On being an other at MWO

[lucky 2.0]

On being an other at MWO

very well said

[stollies1]

On being an other at MWO

eustacia wrote: People whose value systems, sexual orientations, religions, racial or ethnic backgrounds are out of the mainstream seem very underrepresented here. I wonder if something subtle is going on that causes other than young or middle aged, white, heterosexual, by-the-book Christians to feel unwelcome or to lurk, rather than take a more active role in the community.

I couldnt dissagree more with the statement above.What "subtle" thing do you suspect of going on.What evidence do you have of "other demographics" are being made to feel unwelcome.
There is only one demographic here, Eustacia. The 0 to 100 ,all colours,all creeds, all comers adversly affected by the bottle ruling and ruining our lives.
Everyone is welcome here and as for the people who have been so supportive and encouraging to me...A BIG FAT :thanks: ,no matter who you are,what colour or race you are,who you sleep with or who you pray or dont pray to.
This is the longest I have ever not had a drink and this site is a major reason why.
Thank you all.
Victoria.

[tawnyfrog]

On being an other at MWO

Interesting how quickly a hypothetical question can turn into a shower of schit. The way I read E's initial post - it posed questions potentially open for debate.

Now, shall we debate ... or just go ner-di-ner-di-ner ner?

[eustacia]

On being an other at MWO

Greetings, all,

I reread my second post and realized that I had not saved the edit I made in it immediately after I posted it. Anyway, I had not meant to imply that the troubled woman had made a visit to MWO and had been so turned off that she left! Obviously, my computer skills aren't the greatest.

I appreciate that the MWO community has taken the time to consider the question that I posed.

:heart: E

[determined]

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I think this a great topic Eustacia. thank you.

As a lesbian I have never found it easy to just casually 'come out' to new people. Picking the write moment and making it all feel smooth and seemless.This forum has been no different for me and so i haven't come out until now.

It's hard to know how people are going to react. Yes we are all here for our issues around alcohol but that by no means, means we share the same philosophies on life. Having lived as an 'out' woman for over 27 years i am well aware that some people really do love and accept me for who am, and others have a deep hatred for the choices that i make. so i tend take care baring all.

what i want to say in response to eustacia opening up this topic is that these issues may not some people's mind's when you come here, but sometimes they're on mine.. and they caused me to sensor what i wrote on the forum (re my 'partner'). now i be honest about who i am and write what i damn well like and that's a very good thing.

thank you for this lively discussion.

[tawnyfrog]

On being an other at MWO

Thank you, Determined ... that's the way this debate should go ...

Next?

[KizzieCat]

On being an other at MWO

Intersting thread. Yes, one needs access to a computer to do what I am doing right now. However, there are other forms of media that support MWO. I will "ditto" what I have read. We are here because we are concerned about our drinking habits.

I sincerely hope that anyone who enters this site does not think "they do not fit in".

We share so many more things here besides just alcohol. We are just humans. We need each other.

I have so much to say, but can't find the words. I know there are wonderful, caring people here, and I too tend to be shy, but I have not let my own feelings inhibit me from reaching out to others who are battling the same demon. This is new to me......reaching out and talking to other people.

[Guest]

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What a great discussion. It has certainly sparked up interest here.

I have had to re register because I have forgotten my password and think I have deleted the e-mail address - Durrr brain !!!

At the end of the day, we are all here for a common purpose. I don't know why E started this thread, and it made me wince a bit, yet it has proved to be jolly positive.

I am up , and it is 10 to six in the morning. The wind is blowing a hurricane ( exagerating a bit there ! ) but the rain is lashing down outside, I keep being woken up by various dogs barking ( god I could strangle the buggers !!! ) Joke.

Anyway , I shall take my bum and get back in the bed now.

I'll send RJ a PM to let her know my e-mail address, and then I won't have numbers after my name ( like a prisoner ) which I am in my own head , but we are trying to work through that scenario.

So nite nite ( again )

Cait X

[mic]

On being an other at MWO

I have viewed this site frequently for 18 months or so and am looking to make more of an effort to post. During this time I have noticed the male female demographic seeming to change but still predomenantly women appear the main users.
I wonder if it is because that book written by RJ is (as it has to be) written from the f/m perspective and indeed features a f/m on the cover. Also early on many of the first members were f/m so perhaps the threads orientated a little that way. Just a thought.
mic

[fsophiah]

On being an other at MWO

I think you are right. I have wondered before about the cover of the book, and certainly when I got here, there were far fewer men. As you said, more men have appeared over time, and I think our friend Kanga's visibility helped a lot. We're a good bunch of people, and it's funny that we are noticing all this when we are about as anonymous as you can be--no names, no faces. I love the irony of that and how this huge cultural debate has found its way even into this forum.

[C]

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Hear, Hear Determined!!!!

Great post Dear!!!

[C]

On being an other at MWO

Good point Boycie,,,
But,,,there are people who are on the periphery who do check in here and must care, because they do not join. A seeming homogenous culture here?. And... there is nothing wrong with an homogenous culture.

The point of all this was really a simple question to ponder (thank you Eustacia). Why are there no more males, gays, lesbians, blacks, hispanics, native americans, poor people, disabled people, etc etc signing on to our boards? Why is there a predominant demographic here?

A question which may not be relevant here!! I am beginning to think so. Most here do not think it is relevant. Therefore, it is not relevant.

[Quiescent]

On being an other at MWO

I think some here are just offended by everything no matter the topic.

[boycie]

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If people truely want help they will come. I myself am still unsure of my sexuality. I have been married and have three beautiful children and I have had a relationship with a female which lasted three years and was absolutley fantastic and would not be afraid of another one. I don't follow any particular religion I am by birth presbyterian and ex husband was Jewish and ex partner was church of england. All I truely know is I have a major drinking problem which has totally screwed up my life and I'm a fairly private person so AA is a total last resort, like before death so I have reached out to this community and today i am day 9 AF. I honestly haven't found people unwelcoming or felt I couldn't contribute to a discussion. Oh by the way I'm white, working class and Australian guess that really puts me on the bottom of the pile hey. Kim

[tawnyfrog]

On being an other at MWO

You know ... I'd be really happy if someone came out and said "Oh yes, I like to bonk pigs during my lunch hour whilst wearing a mermaid suit made out of blue rubber foam from my inflatable air-bed."