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**Nelz** · November 8, 2011, 06:19 AM

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Ohhhhhh, I think there's one or a few thousand of us in the same boat. You have come to the right place if you are looking for advice/friendship with people that know what you are feeling/going through.

Please keep your arms and legs inside until the ride comes to a complete stop and enjoy your time here at MWO.

Get ready for a bunch of two letter abbreviations, you dont know yet....LOL

Thanks for stopping by

**MinStar** · November 8, 2011, 07:25 AM

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Nelz;1205171 wrote: Ohhhhhh, I think there's one or a few thousand of us in the same boat. You have come to the right place if you are looking for advice/friendship with people that know what you are feeling/going through.

Please keep your arms and legs inside until the ride comes to a complete stop and enjoy your time here at MWO.

Get ready for a bunch of two letter abbreviations, you dont know yet....LOL

Thanks for stopping by

Thanks for that message Nelz. How are you?
:l

**daisy45** · November 8, 2011, 07:59 AM

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MnStar, Welcome. You will be so glad you came here - the support is amazing! I would suggest you visit the Newbies Nest - it is a great place to start and you will be welcomed with open arms. Looking forward to getting to know you...

**DriftyAlison0** · November 8, 2011, 08:07 AM

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Welcome to the group Minstar! Take it one day at a time and feel free to check out the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html to get help to set up a plan. You can do it!

**Ellaq** · November 8, 2011, 08:19 AM

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Hey Minstar

:welcome:

I think that there are many people here the same age who all started their drinking journey in college. I know I am one. I have had 3 pregnancies and long period of breast feeding where I didn't drink. Didn't even want to. But the drink always snuck back in again. Just one social drink here and there........to full on drinking. I am not even sure that the trip from 1 drink to too many took that long with each subsequent pregnancy.

16 days AF since I joined this site. It makes it easier to talk to people just like ourselves.....to know we are not alone in our struggle.

**lilla** · November 8, 2011, 08:27 AM

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Hi MinStar
I found this site about a week ago, have drunk every night for years, probably managed a day not drinking if my hangover was just too horrendous, but that was about it. Now I have just done three whole days which is huge for me, reading and reading everyone's encouragement and advice has helped me so much and I hope it does same for you.

**MinStar** · November 8, 2011, 08:52 AM

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daisy45;1205222 wrote: MnStar, Welcome. You will be so glad you came here - the support is amazing! I would suggest you visit the Newbies Nest - it is a great place to start and you will be welcomed with open arms. Looking forward to getting to know you...

thanks for that Daisy45- I am still working my way around and have yet to find the Newbies Nest!

**sunshine_gg** · November 8, 2011, 09:00 AM

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Welcome aboard, MinStar

Here is a link to the Newbie's Nest: https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...ml#post1205241

Wishing you the very best on your journey.

**Ishybit** · November 8, 2011, 09:06 AM

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Hello Minstar,
the wine while cooking to just finish the bottle off should be my motto. I have a hard time understanding that not all people drink this way. I'm not sure when it happened for me, but a bottle is always doable but like Nelz said, there are thousands in the same boat. I've been drinking since I was a teenager, daily probably since i was 28....I'm 45! Insanity = doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I'm not sure why that one doesn't stick for me. Day 2 for me....let's buddy up! Ishy

**MinStar** · November 8, 2011, 09:08 AM

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Thanks also DriftyAlison, Ellaq and Lilla! I think being able to talk through will help tons. Today will be a test when it hits around 6-7pm. Once my baby is asleep I am kinda twiddling my thumbs. Start cooking but like the glass of vino next to me and some in my cooking.
Am determined not to tonight.

**MinStar** · November 8, 2011, 09:14 AM

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Oh and Sunshine- ta for the link.
IshyBit- exactly the same for me- drinking and cooking kinda go hand in hand and then the bottles gone. I always told myself it was controllable and as I wasnt doing it every day it was ok. The reality was I was doing it everyday at home. Only when we would go visit my mum's I wouldnt. Occassionaly there would be a bottle open there but it would be between 4 of us. I also find I am looking for the next situation where I can drink eg are we going out to dinner? Well I am sure to be on red wine- if I can more than a bottle. Those situations always helped me drink more as the bottles kept flowing.

Lets Buddy up! first day for me- I'm 38 Married with a 9month daughter- Who is the most adorable gorgeous baby ever! I have to do this for her.

Ellaq- I am also a little apprehensive of being in a social setting and getting offered/wanting to drink. I have family over at the weekend so we shall see how that goes- normally vino, beer and liquor is flowing. I know I can do this as I did when pregnant but of course the hormones helped. I couldnt stand the smell. Interestingly, I did have tons of chocolate- and if you read up on metabolism and AL you will know the craving is sugar based! hmmm

**Bruunhilde** · November 8, 2011, 11:18 AM

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Hi Min and Lila! And everybody!

Just checking in, trying to taper down myself, thought I'd check to see how the new thread is going.

**Nelz** · November 8, 2011, 11:29 AM

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MinStar;1205206 wrote: Thanks for that message Nelz. How are you?
:l

Doin, just fine Min, rained out here today in KS so no worky work for me.

**BelleGirl** · November 8, 2011, 11:35 AM

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MinStar, welcome to MWO. I have only been here a bit over two weeks and AF for 16 days. I think a lot of us here understand the "witching hour". For me, it starts when the kids get home from school, bickering, not settling down for homework and at the same time I am trying to put a dinner together. So many times I would try to find a recipe that "needed" wine for an excuse to drink it. So I stopped that, but then turned to small "shots" (prob lots of them) to get me thru. I now know that the witching hour ends when I sit down to dinner and I am home free. Some of the worst times are when we have a bazillion things to do and dinner is late. To calm myself before dinner I do a shot or 2 or 3...

So now I have a plan and that is to make sure I know what dinner is going to be early in the day so I don't have to get stressed out and need a drink to calm me down at that witching hour. Funny, now that I am not drinking, the kids don't seem to be bickering and doing much better with their homework. Maybe it was just my perception/anxiety with a hangover from the day before???

Sometimes it was boredom, or even being in a good mood that would make me drink. But really it is the AL beast out there.

Anyway...hang in here with us in the Nest. A lot of wisdom from the elder birds to keep you on your path. Not that going AF is going to be sunshine and unicorns immediately...but at least you can think clearly to deal with whatever life hands you without flying off the handle and back to the bottle.

:welcome:

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