Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

[mylife]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

I have to say my thinkng on this has changed a little. When I first decided to try and quit I said "No Alcohol in the House". This time I am not overly tempting myself -- I wouldn't leave a half-opened bottle of wine around as that's my old drink of choice. However, there is beer in the fridge that my husband likes once in awhile and I don't feel threatened by that. I feel like this time my mindset is that AL is poison for me and I can't have it the same way a Diabetic can't have sugar. It's around, but I just can't have it and know it will hurt me if I do!

[one2many]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

I have to say, I never had a problem with alcohol in the house or people drinking...Hubby drinks and there is always beer in the house. There is also wine and vodka (which has dust on it since I quit) but I keep it there in case visitors would like a drink. I totally get that this would be detrimental to some people and it is best to clear the house of temptation.

[hillsidetime]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

Caper, first of all congratulations on your sober time, that is great. You should be proud of yourself. Hello my fello Canadian!

The issue of alcohol in the home seems to depend on the person. I have had a modest amount of beer and wine in our home, since I went sober, in order to offer it to guests. Some expersts might say this is a bad idea, however, I chose to go that route. One of the reasons, was and still is, that I don't want to discuss my sobriety with everyone, and I have only told really close friends and family. So I will offer a drink, serve a drink to a visitor, and discretly have a club soda or whatever. I come face to face with alcohol, in our society, at parties, fishing, playing hockey and events, so if I was going to give in to booze, it is not just in my home that I faced the direct temptation. Certainly though, it puts the poison on campus - however, I am not interested, that part of my life is over.


The complexities of the family issues, for me, took a while to iron out as well. I agree, that I would do like you, bring over a bottle of Perrier, and not drink for a night, if I was coming to your house. It does seem selfish that your in-laws "need" to bring booze. Regardless, if that is something that is part of your family circle, oh well. The intensity of the urges you feel, will reduce in time. Hang in there. My family choses to not drink around me, and my wifes family choses to continue to drink as normal, and respectfully leaves me my space. (Except my mother in law, who keeps trying to get me to drink "you can have a beer, or some wine...you don't have to drive..." - she does not understand that I don't want to drink.

Anyway, the most important thing is that you fight the battle. The social, and family things, take time. One step at a time. Hang in there,
Hill

[Noelle]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

Caper, congrats on 3 weeks! That's great!

I think after the in-laws packed up the AL when they left, they might not bring any around anymore, but who knows for sure.

I think after reading all the posts above, you'll be able to make up your mind about what to do. Lot's of good advice.

Good luck!

[madmans]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

AL has always been in my home also , i also know most people will say it's a no no . back at Xmass i was a few days off 60 AF and went back drinking for about a week and it was the beer that was in the house i drank so i guess if it hadn't been there it wouldn't have happened but i can't blame the fact that i had beer in my house, i think it was earlier that day i let the drinking thought's snowball into actions. The one thing i know for sure is that when i was drinking if there was no AL in the house i would/could go up the walls in panic at times but when i would go and buy AL that same day it would have a calming effect even if i didn't drink it , i never could understand it.

[Lavande]

Debate on allowing AL in your house after you quit!!

Caper,
Congrats on your 3 AF weeks :goodjob:

When I first quit I asked my husband to keep his beer & booze in his man room fridge in the garage across the driveway from the house. About 5 months later we had a christening party here for my grandson. My son brought wine & beer for his guests & took the leftover home - worked out fine. Haven't had a drop around here since.

That reminds me - all of my hard core drinking relatives, namely my older brothers, no long live in the area so I don't have to worry about keeping booze around for them