Army Thread 11th April

[Recluse]

Army Thread 11th April

Tips, this one is for you...

Phalacrophobia

[tiptronic_ct]

Army Thread 11th April

Recluse;1096136 wrote: Tips, this one is for you...

Phalacrophobia

:H:H:H

Feck off, Panda!!! LMAO

[cymru]

Army Thread 11th April

Cleaned up the back garden. Looks good considering I did it with only my left hand! No rain yet as predicted tdy and the sun is out.
Rented 'Role Models' towatch tnt. Anyone seen it?

[cymru]

Army Thread 11th April

Recluse;1096136 wrote: Tips, this one is for you...

Phalacrophobia

LMAO!

[kitty72]

Army Thread 11th April

Not feeling too clever at the moment. I have removed someone from my life who's behaviour at times drove me to booze. He even was my enabler at times. Although he didnt drink, much of our socialising revolved around restaurants and pubs. He would also put silly demands on me at times, be a bit controlling which would make me rebel = get pissed.

He did have his good points, he loved me very much and would do anything for me. Even to the point, where although he first encouraged me to go to AA 2 years ago, he would also enable me. One case in point, last summer where I had a spat with a guy I was seeing and was upset, he went out and got me 2 bottles of wine... without me even asking.

After some issues at the weekend and people telling me for AGES that this situation was not healthy, I finally thought that I should just do this. I now feel like the world's biggest bitch as he was broken when he left here , even though he did snap at me that he can just see me drinking more than ever now.

He is an old boyfriend, we have not been romantically involved for 2 years but we stayed close friends all that time. We were together for almost 3 years.


Siiigh.......... Never easy eh? The good news is, that I KNOW I have to stay off the booze more than ever now or I'll just be texting him that I am sorry and end up having to do this all over again sometime.

[startingover]

Army Thread 11th April

Awwh Kitty, I bet that was horrible to do.....
Right now he is feeling hurt, but if it was a toxic relationship it will have been toxic for him too.
In time he will probably realise you did him a favour.
Brave thing to do and never easy. But a step towards your new life. Well done girly

[kitty72]

Army Thread 11th April

:l Thanks Starts.

Fact is as well, no matter what nasty, deceitful shit I pulled on him when I was drinking as well, he always forgave me. That isnt a bad quality for someone to have but we are talking my EX boyfriend here...... He shouldnt have put up with half the crap he has dealt with over the last year, but when I can get away with stuff time and time again, there's no stopping me......

I felt like I was being babysat at times and also got a little tired of having to account for my movements on a daily basis.

[cymru]

Army Thread 11th April

I have had first hand experience in a relationship being toxic. For both sides.
I loved my ex very very much, yet drove her away with my alcoholism and eventually things happened that were not of my doing that effected me massively and made me drink even more.
Letting go of that person, what happened and what I wish had happened with us as partners has def been a huge part of me enjoying sobriety. Many of us alcoholics use an ex or an ex relationship to stir feeling that lead us to drink.
It took me a long long time to let go of my last relationship, and I cant really define a moment when I consciously or unconsciously decided to do so, but I tell ya Kitty, when you do it will be like turning the page in a book you really want to finish and that you have been stuck on for ages.

[kitty72]

Army Thread 11th April

Situation a bit different there though Cy, I had no real desire to get back into a relationship with my ex, I ended it in the first instance cos I met someone else (Didnt work out either cos of my flakey drinking self but I digress......) I just kind of liked him being in my life and there for me.

Am looking at driving lessons, think Id like to do one of those week long intensive thingys! All or nothing as ever eh? You'll have to come with me on a drive when I first pass - If you dare! :H

[startingover]

Army Thread 11th April

Ohh while you are both there, I think the weathers not going to be great on Friday.
What about meeting up at the Harvester in Newport for a bite to eat? We could leave the doggers in the car if its not too hot....

[startingover]

Army Thread 11th April

Defo go for driving. Independence is key whether you are in a relationship or single

[kitty72]

Army Thread 11th April

Hehe! Harvester! We loves it! LOL! What time you thinking starts?

Starts and the Clarts :H

(Clart is Newport slang for someone who lives here.... I think! LOL! I know it annoys Cy anyway )

[cymru]

Army Thread 11th April

Im good with that. You want me to drive to you, or do you wish to see the beauty of Newport? Thurs or Fri?

[startingover]

Army Thread 11th April

Nah we can drive over to Newport, no probs and meet you there.
About 1?
Clarts??? Love it!!

[kitty72]

Army Thread 11th April

startingover;1096229 wrote: Nah we can drive over to Newport, no probs and meet you there.
About 1?
Clarts??? Love it!!

And this is Friday, yeah? Whoo sirloin steak!