Army Thread 13th July

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread 13th July

startingover;1146429 wrote: Hi guys.
I can only speak from my perspective here.
But I have not disappeared or fallen off the wagon, but I refuse to be abused by someone who bears me a grudge. Personal pms and then in public. Doesnt do my sobriety any good at all.
Anyway, I havent disappeared, I am still here, just looking after myself

Hi Starty hun, I wasnt speaking of you, sure you still post.
I was thinking of at least a dozen people, and none to my knowledge who had encountered a personal conflict on here, who just decided not to post anymore. Congrats again on your 3 years, brilliant.

[mario]

Army Thread 13th July

Ok i am of with my new personal trainer :-) didn't tell yis that did i :-)

[mario]

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laters

[stirly-girly]

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KTAB;1146419 wrote: Found this, its very cool. Are these the turtles you meant Stirly?

Sea Turtle Protection Society of Greece ARCHELONNope - the one I see is a field turtle. Has a grey-brown shell and body.

KTAB;1146422 wrote: Cynical old me assumes the worse for most, but do truly hope I am mistaken. Its a bit sad when people with whom we share important personal parts of our lives just disappear overnight I feel.


Speaking of wildlife did you see the dolphins have been in cork city centre the past few days?

KTAB - I often wonder too if people leave because they've fallen off the AF train and are ashamed to admit it so leave and don't return. For the most part I think they've got other reasons.
mario;1146426 wrote: I agree to ktab, its like a family member just upping & leaving.

Mario - if someone feels that MWO can no longer help them because they're confident that they will continue in their sobriety and need to move on then it's a good thing. Others feel that they no longer have anything to contribute to the boards. The thing is tho' when someone has been here posting regularly for a long time and just up and leave without a word as to why, it leaves us all wondering what happened to them. And it's a little upsetting as well because for the most part we have all received support from those members but have also supported them during rough patches. So it makes us feel a bit like - what the heck? Couldn't they have at least said they would be leaving? It's not even necessary for them to say why, just that they will no longer be posting here.

[stirly-girly]

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startingover;1146429 wrote: Hi guys.
I can only speak from my perspective here.
But I have not disappeared or fallen off the wagon, but I refuse to be abused by someone who bears me a grudge. Personal pms and then in public. Doesnt do my sobriety any good at all.
Anyway, I havent disappeared, I am still here, just looking after myselfGood to see you again Starts.
mario;1146433 wrote: You can always put them people on ignore starts ,just saying. as you are a great asset to us here, well to me anyway.As you well know by posting & interacting with people who know what its like to go through what we all have/are helps us in dealing with life.You cant let one person spoil what for you (i think)has been a positive experience.:l:l all said with the upmost respect to everyone else and you starts & other people who dont post no more.

Ditto to what Mario said, especially about the posting and interacting and how it helps us.

:wavin: Ms.-Another-Kilo+ Lost JC!!

Laters Mario. Is the PT a woman or a man??

[JackieClaire]

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The way I see it is that we form intense attachments over a short period of time on MWO unlike in the real world where a relationship with any one takes time to develop and blossom. So IMHO when a falling out occurs it's causes more hurt and chaos than the gradual drifting apart of other friendships.

And I agree wholeheartedly it should be kept of the boards.

[JackieClaire]

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Now then Good Morning Starts,

And forgot to say good luck Mollers.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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This is taking a different track to what I intended when I posted. I wasnt talking about people having a falling out or disagreement. I was talking about people who post almost daily for months even years then one day out of the blue just dont anymore. I wonder what happened to them. Some of these people have been a fantastic help to me personally and to others. I have learned with them, cried, laughed and experienced and shared a small slice of their lives. It makes me wonder why we bother at times. Ok I am done moaning now.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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See yis later.

[JackieClaire]

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In other news this morning,

It is the big weekend of the family portrait. Ma and Pa in law, sister in law + husband and 2 girls, Mr JC, me and our two.

No we won't be standing for 3 weeks while Leonardo di Vinci does his magic, just a local photographer and his Ma and Pa's garden.

Of course if the photo of me is seen by the press, I may not be around too much but you'll be able to catch the vision of my loveliness on the cover of such popular magazines as Fishing Weekly or Lawnmowers Today!!

[one2many]

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KTAB;1146449 wrote: This is taking a different track to what I intended when I posted. I wasnt talking about people having a falling out or disagreement. I was talking about people who post almost daily for months even years then one day out of the blue just dont anymore. I wonder what happened to them. Some of these people have been a fantastic help to me personally and to others. I have learned with them, cried, laughed and experienced and shared a small slice of their lives. It makes me wonder why we bother at times. Ok I am done moaning now.

I presume it is me who is being discussed here....albeit not too cryptically.

I hate goodbye threads, I hate "I am leaving" posts and I also hate the posts that follow, asking people not to go and to think about etc etc etc....

So for the record...

I decided for a number of reasons to withdraw from MWO, I did feel like I had nothing more to give and I sometimes felt a bit frustrated, I admit that when I saw people falling again and again and again I did find it upsetting and it used to get me down a bit, that is a flaw in my own personality that I am working on, I tend to let things like that affect me and sometimes, I would come away from here in a worse mood that before I went on.

ANYONE who is friends with me on here has my Facebook account, my email and my phone number...so there was never any need to "wonder" where I was. A couple of you (you know who you are) did contact me and I explained how I felt...I was always only an email or a text away. As I said, I was never one for doing the "I am leaving" thing, I prefer to slip away quietly and you all had my details.

I did get backlash for leaving, quite funny when I think about it, other people leave all the time and I get it in the neck from one member telling me how "everyone" felt. I am also with Starty on the horribly nasty pm's and putting abuse here on the boards. I did not deserve them in the first place, neither did Starty, especially Starty...enough about that, I don't need the negativity...

So, all in all, that's where I stand on it, I felt I no longer had anything to input, I wasn't giving up on any of my friends here, I was just moving on and you all had a means to contact me..and thanks to the ones that did. I am sorry if you felt that I should have put a post out or sent numerous pm's saying I was leaving, but it is not my style.

I have been here 3 years and have found this place a godsend and it has helped me so many times, I have made some great friends ( and lost some not worth keeping) and I have been talking to a few of you over the past few days and I will see you in Oct!

I am not worried in the slightest about my sobriety, I am happy in my own skin, confident and content, a million miles away from the girl who came here 3 years ago and for that I will always be very very grateful.

I hope this clears things up!

Oney xxx

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Hello Oney, you are correct I was thinking of you as well as Pops, Betty Boop, Cmyru as well as a few others. Glad to hear you are doing well.

[JackieClaire]

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Thanks for dropping in, Oney.
I'm truly glad you are happy with your sobriety and wish you great success with everything you put your mind too.

[tiptronic_ct]

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What the dog lady said

Quick lunchtime check-in from me.

My bounce is decidedly diminished today... I need sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep!!!! :upset:

[JackieClaire]

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Yo Tippers,

I could have been the blooming night watchman last night. I was awake on the hour every hour.

3.15am ...................and all's well

4.14am (I was a minute early there)...............and all's well

and on it went.

7.30 alarm goes off zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz