Armt Thread 5th April

[one2many]

Armt Thread 5th April

I am with Cassia, i am not on for the pity party either, you know you have good friends here who care about you. Tis not you talking but the booze.

[kitty72]

Armt Thread 5th April

No, nothing happpened today. Th e last few weeks did and I got pissed with Gay Kev LOL

I hate my lifw

[cymru]

Armt Thread 5th April

I'm not going to say much, cause I'm very close to this situation.
All I will say is that the yrs I have known you, you have been nothing but a kind, honest and truly top notch person kitty. With a heart of gold.
Also, this self hatred issue is becoming a serious problem. It's been going on for too long, and needs to be addressed so you can move on. Listen to the people here kitty. Please.
I have felt like a POS many many times in the past. But that's what it is. The past. Tmr can be a new beginning. But you have to put the time and effort into making big changes.

[InChains]

Armt Thread 5th April

glad someone else said it first, i'm with oney and cassia, self pity gets you no where in the end

[startingover]

Armt Thread 5th April

Kitty, I think we all hate our lives sometimes lovie. Part of being human.

[Doggygirl]

Armt Thread 5th April

Hi again Army.

Kitty, I know what it's like to feel like a POS and also to host a non-stop pity party for myself. Here's how my pity parties went. Nobody came. I found that really frustrating!!!! I thought if a bunch of people would just hover over me and feel sorry for me and dote on me, that I would feel better.

That didn't work.

The main thing making me feel like a POS was ALCOHOL. Drink and get depressed. Drink and get despressed. What a viscious cycle that is.

Stopping drinking didn't magically solve things for me. BUT, it helped me realize that NOTHING about my situation or my feelings of self pity were made better with AL. AL made it all worse by piling on a huge dose of guilt and remorse to my depression.

So....I suggest put the BGP's on (Big Girl Pants) and put the booze down and get to work constructing a life that will make you feel good about yourself. Leave the booze and the past behind you and things WILL get better! Promise!!

DG

(PS - it only took me about 5 minutes to figure out what POS is)

[InChains]

Armt Thread 5th April

DG to the rescue

[startingover]

Armt Thread 5th April

Oh christ Zen.....

[InChains]

Armt Thread 5th April

I don't agree with this 'this persons life is worse than yours' thing, no offence but these things are relative, whats bad for one person in oen country is different than another person in different countries. If you think in terms of whos worse and who's better off than you, well in my opinion it just makes life more depressing. Like I say, just my opinion re: the picture

[Cassia]

Armt Thread 5th April

Here here zen! X

[startingover]

Armt Thread 5th April

I think it puts things in perspective. We cant control outside influences like that poor child. But we can control how we think. Thats about the only thing we can control....
We are lucky and need to be grateful for so much. And we have many choices that some people simply dont have.

[InChains]

Armt Thread 5th April

I'm not saying it is a game of who's better or worse off, the best analogy I can think of for what I mean is something pretty mundane from my life. I suffer from eczma on 80-90% of my body pretty much all the time. I itch constantly, I hate it. Now if somebody says to me they have a mosquito bite and that itches, hell it itches less than what i have but they still have a right to complain, an itch is an itch no matter how big or small. Deprivation and misery are relative to your own sphere of existence - whether thats right or wrong is another matter

[Chillgirl]

Armt Thread 5th April

I agree, you are so lucky to have the choices we do, sometimes I think the problem is we have too many. If all we had to think about was how to get food and stay safe and warm we wouldn't give a toss about the things we consider problems. It is all about how we see life and how we process out thoughts and we actually have control over that.

[InChains]

Armt Thread 5th April

fair enough Zen, just wanted to let you know my opinion about the posting of the picture in this context, though really what technically matters is what side of the fence Kitty sits on haha

[Chillgirl]

Armt Thread 5th April

InChains;1092104 wrote: really what technically matters is what side of the fence Kitty sits on haha

absolutely! The problem is, as you all know too well, when we are drinking it's not a great time to take in any advice or oppinions, the AL is in control and the best thing Kitty can do is go to bed.