend. For the third time in 2.5 years I have found my husband hires prostitutes / escorts when he is in Perth. He denies it all but I have three lots of "evidence" now (2 lots in print) so it seems pretty conclusive to me. So it's all over here.

I spent Sunday night with a friend but had to come back to be with my son. Also, I don't want to leave and sacrifice any rights I have. Tomorrow I will find a solicitor and see where I stand. I have also seen a job advertised on the internet that I am fully qualified for. (It's quite a specialist role and I have done it in the past.)

I thought I could put up with his behaviour in exchange for a good lifestyle but I can't. No doubt, his work colleagues know and I am not prepared to be made a fool of any more. I have my standards and it's now time for me to fight.

Strangely enough, I feel reasonably at peace with this. It has been brewing for a long time.

[tawnyfrog]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

Oh CW, I'm so sorry to read this. Is your evidence absolutely water tight? Is there any chance you could be wrong/mistaken?

I know this would be a deal-breaker for me. I might (not sure) eventually be able to forgive a one-off but not repeat episodes. How could I trust him ever again? A marriage without trust can't survive.

[Charlotte's Web]

Underoos and other possom bottoms - April 2011

It's all pretty water tight. One is a credit card receipt for a brothel (his credit card), the second is him e-mailing a call girl about her availability and the third is the history on his phone shows that he has been looking for escorts in Perth. The trust went out of the window a long time ago which is why I have been checking up on him. I have said to him that for every one incident I have found out about, there are probably more that I don't know about.

Job wise, he has to travel. I can't sit here and pretend everything is OK. I need to cut my loses for my own piece of mind.