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[Unwasted]

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Mama Bear, so glad you're getting the book. It really was a life saver for me - my quality of life has changed dramatically and I'm enjoying life instead of enduring it! Best to you!

[Guitarista]

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Hi all,

Two thing's come to mind.

1. We don't need alcohol to have a good time. Alcohol and our addictive thinking is a big liar, and our own evidence has totally shown this to be true, not only once, but time and time and time again. When do we learn and finally actually understand what is happening to us? Doh!

2. I want some pumpkin muffins.

[Unwasted]

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Guitarista - kinda like smoking -- was once touted as being good for us -- now known to be deadly!

[Guitarista]

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Unwasted;1190269 wrote: Guitarista - kinda like smoking -- was once touted as being good for us -- now known to be deadly!

Pumpkin muffins are deadly? Noooo! Tell me it isn't so.

[Tipplerette]

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Come on over, guitarista, we have a cookie tin full of them. Delicous too.

Unwasted, i felt cornered when the 50$ bottle of wine was presented to me as a gift. I have no intereste whatsoever and was surrounded by drunk family last night at the fire pit. No one was too obnoxious although niece's boyfriend injured his thumb by slamming it in the door and hit the motor home awning 'arm' twice last night smashing his head both times. He was very drunk. Another thing is when I went to bed with a houseful, my dishwasher had been emptied, house tidied up, all the guest beds made up. In my drinking days I would have shoved sheets and blankets in their arms, left the kitchen in a mess and stumbled off to bed. Feels great.

Daisy we can't change the world in a few days but it's tempting eh. I have to bite my tongue to stop myself from trying to persuade everyone to stop the insanity but I've been around long enough to know that that would only cause insecurities and resentment among drinkers.

Bye for now, got a turkey to stuff.

Tips

[mauritiusdodo]

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Halfway through the book and it is totally amazing, I feel like someone has switched a light bulb on inside my head and I can now see what alcohol really is! thank you so much unwasted :thanks: I can't wait to read the rest it is truly inspiring!

[daisy45]

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Hi Mdodo, glad you're enjoying the book. It's hard to put it down once you've started. Read it last week and unbelievably my thinking has changed. Best of luck!

[Unwasted]

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Mauri - SUPER - I'm thrilled to hear that the book is making a difference in your thinking. It seems to me that the mental shift is essential for long term sobriety since the physical addiction goes away pretty early on.

We'll look forward to hearing more from you. Thanks for posting about how it's going!

[timetochangeforme]

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Just finished the book yesterday

I am writing some things down, kind of like a journal and here's what I have so far

10/11/11 I am not going to continue to be a drug addict, alcohol is a highly addictive drug which is the reason people become addicted. Society is so brainwashed that it considers the people to have a ?disease? when they become addicted to a highly addictive drug, everyone that drinks is addicted or why would they have any. There is an adjustment period of one to three weeks, this is only because your brain has been conditioned for so long and it is just an adjustment period. Feel relieved and excited about it. I no longer have to take a highly addictive drug! I am out of that trap! I see what all the advertising and bull shit is about! There are forces that want to keep people buying their product until they die from it, destroying their lives and the lives of people around them in the meantime, they have no morals and don?t care about the quality of your existence or if you live or die, except that if you die you will stop buying their product so they have to recruit more addicts. No one would ever drink if they weren?t brainwashed by society that there has to be something good about it, it must be ?cool? and ?grown Up?, they get convinced by the other addicts and actual advertising to try it, and they power through it the first few times because of the brainwashing until ultimately they become addicts as well. There are some people who physically cannot keep drinking and they are the ones who don?t become addicts, or the ones who never started for some other reason, but society still says they are missing out, and that there is something good about alcohol but they just don?t want the bad parts. Well they are all bad parts. It doesn?t relax you, it stupefies you, you can?t even remember the end of the night. It doesn?t relieve boredom, it makes you boring, you don?t want to do anything except keep drinking. You will do the bare minimum of what you have to do, throw something together and then not even eat yourself because you snacked on crap while drinking the first 2 or 3 glasses. Gee wonder why we are gaining weight and can?t lose any?

Thanks for this thread. I read Allen Carr's book but this addresses some more issues for me I think.:thanks:

[mauritiusdodo]

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timetochange thank you for your post (wish we had a thanks button on here!)
It's an amazing book isn't it?!

[anon]

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timetochangeforme;1191522 wrote: I am writing some things down, kind of like a journal and here's what I have so far

10/11/11 I am not going to continue to be a drug addict, alcohol is a highly addictive drug which is the reason people become addicted. Society is so brainwashed that it considers the people to have a ?disease? when they become addicted to a highly addictive drug, everyone that drinks is addicted or why would they have any. There is an adjustment period of one to three weeks, this is only because your brain has been conditioned for so long and it is just an adjustment period. Feel relieved and excited about it. I no longer have to take a highly addictive drug! I am out of that trap! I see what all the advertising and bull shit is about! There are forces that want to keep people buying their product until they die from it, destroying their lives and the lives of people around them in the meantime, they have no morals and don?t care about the quality of your existence or if you live or die, except that if you die you will stop buying their product so they have to recruit more addicts. No one would ever drink if they weren?t brainwashed by society that there has to be something good about it, it must be ?cool? and ?grown Up?, they get convinced by the other addicts and actual advertising to try it, and they power through it the first few times because of the brainwashing until ultimately they become addicts as well. There are some people who physically cannot keep drinking and they are the ones who don?t become addicts, or the ones who never started for some other reason, but society still says they are missing out, and that there is something good about alcohol but they just don?t want the bad parts. Well they are all bad parts. It doesn?t relax you, it stupefies you, you can?t even remember the end of the night. It doesn?t relieve boredom, it makes you boring, you don?t want to do anything except keep drinking. You will do the bare minimum of what you have to do, throw something together and then not even eat yourself because you snacked on crap while drinking the first 2 or 3 glasses. Gee wonder why we are gaining weight and can?t lose any?

Thanks for this thread. I read Allen Carr's book but this addresses some more issues for me I think.:thanks:

Very well written precis of the book. I have found this book so such a useful tool in changing my thinking.
As although I have been AF for a while it has been a struggle but this book seems to help me realise that I am not giving up anything in fact I am starting (have started) a new and better life
:thanks:

[Unwasted]

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Good posts everyone. Unlike anything I've ever read, this book made me absolutely know I would never drink again once I had completed it. I had originally bought one for my e-reader and then bought a second copy so I could makes notes and refer back to it more easily. We are losing nothing and gaining everything by not drinking, and I honestly believe that 100% now. I've seen the light! Sounds corny, I know, but it's true.

[Tipplerette]

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Here, here, I second the motion. Seems like it's a natural thing now, to refuse drinks at all times. I am really enjoying my teas. Not into soft drinks or juice so for me it's herbal and green teas and lemon water. Anything to quench my thirst. Alcohol adds to the thirst. How ridiculous is that !!

[looking for peace]

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Hi All! I Have about 20 pages to go and want to get past an issue about what to say to other people so I am asking advice.

So far ALL of the book has resonated with me. Much has been mentioned already, so I won't repeat all of it. I love how encouraging the last few chapters are. (I'm usually just breezing through the end of self help books as I feel the "meat" is in the first part... I"m not doing that this time)

He says that he was his own jailer and he realized he always had the key to get out. While reading the book my biggest stumbling block was still getting over what to say or do in social situations. He says when he used to drink and he went to a party the number one priority was to get a drink first, everything else came second. The first thing he'd say was "I'll talk to you in a minute, let me get a drink first" How crazy is that? It hit me like a ton of bricks... My first priority at every party, dinner, celebration was getting that drink first (either consiously or subconsiously) What a waste of the present moment! Now that he is an ex drinker, he really enjoys a good party and talking to the people and remembering everything that was said and being able to drive home with no worries.

He also said when he was first not drinking, he'd hide the fact in social situations. He'd tell people He was driving or on medication. How sick is it that in our society we have reached a stage were we have to justify not needing to be on a drug anymore???? He doesn't recommend that anymore, he just says to let people know you don't need to drink anymore. What do people here tell friends, family etc? I'm still leaning toward "hiding" the fact at first at least.

I hope people that are reading the book now, and that are still on the fence about some of the issues brought up will post their concerns. Maybe someone here can help clear them up while you are reading. Vale says that you must be clear on everything before you are truly free. Thanks for this thread and the help.

[Unwasted]

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LFP, I'm going to straight up say I'm not drinking anymore. This is the truth of my story: I initially sought out information about how alcohol affects sleep because mine was so disturbed that my next day was ruined. When I first started researching, I had no idea there was a connection. I thought alcohol was supposed to help you sleep. I won't go into detail about what I found out, but suffice it to say that alcohol was the single culprit in my sleep problem. Once I stopped I almost immediately started sleeping 7-8 hours. If I happen to wake up during the night I go back to a deep sleep. Before I would wake up and that was it - my night was ruined. So here's what I say:

'I initially stopped drinking after realizing that even the smallest amount disturbs my sleep. Now that I've stopped I feel so much better I don't want to drink again. And, in all my research I have found out just how toxic alcohol is -- linked to cancer, etc. So, that's why I don't drink. I could, but I don't want to anymore because my life is so much better now. I highly recommend giving it up.'

I get people who seem interested in quitting but you can tell they are afraid because they feel they can't.

Why not be a potential catalyst for change is my thinking. Of course, we all have to do what's right for our situation. That's just what works for me.