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    Day 4 and the worrying kicks in!

    I am currently on my 4th day of being completely sober and I can't help but worry and think about a number of things that I know I am going to have to face during my journey.

    1. I am worried that without alcohol I won't be as socialible as I use to be and perhaps have less tolarance for certain individuals or less patience for when waiting for the next game of pool or snooker to finish before its my turn to play again.

    2. Since starting my journey being sober, Im beginning to think about a number of friends of mine whom I am concerned about when it comes to alcohol. I guess that it is due to me being sober now and thinking back to the stupid alcohol-fueled nights out and realising that there are a number of mates that are extremely heavy drinkers, just like I use to be. One of them drinking pretty much 5-6 days a week, whom drinks about 2 bottles of wine each of those nights and then on 2 of those nights goes out drinking in the pub after the bottles of wine. I can't help but be very concerned for him, as to him it appears to be just a joke, and takes no seriousness to such large amounts of drinking.

    3. I am worried that I am going to lose a number of friends during my journey, not in the sence of arguing or anything like that, but our friendship will simply just slip away, as I would be avoiding the pubs and that would be the main place that we would meet up and socialise.

    4. I am worried that when I do once again begin socialising with people completely sober, I would be pressurised into drinking again. Some of the people I know, are devils for buying me drinks and I would be nervous that they would buy me a drink and I would have to turn the pint down and offend them. Some of them are easily offended when they buy you a drink and you decline it.

    I am guessing that these are all normal worries and thoughts when giving up the alcohol. I was wondering if anyone else thought of such things when they began their journey of giving up alcohol. I would really like to hear others storyies of what they perhaps thought about during their first days of giving up alcohol.

    Thanks
    Shephard

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    Day 4 and the worrying kicks in!

    Hi Shephard, when i started out i had some of them worries , not easy to get out of your mind but not worth thinking too much about, will you loose friends? to use the word loose them would be wrong, yes it will change at the start until they understand you don't drink, some of them won't like that but thats their problem. will people put pressure on you to drink at the start ? yes some will but they can't make you drink it. as for being less tolarance at the start you might be but then life gets better , smalls things don't piss you off. sorry to hear about your friend drinking problems but the truth is you need to worry about your drinking problems for now, it is up to your friends to sort themself's out. really the best thing you can do is not to look to far ahead , when i did i freaked out thinking there is no way i can live with out drinking and by living i mean going out , meeting people and feel normal, but i can and i did and so can you
    AF 5/jan/2011

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      #3
      Day 4 and the worrying kicks in!

      Hi Shepard and welcome.

      I had a lot of these worries also, but I stuck with staying off the booze and am now 7 months sober.

      My drinking buddies are still there. Darts was and now is my social game.
      I gave up the darts for a while and WAS pressured to coming back.
      But I needed to stay away from the pub for a while so thats what I did.

      I have recently returned to playing, my first few nights were tricky, but getting used to it now, although I tend to go home a little earlier now after I kick some ass on the oche (my game has improved since I quit).

      I also worry about some pals and the amount they drink, but I can only help myself at the moment.
      I am finding a lot of people asking me about how I am doing "not drinking", I am honest and tell them it has been tough but have never regretted quitting, and it is still one of the best decisions in my life I have ever made.They seem envious.

      I really hope you stay on here, it has been my main support in staying "off the gargle" and is still working for me.
      Put the work in, watch out for the sneaky cravings that creep up on you,they ease and pass, and you CAN do it.

      Rooting for you here in Dublin.

      Damo
      Still trying !!!
      AF 25th June2014

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