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[jennyneric]

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It is ludicrous that y'all talk about me in the third person like I'm not here or can't read or am a child. Guess what, I am 36 years old, I am not a child. M3 I like you alot and have always valued your input but to say "I hope shes ok for her and those children of hers"! Really, you think I am so bad that I would put my children at risk! Please stop now guys, I hate conflict, I'm glad y'all care but I think I have made a terrible mistake being honest and posting here just to have it thrown back at me. It's not a mistake I will make again. I have just deleted all my posts for September, pretty soon all of them will be gone from here, and before you ask or lecture me on how I would want to read those one day, I have saved them for myself which is the only person that needs to read them anyway. I told my daughter to stay off forums, I should have taken my own advice. Live and learn.

[jennyneric]

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Sheri;1181409 wrote: Marshy, I really think we ought to let Jenny decide whether my comments were helpful to her or not. I have no idea what they will validate for her, but my intention was to let her know that I care and understand how she might have felt. I personally thought that some of the comments that were made to her on the Abs thread were unneccessarily harsh and hurtful and if they needed to be said to her, perhaps a private message would have been the kinder way to go about it. No one likes to feel ganged up on or belittled in front of other people, or talked about after the fact, and I think that's true for everyone here, not just me and Jenny. That kind of thing is humiliating and really hurts to the core, and it shouldn't have to be that way, not on a forum where we are supposed to be supporting one another. I understand that you don't want people who are modding posting on the abs thread, but I didn't get that Jenny wanted to be a modder. However, even if that is the case, or you don't want her talking about when she drinks, could it not have been handled with more sensitivity to Jenny's feelings?

Quite honestly, I'm feeling a bit reprimanded and ostracized myself, and can tell you that it really doesn't feel very good at all. Anyone who has read anything I've ever posted here over the past 2.5 years knows my sentiments on alcohol and that I have first hand knowledge of the life and death situation it causes. I get it, I really do, so there's really no need to lecture me or treat me like I don't have a clue. I simply felt the pain of someone else and did what I would have wanted someone to do for me under the same circumstances. If you think that was wrong, so be it, but it's my conscience I have to live with.

Amen!

[Cinders]

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Jenny,

Like G, I just want to know you are okay.

Love,
Cindi

[jennyneric]

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Yep Cindy, I'm great! It's a beautiful day here in Texas. Gonna be a sober weekend cause I don't have to drink everyday!

[red67]

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Jenny, I am sorry to see that you feel attacked or hurt by what was said to you here. I do not know you, nor really anyone here. I just try to post what I feel and hopefully help someone not go down the path I and so many others have. When I was your age, I am now 44, I had about two years of " non normal" drinking under my belt and I would not listen to anyone about it. I would make it clear to everyone that I knew what I was doing and would never take it to the next level. At that time I was also going to school and working full time. Without rehashing whole story again, I ended up now how many years later finally willing to be honest and do the work I needed to stop the insanity.

Maybe you will not get that far, just the fact that you are trying to address it now might help you figure this out before it goes any further.

Just be honest with yourself and don't let the alcohol rob you of the precious limited time we all have on this earth.

I wish you only the best!

[jennyneric]

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That's awesome Red! I do feel attacked and hurt but such is life right! I do appreciate the support here and I do realize I have the potential to have a really bad drinking problem and that I must keep the beast at bay or it will go to the next level. It does not hurt my feelings or make me defensive for people to tell me I exhibit signs of a drinking problem, I know that. I guess it makes me angry when the tell me what I HAVE TO do about those signs and if I don't I will be a hopeless alcoholic with no future. I'm glad that something has worked for most here but just because it worked for you does not mean it's the only way, open your mind. Thanks for your post.

[red67]

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Thanks for responding Jenny, keep up being viligant and hope you have an awesome weekend!

[Bean]

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Hi Jenny

Have to be super quick as I'm about to be picked up for work. I totally understand the feeling of 'falling through the cracks' on the MWO boards. I have bounced about all over the place. I started a thread called 'The Whirlpool' about 4-5 weeks ago exactly about what you described....not AF, not modding, not a newbie etc etc. It's hard to know where to put ourselves sometimes.

For me that was another reflection of the rollercoaster I've been on with AL. Sometimes wanting to drink with abandon and not care at all, other times desperately wanting to be AF, deciding to try Modding. In the end I find/found all of that dithering just as debilitating as drinking itself.

Anyway, just wanted to say that I hope you will stick around here after all. We all know how posts can be misconstrued because we don't hear tone of voice etc.
What no-one has mentioned (I don't think) is that at the end of your post that started all this debate you wrote "man, I wish this sobriety thing would stick". IMHO that's the most telling comment of all. I know people keep saying 'wishing' won't do anything. Agreed. But to my mind that sentence expressed your deepest inner intention.

Best of luck to you as you work out your next steps.
Bean

[sdlovespackers]

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Hey Jenny-
Not sure we've ever met--wish we had tho!! I'm 37 years old with an amazing 9 year old son (no hubby however--divorced). I'm much like you--never been in trouble with the law, never was a morning (or day) drinker, have a great job (done with the school thing, thankfully ) but I'm guessing something led us here...something didn't feel right. For me, I knew I "could have" kept functioning the way I was...but (I wasn't very happy) AND I wasn't being the best I could be for my son...which was fine for me to know and say to myself (which I did almost every day) but it just doesn't sit well to hear from anyone else does it?!? :l I'm finally being the mom every day I"m proud of (for just about 100 days now)--and I couldn't have done it without some AMAZING ladies on the Monthly Ab Thread. This is the longest I've ever gone AF, and they are so supportive...please, if you'd like, I'd invite you to join me (us) on that thread. It has a catchy September name...and it will be changing October 1st if you want to read a little and think about it! I hope you stick around..It would be nice to get to know ya!!
SD

[rustop59]

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Jenny
I dont know you either but I second what SD has just said. If it were not for that thread I would have left MWO a long time ago. You are not the first to have that experience and unfortunately others just leave and we never hear from them again. So feel free to join us.

Rustop

[momof3]

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Jenny,

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and wishing you all of the best.

M3

[wannachange]

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Hi Jenny,

Believe in yourself for this is the only one thing you truly own and can truly ever call your own, opinions of others are... simply just that.. opinions, not real, not truth, only how they believe or want to believe.

You just believe in yourself and you will come out the other end smiling.

Keep up the good work and take care of yourself!

[Doggygirl]

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Sheri;1181204 wrote: Hi Jenny,

I don't really post here anymore, but I did read the comments that were made to you yesterday and felt the virtual sting of some of the words that I know you must have felt too. No one likes to be reprimanded and ostracized in the public spotlight, or talked about in open forum for the world to see, and I can only imagine how hurtful that was for you under the circumstances. I've been so fortunate to have finally found freedom from AL, but there but for the grace of God go I, and I would hope that if I were struggling, I would still be welcome to post on the Abs thread as long as I still had a desire to be AF and was working toward that goal. I would also hope that if someone didn't want me posting on a particular thread anymore or thought that something I wrote was inappropriate that they would give me the benefit of the doubt and tell me in a much kinder and gentler way because they cared about my well being and respected me as a fellow human being on this sometimes very rocky road that we travel on. My heart goes out to you, and if there's any way I can help to support you, please feel free to PM me.

Sheri

It must be easy to be perfect - never say a wrong word, ...never offend anyone, etc. when one doesn't participate actively in the forum. Good of you to pop in and share your opinion. Just sayin...

DG

[RingingCedars]

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Whoaaa--are you offended DG? I agree that Jenny got pounced on pretty hard. Just sayin--

[Doggygirl]

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Everyone is entitled to their opinion RC. Jenny knows where I stand - her and I have discussed it directly.

My comment was about how easy it is to be an armchair quarterback. That's all.

DG