THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

[Irie]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

I think the magic of this book is that it dissolves the mental addiction to alcohol. I'm two weeks AF today (yeah!) so the physical cravings are gone. What I have to face now is the mental craving. This has always been my downfall, but miraculously, my thinking is changing at warp speed. I think in equal parts it's because of the insights from the book, and the insights and lessons learned by coming to MWO every single morning, and every single evening.

All that being said, I feel really fragile right now. I don't have enough time under my belt yet to not dread the pressures of the upcoming weekend. Somehow, I just know if I can get to Monday without a drink, I will have beat this beast almost into submission.

I'm definitely going to put a solid plan in place for the next few days. When I post on Monday you can bet your life I will be triumphant and joyful. Monday will not be a day one for me. You can take that to the bank!

[Unwasted]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Tips, well how absolutely cool about your mom. BTW, I borrowed your idea on my signature - I guess we are officially Vale groupies.

Irie, I am happy to hear that you are doing well - thanks for posting on this thread and keeping us apprised on how it's going. Sending you peace and strength.

[Tipplerette]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Irie, if you can teach your 'ego' or your 'inner voice' that whenever it reminds you that you CAN'T drink, it is wrong. You can drink but you choose not to. You choose to live a life free of 'can'ts'. By choosing not to drink you are free from the Constant And Never-ending Torture of trying to control the uncontrollable.

Unwasted I am honoured that you are signing in the same thankful, joyful way that I am... peace and strength back atcha and out to you all.

xoxo

Tips

[lolab]

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Hey all - just want to thank you all for the positive and uplifting reviews of this book. I'm back to MWO after 6 months of struggling with letting go - following a 30 plus day AF period in Feb/March. Somewhere during that time I read Allen Carr's book and I am now reading Jason Vale's. So the concept is not new to me. So far there are lots of similarities, but I do feel like I'm relating more to Vale.

I'm reading it post "quitting" as the last time I drank was Sept 25th. But I figure a little more reinforcement is a good thing! I feel VERY strong this time and so totally agree with the mindset of feeling blessed to be alcohol free rather than deprived. And FYI I have often gone the route of staying "topped off" on vodka 24 hrs a day for days at a time while living my life and taking care of my family (and hiding it!)....now if that doesn't take alot of effort! What a waste.

"we have to stop for a moment and acknowledge that we are at a place in our journey where we are open to hearing what he has to say" so true Tipplerette.

Thanks to all of you!

[Unwasted]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Lolab, I had also read Carr, and it made sense to me but didn't hit me where I live if ya know what I mean. Vale's obviously did. So, even though they're similar, Vale's has a lot more substance and depth of explanation. His analogies worked for me; Carr's were a bit simplistic. I think Vale'c comparisons of alcohol to heroin and cocaine are valid and poignant.

Please let us know how it impacts you as you read. You sound like you're where I was at when I read the book - ready to quit and then it just becomes a solidifier!

Best to you!

[crimsons]

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Thought you guys might enjoy this song -- I think it applies to our pal AL!
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@Irie, I think the general public acceptance of AA and the disease model as "the only way" may actually lead some who drink too much into a serious problem. I'm not bashing AA, but the blanket attitude that you MUST do this if you want to address drinking. I think a lot of people, when struggling to figure out what they're doing with AL, quietly give up and assume they're an "alcoholic" and must at some point devote their lives to ongoing recovery. During this period of quiet desperation, their drinking gets worse and worse while they are not addressing the unique reasons they're doing it. The way Vale expresses it, it seems like any other habitual behavior, like eating fries, watching TV, texting, napping -- anything! Just my $0.02.

[DJL]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

I have not been on the site since June. I am half way through the book and thought it was working. Went to lunch today and had 4 vodkas in 30 minutes. Tell me there is something at the end of the book that will help me turn the corner. I can't do this much longer.

[Irie]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Thanks, Tips. I actually logged in at work because I had a random "I want a glass of wine tonight, damn it" thought sneak in. With new resolve I'm remembering I could have it, but why on earth would I want to?

[crimsons]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

@DJL, keep reading. Remember in the beginning, he tells you to keep drinking if you're already drinking. There's an instruction at the end for having your last drink. You may be ready by then. If not, be gentle with yourself and keep coming back to participate in MWO. In my experience, it was a gradual process until I decided there were things I like better than AL, and that I could drink, but didn't want to as it kept me from these other things I liked more.

[Unwasted]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

DJL and Irie - great advice from Crimsons and Tips - sending everyone :l

[daisy45]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

DJL;1188742 wrote: I have not been on the site since June. I am half way through the book and thought it was working. Went to lunch today and had 4 vodkas in 30 minutes. Tell me there is something at the end of the book that will help me turn the corner. I can't do this much longer.

Hi DJL, keep reading; I was more than halfway through the book and because Vale had said to keep doing as we were, I went and bought in my wine. Even on the way to do that, I said to my daughter not to worry as it would be my last visit there. I read some more and settled down to have my usual drinks. Something had already changed - while I drank I could almost see the effects on my insides; instead of feeling relaxed, I felt 'stupefied'. To reduce the brain shrinkage I then started drinking water and then it just wasn't worth the bother any more - I simply didn't want to do this to myself anymore, so most of the second bottle went down the sink. I knew that was my last drink.
Then, next day, as I read on, I came across that chapter on 'the last drink'. I thought 'oh no, I've done it wrong; does this mean I have to force more crap down my throat?' And, Thank God, I read on, and he said 'if you've already had your last drink, congratulations!' I was seriously relieved and knew my thinking had changed.
One of the main things Vale emphasizes is to read with an 'open mind'. Read on, you're doing just like he said you should...........

[DJL]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

I can't thank you all enough for your replies. I was so excited the last two days to be doing so good and believing this book was the answer. Can't believe I did it again. Already coming off the buzz of a couple hours ago and committed to continue. This place really does help. This insanity is wearing me out. Please tell me it's going to get better.

[Unwasted]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

IT'S GOING TO GET BETTER! :l

[DJL]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Unwasted, out of everyone out here you really do sound like you are changed or something has "clicked', I can sense the energy in your message. Thanks for sticking around to help the rest of us.

[Unwasted]

THIS BOOK WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

DJL, I think helping other people figure this out by telling them what works for you is essential. Everyone here is so good about sharing information - I get a lot from reading about what works for others - whether that's AA, Balcofen, you name it. I just hate what alcohol does. It really is a life-ruining piece of shit. And, for the people who are drinking and thinking they're doing just fine............tell them to call me down the road after they're so hooked they can't control it anymore (if they ever could). We'd all be better off if the crap never entered our lives. Forget moderation - it's poison and we don't need ANY of it!

Wishing success for you!