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[Lou]

Hey guys....hope you are all well and looking forward to christmas x
I just had the strangest moment, i tried on a beautiful evening gown that i wore to a christmas ball a couple of years back with my ex (he is a police man) and it broke my heart to remember the person i was then...i could have never imagined that i would end up who i am now. How and when does it happen that we change?..... i wanna be that girl again, i just hope its possible.

Loves to all

Lou Lou x x x

[I Like Brandy]

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Lou;

I get good vibes from your post, all will be well with you being the person you are striving to be!

Brandy

[Lou]

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Thank you Brandy...that means a lot x

Lou x x x

[vinophile]

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Lou,
That person is still there.Maybe the gown just reminded you that you have to go find her. You have the power to be any body you want to be. It takes work but it's worth it.
Janet

[Lou]

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Vino...thanks for your reply...i know its gonna take time an im so scared but i wanna be that girl again...i hate bein the me that i am now...but im so determined and commemts like yours just spur me on...thank you again.

Lou Lou x x x

[lucky 2.0]

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Lou,

You have not lost that girl. The best advise I ever received was "Act as if"

In your case, act as if you were that girl again. Make decisons as she would have. Once you begin to act as if you were her again, you will be.

All the best to you and Merry Christmas. And especially a happy new year in 2007.

lucky

[Mackeral]

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Thats good advice Lou....The old Lou is still there in you...Or an even better Lou waiting to get out after what you have been through...You'll definatly be wiser if nothing else...Mr right is around the corner...Better start washing that football kit

[bestlifeldms]

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Ohhh Lou,

You are right on! Break my heart about ex's. I lost mine in 1989. My fault, totally!

When you feel the way you feel, it has been my past experience that it is the verge if change. It is the best time to examine ourselves.

I really screwed up. My Mom died! Had a whole lot of displaced anger, and divorced my ex. Big mistake! Decided to moved to a different state, took my kids away from their father, to marry my new husband.
How wrong was that? Karma!!! New hub was a blast from the past. Long story. Hadn't talked in 16 years. Turned out OK, but DUMB, DUMB, DUMB!

When I made the decision, because of my mother's death to do a knee-jerk-reaction, I had been sober for 2years. Stayed sober for 3 more. 5 Years Sobriety. Finally 1993, I drank. Dumb! - Again! Hello!

When I moved to live with new hub, I HATED IT! It took me many years to realize that I had to create my own happiness! What is missing? Create it. What do I want? Create it! What do I need? Satisfy it!

Things got amazingly better. Paying attention to what you need is the most important thing you can do for yourself and for those you love. If you are not whole, you can't give them your best. I know from your posts, that is what you want.

PS- Things are better now.

Love and hugs, and Merry Christmas,

Best

It can for you! We all have evening gowns, Christmas balls, lost loves. But really, what is most important, and all that we really have, is ourselves. We are it. It is up to us.

Keep going! Do it!

[Hawk]

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Lou - Cannot really add to the wisdom already posted. But that girl is still there and you will uncover her. I know that feeling well. My girl is coming back --very slowly -- but she will come out. Yours too! Keep at it. You can do this.

[Lou]

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Thanks x

Thank you all for your support and advice guys, its much needed and appreciated. Guess i just got a bit down last night and lost my positivity ( i have the fattest eyes ever from crying!!!) I have to be strong and keep it together for myself and my family...my nanna is really sick at the moment and my mum is worried sick about the both of us. I guess the best christmas present i could give them would be me at least trying to get better instead of dwelling and moping about what could have been.
Anyway today is a new day and i really am trying...so thanks again for all your wise words

Loves to all and merry christmas

Lou Lou x x x x x

[weemelonhead]

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Hey Lou....so sorry to hear about last night.....One of the worst thins about this deal is the worry we cause others, knowing how much they love us, and yet sometimes feeling we haven't the strength do do 'just' the one thing that would ease the stress for family members......
This is about you.....in a recent post, Kate described how the feeling to change this situation had to start with needing to do this for yourself, many others agreed...the guilt for others is just not always a good thing to base change on...others can only benefit when you are strong for yourself. Neil used the picture of the oxygen mask in a plane...always help yourself first...otherwise you will never be in a position to be there in the way you want.......I hope you feel better today, and I hope that your nana recovers soon

And, by the way.....you say you don't want to dwell on what could have been......have you thought about a different ball dress??? You can't always wear the same stuff you did when you were 20/from the seventies etc....your life changes, fashion changes, your body changes....how 'bout getting a new frock that suits the Lou Lou now....go on...it's going to look great ....and dance the night/your life away

Much Love lou ......melonsoutfitters inc....xoxo

[Lou]

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Weemelon,
Thank you ...that made me smile so much and i know that your right. I am who i choose to be so its my choice to change...for ME...everyone else will benefit afterwards, Thanks again, you made a lot of sence there.

Loves and thanks

Lou Lou x x x

[Lou]

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Weemelon

And by the way im gonna go looking for that new frock tomorrow!! Thankyou

Lou Lou x x