An Apology from Allie

[YoungAtHeart]

An Apology from Allie

There are so many facets to every story.....

I, for one, am very concerned here. Yes, Becca does seem to have been taken advantage of by someone on this board whose motives have not been honorable, and I'm glad that this person has been identified and banned.

I am sure that Allie and her husband, those closest here to the situation, understand that this is a very complicated undertaking and one to be regarded with the utmost of sensitivity and caution.

Therefore I want to put in my two cents by saying this: Becca and her husband are having problems: very serious problems. Those of us who are married, have been married or have been in long-term relationships KNOW that they are complicated matters indeed. I have no doubt that Becca and her husband love each other, and there are two sides to every story. Becca and her husband need to sort out their story.

What I am hoping here is that whatever underlying issues caused this problem can now be addressed between Becca and her husband. I am concerned that, with all of us jumping in here with our opinions, we will unduly influence Becca (already overprone to excessive guilt), who needs to be listening very carefully to her own heart and her own gut. I hope that she and her husband will be able to sort out what is really going on with each of them and have an honest dialogue that will, hopefully, pave the way to a more real and authentic relationship, in whatever form that may take.

I am hoping that we will all exercise caution in how much and exactly what we choose to say about all of this.

With love and respect,
Kathy:l

[irishlady]

An Apology from Allie

Kathy, I would just like to say, what a wonderful, wise person you are, and I think if ever I needed any advice or mediation in my life you would be the first one I would come to.

Love, Louise xx

[C]

An Apology from Allie

Oh Dear Lord, Help Becca and her husband. Conntinue to heal & bless Allie. She is so one of your children with her outpouring of love & help to Becca & Scott & others. Amen.

Allie, of course, we still love you. Thank you.

I wan t to reply to so many posts in this thread, but I am bewildered at the moment.

Lucky is so smart. Tend to agree. And I also want to know who the predator was. Wow. I am just amazed at life here at MWO. Amazed.

I feal a little anger may raise up in me at being deceived even though by a sweet person. Anyway, I will be aware of this.

RJ, your devotion is relentless, even when you are on holiday. Amazing.

Allie, you are a very GOOD person, very good.

Luv, C

[Hawk]

An Apology from Allie

RJ - Thanks for all the care you take helping us "to help us." You have created a wonderful lifeline and you are right - we do need to listen to the advice we pass out to our own kids. Thank you.

Allie - Thank you for clarifying everything. As usual, you exhibit so much dignity and class. My initial reaction was the same as many others - and that was to support Becca and curse her husband. Not right since I never met the man and know none of the details. I am happy to learn that there is love there and they can and will work on this. Becca deserves the best and her husband deserves a fairer shake than I gave him. So to Scott, my apologies. Thank you Allie for the update. You are a good friend to Becca and to everyone here. I hope you know how treasured you are.

Becca - I wish nothing but the very best for you and Scott as you try to work things out. Thinking of both of you.

[Popeye]

An Apology from Allie

:sigh:

I don't know what, or who, or why. ...but thanks RJ

[Mackeral]

An Apology from Allie

Just got on here....Whats going on????

[Roberta Jewell]

An Apology from Allie

Update

I typically do not point out members who have been banned from this site, but I'm making an exception in this case. I really don't want any speculation about who it was. The member in question was iia67. He has since been banned.

I had a very nice conversation with Becca just a bit ago, as I didn't feel comfortable stating this publicly before talking with her directly.

I told Becca that I felt her post to Scott was one of the most honest I'd read on the board since launching this site over two years ago. I also reminded her that we remembered the things she'd told us about him over these many months, the really good things, and I couldn't imagine he'd do anything but love her all the way back home.

RJ

[irishlady]

An Apology from Allie

Wish I knew Macks.....Most of us are in the dark...all I know is it's a matrimonial thing between Becca and her husband, and a member has been banned from MWO...As RJ said, we do open up a lot on here once we start to feel comfortable with people, but I will admit, I feel a bit uneasy now.....We take it for granted that we are all genuine, but who knows.....Just hope we haven't scared any new people away, that would be just too terrible.

[Mackeral]

An Apology from Allie

Thanks for the update RJ....I am honestly gutted....

Becca and Scott...You proberly wont read this but i wish you both the best in life.....

Lou, your right...we come here and pour our hearts out....And Rj is also right...We warn our children about the dangers of the internet...

I'm a bit wiser as of today....Its just a shame poor Becca had to be the teacher..

[betty boop]

An Apology from Allie

My Heart genuinely goes out to you all.............

Paula xx

[fsophiah]

An Apology from Allie

I don't even remember seeing a post by this guy. Well, I'm glad RJ gave his name because there just aren't that many men here, and I should apologize for mentally accusing a few very good men of being homewreckers. I don't mean to sound blas?, but this place has more drama than Jerry Springer. Which should remind us that, since our doors are open to the whole world, we have to remember that not everyone who walks through those doors is going to be as stellar and wonderful as our core lovelies are. We need to have our doors open. And people have to be free to make mistakes.

[wwbarb]

An Apology from Allie

Let's face it - when you walk outside, anywhere, some nut can walk up and take advantage of you. There is no place that is really "safe". Here, we are "faceless". It is a perfect place for a preditor to come aboard and take advantage of us, especially when we may be at our lowest point.

I still refuse to lose the trust of some of the best people I have ever "met". May tread with a bit more caution tho. . .

[C]

An Apology from Allie

I am disappointed, more in myself for not seeing. It is so easy to lie to ourselves to the point that others believe us. But the guilt of the deception haunts us, until we admit the truth to ourselves.

[lorisunshine]

An Apology from Allie

Dear Allie,
Thanks for setting the record straight. Becca and husband will probably never read this, but would you please extend my sincerest apologies to Beccas husband. I really shot off my mouth, without having all the facts. I am ashamed of myself. Please tell Becca and hubby that I wish them all the best for the future.
RJ thank you for removing that cancer.
Lori.

[bestlifeldms]

An Apology from Allie

Wow!

You could knock me over with a feather! I guess this shows how nieve I am, even in my 50's. Hard to imagine such evil. Allie, we all know you are truely good and well intentioned. Becca and Scott, love will triumph! RJ, thank you, as always.

This is a great place. Doing great things. We must continue to go forward, but carefully. Anyone who would try to pry a family apart, rather than do everything they can to encourage reconcilliation, should be viewed with suspision.

Love to all :h

Best