How do I keep falling back into this?

[gettinghappy]

I swear each and every time that this is the last day I will feel this hopeless and that things will get easier. And each time it does until I think I've got a handle on my drinking. I love how I feel sober and in control! Then I find myself crawling out of another binge. Help, help, I need help!!!:upset:

[Lavande]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Hi gettinghappy!

There is nothing easy about getting sober, it takes a lot of work & commitment. Changing habits, thinking patterns, etc is what finally helped me - you can do it too!

Do you have the MWO book? If not you can download right from the Health Store here.
And look in the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for good ideas to help you make your plan.

A strong commitment & a good plan will take you a long way. Drop in the Newbies Nest thread for more support - see what the others are doing

Wishing you the best on your journey!

Lav

[red67]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Hi happy, for me I had to decide NO DRINKING NO MATTER WHAT. If quitting was easy we wouldnt be alcoholics. As Doggy always asks, do you have a plan? Someone else here also talks above surfing the urges. That has truly helped for me. My last drink was March 17th after 10 years of daily drinking to pass out. I have treasured my sober time and have learned to surf the urges and tell myself ODAT. There are times that my mind seems to have forgotten that I quit drinking and I have to catch myself and redirect my thoughts. It has gotten easier over time and coming here daily reading and posting helps a ton. It keeps my mind in focus and reminds my to stay on guard everyday.

You can do this.

[mario]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Hi gettinghappy, cant add much more than what red & lanvande have said, get a plan,keeep busy.it can be done.

[hillsidetime]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Hi Gettinghappy, you are struggling with something that many of us have, and still struggle with. For me, I played the fine line for decades between drinking too much, and still living my life. I would crawl out of the wholes I dug myself into. Like you I would yoyo, I finally hit rock bottom and almost killed myself, almost lost my wife and family, and I lost a tremendous amount of respect from peers community members etc. I don't want you to end up at rock bottom like me. Some theorists state that a rock bottom moment is what is needed for some addicts.

Regardless, finally admitting that moderation does not work for me, was a true pivital moment. Life, I have found out, is awesome without alcohol. Some people can have an awesome life with alcohol, and that is fine for them. Perhaps you need to examine your relationship with alcohol. Are you trying to moderate, to abstain for a while, or quite forever?

Some people find it helpful to write out all the reasons why they don't want to drink, and what harm drinking does to them and their families. Give this a real good look.

This is a battle, and in the early going it is very hard. You can do it, we are here to help. You can PM me anytime you wish. All the best,
Hill

[spuddleduck]

How do I keep falling back into this?

although i have slipped since, when i had 3 wonderful sober months my main attack was just to not give myself the option to drink. if i was ever in a tempting situation i just said to myself, (or sometimes out loud) NO I DONT DRINK ANYMORE. the slipping back came when i gave myself that internal permission to drink. i wouldnt even allow the internal dialogue 'should i, shouldnt i' i just did not drink alcohol anymore. now all i need to do is stamp out that silly voice that says i can drink. hope you crack this.

[rubywillow]

How do I keep falling back into this?

You've had some great replies, from seasoned warriors. I've seen, in myself and others, many times the carousel we do to ourselves. A binge, then swearing NEVER to do that again, feeling the lowest of the low, great intentions. Then, our body begins to heal, and we think 'What the heck. I can control this. I DESERVE to have a drink or two, relax. Then it all goes south, AGAIN! And we start over.
For most, we have to decide it's a no-brainer: We can't have that first drink. It leads to the 10th, every time. To paraphrase the truest quote, one is too many and 100 is not enough. Unfortunately, for some the line has been crossed, and there can be no control once we start. And there IS a line, that so many have crossed.
No one gets here overnight. And we don't get back to our reality overnight. I know it's not fair to watch others out for a casual drink, but it is our realityl Think of it as people must who have other medical conditions and have to watch what they eat and drink.
Once you remove yourself from AL for a period of time, you'll realize how much wasted importance you gave to it, how much it dictated your life and actions. (I can't drink now, have to drive/go out/work/etc. later.) Wouldn't it be great not to have to even THINK about it, and really just live our life?
Keep posting, reading, planning. This is a great place for support.

[spuddleduck]

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rubes, a thing you say there interests me. 'people out for a casual drink'. ive often asked 'casual' drinkers (the ones who know im having problems) what they get from drinking. they all seem to have difficulty in actually pinpointing it. the usual answers are: like the taste, helps me relax, enjoy a drink with friends, and other similar answers. these reasons are all now alien to me. these people are 'sippers' but have all gone over the top at times. some of them drink almost daily, but just a glass of wine or so. im not really sure what im saying here but i know i am far removed from that kind of drinking.

[Nelz]

How do I keep falling back into this?

rubywillow;1122116 wrote: You've had some great replies, from seasoned warriors. I've seen, in myself and others, many times the carousel we do to ourselves. A binge, then swearing NEVER to do that again, feeling the lowest of the low, great intentions. Then, our body begins to heal, and we think 'What the heck. I can control this. I DESERVE to have a drink or two, relax. Then it all goes south, AGAIN! And we start over.
For most, we have to decide it's a no-brainer: We can't have that first drink. It leads to the 10th, every time. To paraphrase the truest quote, one is too many and 100 is not enough. Unfortunately, for some the line has been crossed, and there can be no control once we start. And there IS a line, that so many have crossed.
No one gets here overnight. And we don't get back to our reality overnight. I know it's not fair to watch others out for a casual drink, but it is our realityl Think of it as people must who have other medical conditions and have to watch what they eat and drink.
Once you remove yourself from AL for a period of time, you'll realize how much wasted importance you gave to it, how much it dictated your life and actions. (I can't drink now, have to drive/go out/work/etc. later.) Wouldn't it be great not to have to even THINK about it, and really just live our life?
Keep posting, reading, planning. This is a great place for support.

Oh MAN, I hope that day is actually in my future

[My New Beginning]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Hi Getting Happy
I feel the same way you do. I know I can't even have one drink or I'm in big trouble.
I want to quit so badly. We can do this as long as we keep trying. Best of luck to you.
All of these replies have been great and very helpful.

[rubywillow]

How do I keep falling back into this?

I certainly hope this helped you really look, understand, what the problem is. We are all different. And that you are NOT alone at looking at what is going on in your little circle of life. It's not just you. Many others have not stepped up and realized this idea of 'life, having a free night or two', is not for us. And why do we attach so much importance to having AL as such a guiding force in our lives.
Give YOURSELF a chance. You already know you are a better, finer person, without it. I pray that everyone can make it a footnote in their lives, and not what drags us around. I hope you believe you are great and wonderful, and can do anything as long as YOU are in control, and not being ruled by something that is a thief, that steals our life.

[gettinghappy]

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Thank you everybody! This really helps me. And Nelz, I know this is in my future , and yours too, because I have been there before. I have gone a year sober a couple of times and felt on top of the world. That is the feeling I hang onto. Right now I'm at the bottom, but I will get out again! I don't think that my husband and friends understand that some people are made different. Normal people don't hide booze and drink straight from a bottle even though their insides are already hurting. Yuck! Nobody wants to be this way, so let's not!! Thanks SO much for your replies, You don't know how much I appreciate them! You've gotten me through my first 24 hours sober.:thanks:

[gettinghappy]

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Now 36 hours, whew, stomach ache is better. Still horribly anxious.Tomorrow will better.:huggy

[spuddleduck]

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well done, keep it up. you know its worth it

[gettinghappy]

How do I keep falling back into this?

Thanks Spuddleduck, we all need people like you!:thanks: