Undies in November

[Guitarista]

Undies in November

myhappyplace;1208850 wrote: Good. In fact, very good. This afternoon has been my first real thoughts of sinking a glass of red - who am I kidding it would stop there? - since the end of September. I had triggers and I had to sidestep them and the nasty WTF it really doesnt matter thoughts. But it does matter to me. And happy to say feel better for not going that path.

I think the hard part about laying everything out there - and I admire those that do - is that it is out there. And I just cant get into backslapping every AL free minute, its just not part of my makeup. That makes me sound harsh I know.

Great post Happs.

I'm not one for backslapping every AL free moment either usually. But for some folks it works. My previous success was as a 'quiet acheiver' really, with some very special regular pm support from a special MWO friend. I may take this road from here on in. Great to hear your thoughts on your own AF journey Happs. It's special and important stuff, and this thread is richer for it.

[Ellaq]

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Bad news received today..........

A loved one......only 56............dying. Smoked too much and drank way too much. Cancer...........a horrible way to die. Family are angry that he chose this lifestyle and therfore this death. No-one chooses this......no-one would really want to live a life like his and to die so young.

[Guitarista]

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Ellaq;1208880 wrote: Bad news received today..........

A loved one......only 56............dying. Smoked too much and drank way too much. Cancer...........a horrible way to die. Family are angry that he chose this lifestyle and therfore this death. No-one chooses this......no-one would really want to live a life like his and to die so young.

So sorry to hear this Ella.

Who was he?

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Jeez Ella that's horrible. These are the things that really strike home, aren't they?
And if we don't keep plugging away at this evil problem, it could be all of us.

[Miss Behaving]

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Well speaking for myself, I'm struggling quite a lot at the moment, feeling the pressure of a lot of work to get done before Xmas at a time when I want to ease off, crappy spring weather (rainy and windy but quite muggy) which makes it hard to get outside, and the prospect of 14 people arriving to stay in my house on Christmas Eve (although Mr B and I are going to go and stay somewhere else!!). I keep telling myself its a question of just putting one foot in front of the other for the next 5 1/2 weeks, but then I end up feeling like I'm making it feel like a slog, when what I would like to be able to do is turn my thinking around. My de-tox is keeping me on the straight and narrow at the moment, but I had a big blow out about for a couple of days a wee while ago, and I can feel another one coming on, and I might be setting myself up for failure and I dont want to but I feel like I cant help it .................. and my thoughts keep going around in circles!!

I dont know whether it has been in the press in Australia, but top of the news here for the last two days has been one of the All Blacks who has a very public drinking problem. He arrived back in NZ today after being in Rarotonga for the weekend, where he harassed their national triathlon champion, fell over and has multiple lacerations over his face and body, wandered into a bar naked and assaulted two of the patrons one of whom was celebrating his 60th birthday. I'm not defending his actions at all, but I was thinking that not many of us drunks have to face the humiliation of knowing that the whole country knows what an a**e they can be when drunk; or has to face a bevy of reporters asking questions about what happened and having to admit that you cant remember a single thing that happened.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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[QUOTE=Miss Behaving;1209070]Well speaking for myself, I'm struggling quite a lot at the moment,


Yep. Me too Missy. And with really big fundamental issues like where TF is my life going? nd once we aren't exclusively defined by an alcoholic lifestyle any more, then who TF are we ?

I think it's called growing up. I never was good at it.

[myhappyplace]

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Morning Undies. Must be that bloody moon and all. Woke up with a crap headache and feeling like I DID drink yesterday so I've carted myself and dog out for a walk and back now to do school run. I am hearing you both Missy and Bridge. Got a lot of stuff to sort in the next couple of days and my mind is screaming that it doesnt want to play this game anymore. Sick of wearing the big girl undies. No easy answers are there, otherwise I guess we wouldnt be here?

[Miss Behaving]

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myhappyplace;1209113 wrote: Sick of wearing the big girl undies.

Exactement!!! Around where I work and exercise there are lots of secondary and tertiary students who have basically finished their year and are lazing round in the sun and reading books and going to the movies. And the little kids get their end-of-year trips and get to go to fun places. Whereas I have 5 reports to write, a house to clean, a garden to weed, and bills to pay. :upset: I dont want to be a grown up any more.

I've not ben much good at it either Bridge, but I think its because its much easier to not have any responsibilities!!

I also think there is a "time of year" thing that happens for Undies around now. Its nice that summer is coming, but unlike those ovaries who get a nice long holiday in the middle of the year, we've been working through it and having winter. And the Americas have Halloween and Thanksgiving to get them through November! My sister is a teacher, and she always reckons that November is one of the worst months of the year - all the kids are really tired and grumpy, but it still isn't close enough to Xmas for them to be excited.

[Ellaq]

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Morning Undies.

The person I am talking about is my father..............not dead, yet. Still drinking and my mother doens`t get it. But it is a bit late now to expect him to give up his crutch.............and who can blame him knowing such news and the lack of his future.

Makes me so grateful that I don`t smoke..........dealing with the booze is enough. I don`t want my kids to be burying me so young.........not when I have a good chance now to turn my life around. Plus booze has much stronger effects on the female body so while I don`t drink as much as he does the outcome may still be the same.

Must be so tough being a teacher....I can see the gleam of excitement in my kids teachers eyes as they count down the last few weeks.

[beagle]

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morning undies & drop-ins.
had a shit of a sleep. hubby finished late then tossed & turned which subsequently got ME tossing & turning & then he feel asleep snoring which kept ME awake more so finally at around 3am i went to the other bed - which was ultimately better. note to self ; sleep there more often.
i lend all my positive vibes, for the microcent they're worth, to you guys struggling with responsibilites of families & kids. i am grateful in someways that i don't have that extra load to carry, altho i also miss out on the good parts of it!
atm, we have just started harvest & it has started well. FIL comes soon to dilute husband.
i must squash my screaming desire to get orf this bloody farm permanently, at least until harvest is finished, then hopefully 2012 will see some changes. i just get tired of putting on a happy mask & acting all interested.
at least though, harvest is less stress than seeding, i can get out more with better weather, & i'm going to collect my pregnant mare & another young horse to ride on the weekend. so at least i will have projects. AND hopefully some more "me" time to come on here for moral support.
i've been reading jason vale's book, & have actually found a mindshift with it. only halfway thru it. day 3 today.
6.45am & going for a walkies with the plethora of doggies.
i will be back later on for further ramblings.
have good Wednesdays, everyone.

[beagle]

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x-posted ellaq - morning to you.
i'm sorry to hear about you dad. you & your family must be having a tough time of it.
wishing you much strength.:l

[blondie]

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Morning Undies

Ellaq - sorry to hear about your dad - he is so young.

Mr G - How are you doing? :-)

Melodrama has died down here with family (till next week!). Beautiful spring day so out a-planting chillis and lots of other goodies in my newly-cleared garden.

Have a lovely one Undies and Ovaries.

[Juja]

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"And the Americas have Halloween and Thanksgiving to get them through November!"
Quoting Miss B here....

Get us through?! My God, it's an absolute nightmare for some of us--me, for one--and I'm not alone. Christmas, too. Rushing around, spending too much money, endless cooking, dealing with family members and all old issues that arise with that. I would love to disappear from Nov.1-Jan.1. So, I'm a Scrooge; I make no apologies.

All my family arrives this weekend for 5 days. I want to see them, but without the accompanying drama and stress that I know is forthcoming. The telephone calls and emails are already flying back and forth, with jabs and judgments abounding. I'm already sick of it.

I'm feeling a bit fragile here, folks, but I see I'm not the only one. AL wouldn't make it any better, however.

Like Bridge mused: Who TF am I anyway? What's my purpose? Housewife, caretaker, stroker, ego booster, mediator, take care of elderly peeps--that seems to be my place

[Charlotte's Web]

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Good Morning Undies!

Just dropping into say Hi and give you an up date.

Well, after a fairly major meltdown earlier this year, my doctor changed my anti-depressants and refered me to a psychiatrist. He was fantastic and really helped me think things out. That in turn led to marriage counselling. He also prescribed Nal for me, which works well with no side effects.

In the meantime, we have finally bought a house and it feels great to be in a place of our own.

So, I'm plodding along very happily taking ODAT both AF and NF. Taking control of both alcohol and cigs at the same time is fine. One always led to the other, you know, just one more drink before bed, one more smoke before bed and then it's 2.00 am!

I'm really pleased with the way things are turning out. I'm sleeping so well, going to bed earlier and getting up earlier than before. This morning, I was up at 6.00 am, which is almost unheard of for me. And that's on a day when I don't do the school run!

The knock on affect is amazing. Son's behaviour at school has been very good since term two and his marks and achievements are fantastic! I am so proud of him.

Overall, I'm very happy, peaceful and back in control - just the way I like things.

Another change has been...Bridge and TF will be proud of me....I have go into gardening! I've got lots of little things going on - roses, jasmine, nasturtiums and various small veggies and herbs. I water them as the sun's going down and check on them as soon as I get up in the morning. And they are growing well. This weekend hubby is going to start building me a raised veggie patch - just like the one Jamie Oliver has.

Ooh...and...one more thing....sorry to ramble....I have passed my first year of sign language and have already had some casual work and a job offer for next year.

Right! Enough about me. How is everyone?

xxxx

[Juja]

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"And the Americas have Halloween and Thanksgiving to get them through November!"
Quoting Miss B here....

Get us through?! My God, it's an absolute nightmare for some of us--me, for one--and I'm not alone. Christmas, too. Rushing around, spending too much money, endless cooking, dealing with family members and all old issues that arise with that. I would love to disappear from Nov.1-Jan.1. So, I'm a Scrooge; I make no apologies.

All my family arrives this weekend for 5 days. I want to see them, but without the accompanying drama and stress that I know is forthcoming. The telephone calls and emails are already flying back and forth, with jabs and judgments abounding. I'm already sick of it.

I'm feeling a bit fragile here, folks, but I see I'm not the only one. AL wouldn't make it any better, however.

Like Bridge mused: Who TF am I anyway? What's my purpose? Housewife, caretaker, stroker, ego booster, mediator, take care of elderly peeps--that seems to be my role, and I'm not happy. ARGH-H-H!!!!!!!!!!!!!