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[K9Lover]

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Hi MinStar and welcome to MWO!
We are around the same age (ok fine, I am 39...but barely!) I?ve been fighting the AL beast for years now and think I finally have a handle on it?but I still take it day by day, sometimes minute by minute. I can relate to your cooking/drinking scenario?I used to do that all the time too. I almost felt like as long as I was doing something productive (i.e. cooking, laundry, cleaning) it didn?t matter that I was also drinking at the same time (?). Some mornings I would wake up and the house was SO clean, but I didn?t remember doing it, which would also lead to the anxiety of wondering what else I did that I didn?t remember? To make a long story short, I finally decided that I couldn?t live on that roller coaster anymore. I drove drunk one too many times, I had one too many hangovers, and worst of all, I saw the hurt and pain in my daughter?s eyes one too many times. I, like you have one daughter?and she?s the most adorable gorgeous teenager ever! LOL But seriously she is such a sweetheart and so kind and loving, I?ve truly been blessed. I?ve heard horror stories of other teenagers and I know how lucky I am that mine is nothing like that (so far?never say never right?) I have too much to be thankful and to live for, as you do also, to waste anymore time pouring poison down my throat. I?m so glad you?ve found us?you?ll find lots of Buddies here, you?ll see. Keep us posted on your progress. I look forward to getting to know you better!
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[MinStar]

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Thanks guys!!

It is so nice to hear I am not alone in the dinner thing. I also have recipe's where I would need to open a bottle. Even made some recipes include wine to open a bottle. I always told myself that I was ok to have a few glasses in the evening, that was my time and my treat.

Bellegirl- I hear you on the quick fix shots- I have liqueur in the living room and the kitchen so I can easily sneak one in whenever. Thats just been recently though. I have always got a bottle of wine open however and can easily kill one bottle and open another if I thought Hubby wouldn't comment. Like you Belle-I stopped that but then started on the shots a while later. Then sneaking in bottles to refill empty ones and so on.

Thanks on the advice to eat. I was starving and normally wait on hubby to get home. He still isnt and I would probably caved in had I not eaten! Amazing that little things like that makes such a difference.

K9Lover- I keep looking at my little girl and telling myself I need to do this for her- Still I am tempted!!
BelleGirl- Congrats on 16AF days!

[Struggles 106]

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Hey Min

You are definitely in the right place. I'm no expert but I think that drinkers like me and
probably you really have to face the fact that drinking is not something we can do.
I apologize to anyone here who may not agree but I think the idea of moderation is not plausible. I'm mentioning this because you might want to try "cutting down" or drinking less than usual. Of course that is your option, and who knows -it could work for you.
I would venture to say that it won't; it has not worked for me and countless other people I know who are addicted to alcohol.
That being said-maybe the idea of never drinking again is scary for you. Many factors contribute to addiction, and it's not easy. AA was never for me, but it could be for you. A lot of people love it.
I can only speak for myself, and I could not stand being a drunk anymore. Just could not do it. But then after 40 years hey! Maybe a logical conclusion!
Good luck to you and please check in often. I'm a pretty big chatter if you want to send a private message. Reading your post made me think of a nice cold Pinot Grigio but I won't go there.

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Hi MiniStar and everyone else buddying up! I am at Day 7, also in my late 30's and also have been a wine drinker quite steadily since my early 20's. My daily consumption would be around 1 bottle to a bottle and a half (I would buy the larger, 1.5 L bottles and get passed the half way mark...). As others have said, this site will give you lots and lots of love and support and I wouldn't have gotten this far if I didn't come on here. Best of luck to you and I hope to get to know you better! You are doing the right thing for you and your family

[MinStar]

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Hi BlondeAFAmbition! Well done on getting to D7! I hope to be saying that soon! Seems like lots of us can buddy up and share journeys. I look forward to hearing more and sharing this road with you.
How are you doing? I feel so knackered achey and sore today. I feel like I didnt sleep a wink last night. But I must have done! Baby got up once but she had a stuffy nose which I cleared and she went back to sleep- albeit in my bed LOL

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Morning everyone! How are you doing MiniStar? I read on another thread that you were feeling a bit run down. That will change once your body detoxes from the AL. It will take a few days, but you should be feeling great in no time. Drink lots of water and take your vitamins! Sorry to hear that your wee one has a bit of a head cold. I hope you are both feeling better very soon! Have a wonderful AF day!

[MinStar]

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Hi BlondeAFAmbition!
Hows your AF day going. I am hitting the witching hour soon. I always get to this time and its the count down to getting baby bathed, fed and asleep. I had posted earlier- not sure if you read it on this thread. I am still tired and getting anxious. i realised I do this before night time as I want Baby to be asleep. Stick to her routine. Of course she does sometimes and she doesnt other times. I use AL as a crutch those times! Hope your sunshine day has lasted

MinStar

[Willow23]

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Hi MinStar - I just joined today. I can totally relate to your story and others, wine and cooking is my thing. Not in the food, just I like a drink whilst I cook. I can't just have the one though. My daughter is 4 and at school and my son is 2, my witching hour is about 4pm when I start their dinner.

It's 12.30pm now and I'm already getting twitchy. I have to walk past the corner shop to and from school, so I normally stop in on the way home to get a bottle. I'd have drunk that one by the time my husband got home from work, then go out to get another. Quite often I won't eat, I just drink - although I'd have cooked for everyone else, food just doesn't really appeal to me like alcohol.

On day 4 now, and to be honest I feel bloody miserable. I know how to cheer myself up of course, and it's so easy to fall into that trap and justify it to myself that it's ok. But it's really not.

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Hi MinStar! How's that cute little baby girl of yours today? I hope she is feeling better and that you are too! I read in the next that you are taking her to the Dr's. Hope that all goes well. Have a great day and treat yourself to something else than AL tonight...you'll be all the better for it tomorrow morning!

[MinStar]

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BlondeAFAmbition;1206342 wrote: Hi MinStar! How's that cute little baby girl of yours today? I hope she is feeling better and that you are too! I read in the next that you are taking her to the Dr's. Hope that all goes well. Have a great day and treat yourself to something else than AL tonight...you'll be all the better for it tomorrow morning!

Hi BlondeAFAmbition!
How are you? Baby had a check up and has been discharged!!! Whoop Whoop. I met my sister in town and had some lunch and coffee- all AL free! Came home and stayed AL free though I was sorely tempted when Baby was asleep and no dinner made (as I had been out all day) Definitely see a correlation between being hungry and eating! How are things with you. I need to go back and catch up on some threads but it is nearly gone midnight here (D3 DONE!!) so I'll leave that until tomorrow. Hope you are well. :l

[MinStar]

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Willow23;1206319 wrote: Hi MinStar - I just joined today. I can totally relate to your story and others, wine and cooking is my thing. Not in the food, just I like a drink whilst I cook. I can't just have the one though. My daughter is 4 and at school and my son is 2, my witching hour is about 4pm when I start their dinner.

It's 12.30pm now and I'm already getting twitchy. I have to walk past the corner shop to and from school, so I normally stop in on the way home to get a bottle. I'd have drunk that one by the time my husband got home from work, then go out to get another. Quite often I won't eat, I just drink - although I'd have cooked for everyone else, food just doesn't really appeal to me like alcohol.

On day 4 now, and to be honest I feel bloody miserable. I know how to cheer myself up of course, and it's so easy to fall into that trap and justify it to myself that it's ok. But it's really not.

Hi Willow- Tell me about the witching hour- Mine is when she down to sleep for the night (in theory! LOL) But I can see it being 4 when she gets older and it is time to make her dinner. I also have drunk so much that i am not interested in eating anymore and it is more drinking! I cook lovely meals- spend ages in the kitchen grafting a nice meal to then 'not fancy my own cooking'

Well done on getting to D4. It will get better and you have to remember the little ones. I hope you are kicking that craving in the butt! I had some severe cravings today thinking- well just one wont hurt. I had to remind myself that it was the devil AL talking and thats how bad it is. It can still get to you 3 days later. I also go back over all the thngs AL does to your body. Then I followed that with having to come on here and tell everyone I was already on D1 again! that kinda kicked it in the butt along with Baby waking up crying (teething) and then puking LOL.

Hope you are well and tc xx

[available]

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Hi willow and min. Im up to day 11 now and i have been drinking for god knows how long but was up to 2 bottles a day. my hour was from 5.30 till i passed out in bed at whatever time. AF days were few and far between. It gets better day by day and like you min i am petrified of coming on here and saying oops day 1 again. lol but i am sure the support never gets lost and we dont get judged. My body is taking time to adjust to no AL. Today is the first time without a headache and i dont have tremors anymore and god i crave sleep, sleeping like the dead now and waking up groggy but not like a hangover. good luck guys and u can do it if i can

[merry]

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[available]

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Hi Merry i can be you help buddy but u will find on this site that everyone is here to help you. there is normally someone around in different stages of giving up AL that can give words of wisdom to us newbies. I am up to day 11 and my story is probably much the same as everyone elses. Drank 2 bottles a day, no AL free days in the end, found this site and now up to day 11. It gets harder before it gets easier but i am seeing light at the end of the tunnel. no night sweats now, no tremors (i can sign my name), still have headaches but they are getting fewer with the aches. Its what we all go through and does get better.

Have you posted your story somewhere Merry.

Found you, i did read about your son and gf etc. drop me an email if you want to talk. I have four children all grownup that i have had my ups and downs with, lately more downs but u realise u have made a mistake and u have to move on. the four months without AL shows that u can do it. I have no AL in my house, god wld not be game. Have an empty box and i keep looking in it but nothing appears lol.

[willowfrond]

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Willow23;1206319 wrote: Hi MinStar - I just joined today. I can totally relate to your story and others, wine and cooking is my thing. Not in the food, just I like a drink whilst I cook. I can't just have the one though. My daughter is 4 and at school and my son is 2, my witching hour is about 4pm when I start their dinner.

It's 12.30pm now and I'm already getting twitchy. I have to walk past the corner shop to and from school, so I normally stop in on the way home to get a bottle. I'd have drunk that one by the time my husband got home from work, then go out to get another. Quite often I won't eat, I just drink - although I'd have cooked for everyone else, food just doesn't really appeal to me like alcohol.

On day 4 now, and to be honest I feel bloody miserable. I know how to cheer myself up of course, and it's so easy to fall into that trap and justify it to myself that it's ok. But it's really not.

Hi Willow,

Maybe it's our name but AF has never made me feel instantly great! This time around I am at around 8 weeks. I have depression and anxiety which are both still a struggle and some very real issues to deal with - I eventually became homeless (now in a boarding house) and am trying to rebuild any sort of relationship with my 21 yo son .
I posted on another thread. For me AF does not make the sun shine brighter, the birds sing more harmoniously or all my problems go "poof" in a cloud of smoke. It does mean the sun no longer gives me a blinding headache, I don't feel like taking a shotgun to the screeching birds and I can think and deal with my problems.
Willow you have such a wonderful opportunity...your children are so young. I hope you can beat AL now and never have to feel the pain of hurting them the way I hurt my son.
My doctor recently prescribed anti depressent/anxiety med (SSRI) but I had a hugely bad reaction, so I am going to try L glut.

ooo that made me think Available ....... I think you said somewhere that you are taking anti depressants. Also you are waking up now feeling hungover, headaches etc. Have you talked to your doctor. When you were drinking most of your medication was probably not being utilised, indeed my doc would not prescribe until I had quit drinking she said I may as well flush the meds in the toilet. So just a thought now you have quit maybe some of the feelings are from the meds?

Have a great day.

Have any of you tried the chat room, it can be a great place but has been very quiet of late.

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