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    Not even one day?...

    I have been coming here for a few days now & read the book and ordered the CDs and supplements as well as Topomax. My husband has been really supportive and I have been feeling hopeful. I told my husband last night that I wasn't goiNg to drink today because surely I could go a day without it as I wait for my stuff to arrive. He told me that would be the best Father's Day present I could give him. Well it's 6pm and guess who is drinking...it has been overwhelming to step out of denial and to research and read and read and read...What I have promised him is I wouldn't lie about it anymore which I won't...But I won't tell him today....I hate disappointing him and I am feeling pretty powerless. This part stinks.
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    Not even one day?...

    Hi Hazel do not be hard on yourself we have all been there :l Tomorrow is another day Hazel, so start again and you said that you are drinking now... maybe just pour the rest down the sink and have a yummy fruit juice drink xxxxx Stay here and keep posting you will receive only love and support.

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      #3
      Not even one day?...

      O hec Hazel no worries, Monday is a great place to start, just one Monday the 20th June could be the key to day 2 so dont be hard on yourself about today just concentrate on tomorrow, squeeze in some exercise tomorrow, keep busy busy busy believe that you can do it, i will be rooting for you and sending you positive thoughts, xxx good luck,
      Keeps x:happyheart:

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        #4
        Not even one day?...

        Hazel...I know exatly how you feel, just said something very similar on another post...so far I've tried and only got as far as day 3...but the support here really helps, and it helps me to keep coming right back to try again. How about we try and keep each other going? I'm struggling right now to get day 1 over and done with if that helps?
        Big love x
        ...peace and quiet....and a cup of tea.....heaven:h

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          #5
          Not even one day?...

          Thanks for the reply. Can you give me any tips about how you have been able to stay sober? How did you handle the beginning?
          Anything would be GREATLY appreciated.
          MissH

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            #6
            Not even one day?...

            Thank you QueenBug..
            I would love to work at this together. I am new to message boards, etc. So pls let me know if I don't do something right here. Are you taking supplements and CDs or are u new here as well?

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              #7
              Not even one day?...

              Have you had a look around the Meds section? Well worth a look imo.

              The unexamined life is not worth living

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                #8
                Not even one day?...

                I did come here a few years ago, and got the cd. In the meantime I've had some traumas and moved house and lost the CD...or it could still be in storage, I haven't got all of it back yet. The first time I came here I was in a real state and it was so helpful. Off and on I come back when I'm trying to get this under control again, but I don't always post...but the sense of others trying this too keeps me steady, otherwise I really just feel rubbish about myself and pretty alone with it.
                I'm a wine drinker, every night a bottle, on my own...started because I found it helped my feel better...few heartbreaks, alone with kids, screaming money problems and trying to finish a degree and get working again to support us all...sure you know this kind of stuff.
                I'm pleased with myself that I've managed to get a good, if extremely stressful job, the kids are good (although one drinks too much, and one other can't stand it if she sees me drinking wine...makes me sad and guilty)..money not quite so spiralling out of control...now I need to tackle this wine-demon!
                How you feeling now? x
                ...peace and quiet....and a cup of tea.....heaven:h

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                  #9
                  Not even one day?...

                  Thanks for asking. The way I always feel these days is full of GUILT!,,My son is older now (22) but I remember him being protective and not wanting Mom to "be sad".
                  Congratulations on the job...you should be pleased! I get the night thing. My preference is light beer...12 a night if I can possibly afford not to get up early...which is the case now since my son is grown. As I get older this gets harder to deal with.
                  How are you right now?

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                    #10
                    Not even one day?...

                    I'm jitterey...can' t sleep but have to be up in 6 hours...night times are the worst for me...and completely understand guilty...I just keep going backwards and forwards through the threads and I know that what we are feeling is normal...we just have to keep going.
                    My kids are 25, 20 and 18...time just flies doesn't it?
                    I've been looking at the thread on the fitness section, 30 days AF and excercise I think it is...looked ages ago and I'm going to give that a go. Started by KeepWalking...you seen that? x
                    ...peace and quiet....and a cup of tea.....heaven:h

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                      #11
                      Not even one day?...

                      I just wanted to say hi....today is day No 1 for me and I know how you feel. Tomorrow is another day and it doesn't matter how many times you have to start over, as long as you keep coming back here and starting over. This is an awesome website and we are all in your corner. Queenbug....I'm going to joing you in the thread in the fitness section.

                      Best of luck........you can do this!

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                        #12
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                        Jittery sucks. I know exercise helps! I am an "on or off " person so I know that when I am "on" the best thing is exercise. I remember a lomng time ago coming out of a really good exercise session and sitting in my car thinking "I feel really good"... I really believe what we have is a physical brain thing...like any other disease you have to figure out how to deal with it...I hate doctors so I am going to try here.

                        So you have three kids! It must be hard to watch them get older.. I know it was for me (just one)

                        xxx

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                          #13
                          Not even one day?...

                          hi miss hazel dont be too hard on your self you are going in the right direction and you have made a gigantic leap forward by coming to this site and ordering meds/cd, so well done, i will write you a pm tomorrow,(i must go to sleep soon) if i can give you any advice it would be to not make promises, i have made many and i have broken many, be honest with your self and hubby and your son but mostly be honest with your self, when you feel an" i promise" coming on maybe change to "ill try my best to " or i will do what i can not to, when you promise an the situation changes and the promise is broken it makes you feel guiltier and it hurts others more,you take the pressure of a promise of your shoulders an allow yourself a chance to not drink or moderate because YOU dont want to and not because you promised,there s slightly less chance of resentments,that s just what ive discovered on my way,wishing you well and hope to chat some more, remember your going in the right direction xx
                          if you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always got!

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                            #14
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                            It was hard...but joyous too...they are good people who have hadsome tough times...my son still lives with me as he is studying...eldest flown the nest and middle spent most of last year at her dad's and now travelling for a while...I do miss the times when they were small..having them with me...but wanted them to be independant and confident...which means letting go...everything changes...I think that's why I'm trying so hard with this.
                            I know I will be too tired to do much more than work tomorrow/today...I really hope I don't give in and drink when I get home...the gym would be a better idea...then I'd sleep I hope!
                            Your son know you are doing this? My lot don't...think I feel ashamed...crap eh? x
                            ...peace and quiet....and a cup of tea.....heaven:h

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                              #15
                              Not even one day?...

                              Well, Hazel, tomorrow is a new day

                              Sorry to hear you didn't make it through one day. You have to realize that it's been part of your day every day for a long time. You do have to use a little willpower, and when the thought creeps into your head, let is pass for 20 minutes before acting on it, and then DON'T.
                              Once you get through one or two days, then that will become the new habit-not drinking. It is almost 8:30pm here, and so I will be making it through two days. Don't think I am sitting here watching a movie and not feeling like I want a glass of wine because that would be great. If I have the glass of wine, then I am not giving up the wine. You will have to not do it one day to move on to the next day. Please start again tomorrow, and don't give in. You can do this!

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