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[sunshine_gg]

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Morning Canoodles!

Sooooo.. Canadian Gal... how do you get out of the toasting and getting toasted (pun intended)?? Without seeming impolite? Oh, and well done for surviving the teens! :l

RC, whoohoo for Mia! She's one lucky girl! Hope it all works out for both of you :l

Today, what did ya end up having for dessert???

I watched vet videos online last night and think I will attempt to give Atlas the injection myself this morning. CG, the vet is the one who's prescribed the Penicillin and Bute. Anyways, none of my usual helping hands are available this morning and I want to get out of here by 11am or so to get Peanut. It's a 2 hour drive on a good day and I have a number of stops to make, etc.

And this should suffice, my lovelies... I gotta get my behind in gear. Have a fabby Friday!!!

[Wally22]

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Canadian Gal, we used to do something called "yum sing" which meant bottoms up. Not sure of the spelling. Luckily my inlaws were not big drinkers, but there would be usually one or two a dinner.
Eating is such a big part of chinese culture. When we used to picnic, there was always someone cooking on the barbecue during the day, it was one long stop meal punctuated with baseball etc. someone still barbecued during the game.
One year my brother in law was trying to barbecue dried prawns (too funny they kept falling through the grill).
Talk soon.

[Wally22]

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Morning GG crossposted. I hope your needling and fondling goes well this morning. I am feeling really sorry for Atlas about now, this has gone on for a while now.
Hope you have an uneventful trip to pick up Peanut.
Has Mia been officially adopted? I know they slept together, which is a pretty good sign.

[MWOLady]

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Just Thinking Out Loud So Pass on By if You Like...

I've been doing some thinking about my drinking and want to get it down on paper. Hope yaw'll don't mind.

Yesterday I had a long talk with my little sister - yes she's in her mid 50s but she's still my little sister....Anyway she was going to try to quit drinking too but she caved and bought a bottle of wine...her doctor actually told her there was some indication in her latest blood test that showed she was a "drinker" - but she has a difficult time...she's suffered from major depression for years - has been on disability for about 6 years now - very very difficult marriage and home life from hell - she's too weak to leave - sad story. Anyway she's not strong enough right now to quit. I was asking her about Dad and Mum and what her memories were. My father was a very controlled guy. He didn't get into his heavy drinking years until he retired even tho when he did drink to excess before that it could get ugly - He was wound pretty tight. Mum was a social drinker, but again, once Dad retired she had to have her little tipple before supper and she would walk a mile over broken glass to get her refill. She could be very nasty sometimes and was a difficult person to live with. So for us kids - well let's put it this way, we don't have happy memories of childhood although our parents loved us as best they could and we had a good home otherwise.

We always ate dinner at 5:30 pm because that's when Dad wanted dinner. We never had cocktails, and never had wine with a meal - NEVER. Never had any booze in the house unless there was a party, or at Christmas or something like that. Dad would have a beer on the weekend. But later on when he got older, first thing in the morning he would come down fully dressed and head for the cupboard and have a shot of rum. When he would come home from work he'd have another shot. That was it. But this was when I was in my late teens.

Anyway, the Mr and I got talking about the different drinking cultures we grew up in. He had obviously told me about his parents before but this time as he talked about them it struck me anew how different his upbringing from mine was. I never met his parents as they died long ago.

His father was Russian and his mother was French - and from an affluent family. They always had several cocktails before dinner - they ate late, and always had wine with dinner, and sometimes more drinks after - they were very social and went out to dinner often,, and had lots of parties. He's an only child and has memories of himself decked out in a little suit and tie, shaking cocktails in a shaker!!!

So fast forward to today: here's the happy couple around 5pm. The Mrs. (that's me) I'm getting hungry. I don't want a cocktail. I want to get dinner ready and EAT. The Mr. (that's cocktail-boy) wants to have a glass of red, and put his feet up on the coffee table and watch the early news. Conflict!!

Dinner is finally ready around 6 ( in the past I'd be on my second glass of red to quell my hunger). I want to EAT. The Mr. wants to put a movie on, pour more wine, mosey on into the living room and leisurely watch the movie, pour more wine and then around 8, put the TV on and watch some lousy hockey game, then read until bedtime. Oh, great, now I get to clean up the kitchen. Yiiipppee!

Apart from that last bit of sarcasm the point here is that all of a sudden I'm experiencing a major culture shock!!! There has been a major disconnect in my marriage from the gitgo and it has not been a lack of love. The Mr. is a really great guy and I love him dearly. :h

The problem is that he comes from a major drinking culture and I DON'T.

Phew!!!!!! This thinking is exhausting...

So now I just have to think - how am I going to change this. I have the rest of my life to live. I don't want my dear husband to control me so tightly - he doesn't know that he does this - in fact he thinks I control HIM!!! And he'll tell people this!!! :H:H But in reality I let him do this because I think if I assert myself he'll get mad - and of course he does get mad - that's the old passive aggressive trick eh? And being the adult child of an alcoholic I'm afraid of anyone getting mad at me.

So on we go....more thinking to do...

[canadian gal]

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Hey Canuckers!

GG- Hope all went well with Atlas' injection. Gosh I hope he gets better soon. Have a great time with Peanut! And, I plan to order a bottle of Sprite instead of beer, so that I have something to toast with.

Wally- In Macau they speak Cantonese and we speak Mandarin. Bottoms up is: Gan Bay (spelling changed for phonetics). And yes, food is SO important. I am sure I will gain at least 5 pounds in the next 10 days. Ah well, I'm on holiday!

MWOL- I'm glad you got your thinking out in writing. That always helps. I'm sorry about your sister and your childhood memories. As for your Mr. I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm just a youngen. My marriage is fairly new (2.5 years) so I still have the "right" to boss my hubby around. Did you try talking to him about it? Did you ever mention to him that maybe he should cut back on drinking for his health? Or that it would be nice of him to help you with dinner and/or the dishes? Do you think that when you get back from your trip you could make some slight adjustments to his regular routine? When is the trip btw? Also is this just in the winter months or is the summer the same? In my opinion (and remember, I'm just a youngen) you shouldn't sacrifice so much happiness for 1 person. I hope that doesn't sound selfish, but YOU do have YOUR life to live, not his.

Well ladies, I'm off to bed! Have a great one

[sunshine_gg]

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Yooo-hooo, Canucklerdoodles!

Phew, long day (trip to the big smoke always is) but I'm happy to report Peanut and I are home safe and sound and pooped (one of us poopy, even.. but that's an entirely different subject).

I got lucky this morning (no, not like that); my neighbour had finished digging himself out of the white hills by 10am, so he came over and did the horse poking. Atlas' 'thingies' were unchanged, his spirit also unchanged... seems happy as ever.

After (too) many stops and $$ I arrived at my daughter's place shortly after 3pm. Loaded up the peanut and his worldly belongings and headed home. Got here just after 6pm. In my infinite wisdom (no, really, this time!) I had made a yummy soup ahead so all I had to do was warm it up. Peanut seemed pleased - he ate all of his and half of mine :H After that it was play time, bath time, story time, bed time.... all without fuss or muss. Perfect lil angel. Almost don't want to tell my daughter :H I'll throw a picture in from tonight at the end of this mini-novel.

Lady, first off, you type out loud any time you want to! I always found writing thoughts to be quite therapeutic. Also, once you see it black on white, it's often easier to decipher your own feelings, reactions, etc. Well done. As for your dilemma... I'm not sure what the answer is. Ideally, both of you would give a little to meet in the middle. So far, it sounds as if you're doing all the giving. As far as meals go... you don't HAVE to eat together (at least not all the time).. there are times when our schedules here don't quite jive and we'll eat whenever it fits. Granted, it's not ideal.. but neither is your situation right now.

And being the adult child of an alcoholic I'm afraid of anyone getting mad at me.

Boy, does that resonate with me. Even though my dad was an alcoholic (been dry for close to 30 years now) I don't think that's where it stems from for me but just the same... I'm right with ya.

Wally, we haven't heard any stories of the reno war in... like a week! Updates!?

And, RC, who's reportedly been sleeping with a strange mutt... where/how are ya!?

Alright.. that's it for me.. I should make it a reasonably early night as I won't have the luxury of sleeping in tomorrow Night night, everyone and, here's the peanut tonight (that's hat hair, btw... not bed hair):

[canadian gal]

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Hi Ladies,

Well I'm off. I'll be checking in daily with loads of stories! Just wanted to wish you all a great weekend!

[Today]

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Canadian gal; enjoy your weekend and definitely keep us updated! (oh, and thanks for asking about my cat, it was super stressful but worked out for the best) He had been acting bit odd around the same time I started drinking again (about a week)... I forgot what a slippery slope that is for me. On my day 1 I take him to the vet and lo and behold; horrid infection and rotten teeth! All taken care of now and I am proud I took care of my responsibility.

Sunshine; Peanut is adorable!

MWO Lady, your story definitely cannot be passed by. I too am child of alcoholic and can relate to your quote about not wanting anyone to be mad at you. Find your way to make this work for you, I think you'll feel good about YOU helping best to deal with the differences.. Good luck!

[sunshine_gg]

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Hola, Canucklings!!!

Definitely sunny here, although still friggin' freezin'

Canadian Gal, have a fabby week, stick to your Sprite, eat yourself silly, and enjoy!
Ohh... Today, I totally missed the part about your kitty! So sorry.. glad the fur ball is feeling better, though. Does that mean wet food only, then?
Still no change in Atlas but it's supposed to warm up to 4Celsius on Monday, so that may be my chance to wash his private parts... hopefully that'll help.

Not much else to report, the peanut is taking a nap right now and I probably won't be back at the computer until later, after he's crashed for the night Happy Saturday, yaw'll!

This was this morning.. we were out feeding horses:

[techie]

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very cute gg !

[MWOLady]

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Hey!!! gg no fair - you get animals, and babies!!!!! Me, I get an old fart, and a middle aged dog :upset:

Thanks for comments on my saga. Yes, I'm working on some things. No movie last night, and there will be no movie tonight!! Going to get my feet in good enough shape to get a pedi next week (you know what that's all about, don't say you don't!!). And there's a senior cit's club I can join that has a little gym that is really cheap, with cafe attached. I know, seniors!!!! but what the hell - it's the only game in town - and I'm desperate!!! It will get me OUT OF THE DAMNED HOUSE A FEW TIMES A WEEK WITHOUT THE MR!!!!!!! I need to get on the treadmill and do some weights and this is the only answer. IT'S A START PEOPLE!!!!!.

I simply have to start doing nice things for myself. I always feel selfish if I even buy a chocolate bar!!! How sick is that! You know why? Because the Mr. doesn't eat chocolate bars :upset::upset::upset:

Topa is kicking in nicely. I do not want to drink at all. Still feeling nicely loopy. Had to do quite a bit of driving today and it was a bit scary actually but I just took it easy and all was well. You know that feeling when you arrive at your destination and you wonder how you got there? Well that was me today. My guardian angel was working overtime. As well, I got into a long conversation with a big fat old fellow in the very long line at the Walmart this afternoon. We gabbed on about lots of things. He told me all about his various operations, his wife and all her struggles at work, his lousy kids and their drug problems, the fact that he can't sleep - and we shared stories about living in Calgary - what a hoot! but it passed the time!!!

It's been very quiet on the Knucklehead thread for a few days now. Hope all is well with everyone - various cats, horses, yaw'll, etc. :h

[sunshine_gg]

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:H Lady!

I HATE Walmart... simply for the checkout procedure. I can zip through the entire store and get what I need in 10 minutes flat.. only to spend 25 minutes at the cash register! Arrrgh! But, I've had those yapping to perfect strangers in line up happen to me as well!

As for your seniors gym *snicker* a Seinfeld episode comes to mind... :H Doesn't matter where or with whom.. as long as you get moving!

Speaking of moving... I am NOT. I'm POOPED. Do you realize there are people who HAVE KIDS at my age??? :wow: Like a very good friend of mine back in Germany. His grand son is older than his youngest daughter. Go explain that to the kids :H Anywho.. that lil peanutty one thoroughly tired me out today. We went out again this afternoon and crashed and burned with the sled :H Fun, fun.

Well, I do have to throw in a load of laundry and that'll be pretty much it for me. If I find the energy, I may soak in the tub for a bit.. if not, I think I'm off to bed/TV shortly.

Have a great night (what's left of it) - type at ya tomorrow!!!

And where ARE all of our other Canucks!???????

[RingingCedars]

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Love the apple rosy cheeks on the Peanut GG. He looks to be having a blast. Haha who wouldn't being zipped around on a sleigh all bundled up! Brings back memories.
I've had this little puppy for years and gave it to Mia. It kinda struck me as a mini Mia so had to take a pic. At first she wanted to rip into it, so I told her no and to stay. She's really quite obedient. So when I released her stay she was ever so gentle with it. I gave her a cute Russ rabbit too and man can she shake that up!
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Aw well, pics are not in the correct order. Me tired too.
CG good luck with all those crazy parties you'll be attending. Sounds like a lot of fun actually,(karaoke in your own private room?)but stay strong.
MWOL if you can get your body in gear like your mind--you'll be a working those pounds off in no time.:H Well, I just wrote a story for you and deleted. I know what you mean about not wanting someone mad at me too. :l
Hope you're all having a good night.

[Wally22]

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Mia is gorgeous!!!

[sunshine_gg]

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OMG, that last picture is just adorable!!! :h

So, is she staying, then?