STRESSED!!!

[Cassia]

Hi all

Well, the day was bound to come with the move and it has. I am uber stressed out - thought I had it all under control and I don't. Today is the first day where I thought - "yeah, I need a drink."

Everything is just getting on top of me - the cost, my mortgage company being arsey because they can, my current employer being unreasonable, everyone making arrangements to see me before I go, paperwork, quotes, visas - the list goes on.

My stomach is wasted, my head is sore, I am shaking right now. I cancelled hot yoga tonight because I feel physically ill. I need to rest, i think. There are a few personal things going on as well that aren't helping matters.

Maybe I have bitten off more than I can chew. Maybe I am trying to do too much. I don't know. I just need to calm down. Stress was always my key trigger but I am determined not to let it get the best of me.

thanks for listening...

[one2many]

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Cassia,

You are under enormous pressure right now and I imagine it all just seems too much right now. I reckon that is a very normal reaction and thinking of reaching for a drink to help with stress is normal too.

I KNOW that you know that reaching for a drink will not make things any better and in fact will more than likely make things a whole lot shittier. I think the fact that you came here and posted shows that you really don't want to do that. Sometimes it does help to offload and just take a few mins just to "be"

Can you chill out tonight and not see anyone? Flake out in front of the tv with hubby and just take some time out.? As you said stress is a huge trigger and sometimes can lead to a snap decision in the heat of the moment.
Play some music, chat here, relax a bit and chill out, sounds like you are full of nervous energy and your tummy is sick etc etc, i can identify with that and until i slow down, take stock and relax it does not go away.

You are doing great dealing with all this upheaval but don't forget that you are not a machine and you do need rest and relaxation and a bit of pampering.

Take care of yourself x

[Grateful]

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Hey, Cass.....my soon to be neighbor! You do have a lot going on....but in less than a month you will be in Jersey!! Just think about those beautiful beaches.....heaven to me! And what about the Jersey tomatoes? Always a must have when we go to Wildwood!!! Maybe you can come out my way to Amish country....I'll meet you and buy you a whoopie pie and shoofly pie from my neighbor's farm and we can go visit Lav too!!

Take a night off...from everything and everyone.

You are doing great!

xx

[startingover]

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There ya go, you said it yourself. Rest. Dunno if you know the acronym H.A.L.T? Hungry angry lonely tired. All massive drink triggers and it wouldnt be surprising if you are feeling at least 2 of those things.
Do what you gotta do but incorporate some you time as a priority.
Itll all work out in the end xx

[mylife]

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Hang in there Cassia!

Moving is one of the all time most stressful situations in life -- and so is changing jobs, so just try and pamper yourself as much as you can to get through it!

Soon you will be happily settled in your new home with an exciting new job and wonderful new adventrues in your life!

XX

[mario]

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Keep hanging in there cassia, It will all pan out, x

[Wagoneer]

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Grateful;1102098 wrote: Hey, Cass.....my soon to be neighbor! You do have a lot going on....but in less than a month you will be in Jersey!! Just think about those beautiful beaches.....heaven to me! And what about the Jersey tomatoes? Always a must have when we go to Wildwood!!! Maybe you can come out my way to Amish country....I'll meet you and buy you a whoopie pie and shoofly pie from my neighbor's farm and we can go visit Lav too!!

Take a night off...from everything and everyone.

You are doing great!

xx

And don't forget to get those Tastycakes before they stop making them! (I'm in Philly!)

Cass - deep breaths like everyone said. You can do this, it is just one of those overwhelming days. Chill. Make a list of what you need to do and rank it in order of when you need it. Lists help me. I move what can be moved to the next day in my book and I feel instantly better. So glad you posted - I know you don't really want to drink because you know the repercussions. Hope things calm down a bit - we are here for you X X O O

[Doggygirl]

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Hang in there Cassia!!! Beware H.A.L.T. as the others said!!!

I have a tendency to get myself over committed and subsequently overwhelmed at times. Saying "no" is perfectly OK, and I have to remind myself of that all the time. Balance, balance, balance. Sounds like some rest is definitely in order, and maybe a review of the schedule to cancel some things that aren't absolutely necessary to do before you leave?

One thing is for sure, drinking would make an already hectic schedule oh so much worse.

DG

[Cassia]

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Hey everyone

Thanks so much for your advice - I actually hadn't thought about HALT but I am defo feeling a couple of those at the moment.

Oney - you are totally right. I am not a machine and I need to remember that.

I am going to have a bath, lurk on here and chill. Things will be better in the morning.

My husband just brought me a dark choc Easter egg...I am so happy I could cry.

No AL here tonight - why make things worse.

xx

[Panno]

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Hi Cassia can't add anything extra but just wanted to wish you well and I'm sure with your strength you will get through - and the Easter egg sounds delicious enjoy :l

[fluff]

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Hi Cassia- You're moving to NJ-Where abouts ? I live in Morris County- Where are you moving from?
Anyway- I hope you feel better soon- moving is such a stressful thing.
the Jammy's/tv thing sounds like a good thing to me.

[Cassia]

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Hey fluff,

I am moving to jersey city for the first three months and then trying to decide where is better. I am going to be working in short hills so if you can recommend any nice areas that are reasonable that would be great. Morristown might be an option...not been there in years! X

[fluff]

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I have a friend that owns a brownstone in Jersey City...He also lives in Millburn-
Anyway - Depends on how far you want to commute and what price range you're looking for-
I think Shorthills is nice, Madison, Chatham, Millburn, Summit, are close enough to you- Morristown, too-Springfield, Maplewood, Berkley Heights, Mountainside...
I would tell you not to move to the Oranges, or Plainfield
I live west of there ( Short Hills)- near Chester-and that's about a 40 minute commute or less to Short Hills going on route 78...
Also- you might want to look at Hoboken-if you want more of a metro feel- then you would be looking at pricey condos but it's also across the Hudson from NY-you can even take a train from there to Short Hills
Where are you moving from?

[Chillgirl]

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Cass - I so understand, i havent checked in all day because i've been flat out and only just finished packing! I have had terrible AL thoughts all day. Its because we are in such a heightened state of anxiety and for me, my mind and body are screaming out for some release from the anxiety. Unfortunately the memory is still there from days of old when the answer to these kind of days was to drown out the stress with AL. I keep telling myself if I can get through this AF it will be another rung up the ladder in leaving the booze at the bottom.

I really sympathize, today i went to pay the shipping charge for my dog and my credit card was declined. Its just one thing on top of another and i keep thinking im due a good break for a change. I even made a pact with myself yesterday, that if I can get through this AF and make it back to Scotland I will allow myself to drink. I wont of course but it is all part of the mind games! I have also been inundated with invites out to lunch and dinner in the next few days to say goodbye to friends and quite honestly im dreading the whole damn thing, if i could just sneak away i would.

Cass, we can do this! Please promise to mesg me or come on here if it gets to that crucial point and i will do the same. Im sending you so much love and strength! :l

[Cassia]

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Fluff - I am moving from Glasgow Scotland back to nj. I grew up there. I would love to stay in jersey city or Hoboken but I just cant afford it until my husband gets a job. I think we will try and rent for six months in short hills where I can get all my utilities paid and then see. So much to consider.

Chill - thanks so much for posting and I am sorry that your cc hot declined. What did you do? Why is nothing ever straight forward? I know I am stressing about nothing, I am just peeved that I might not be able to afford to live where I want. It should only be temporary though and I have to be realistic. We will both get there. We are just trying to do so much in such a short timescale. I will defo pm you and you do the same. I know what you mean about tricking the mind, I have had to do that a lot today to cope!

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