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    #1

    What makes you an addict?

    What makes the difference between a social drinker and an alcoholic?
    What makes you lie, decieve and use people to protect your drinking habits?
    Whatever you have in your life that you value, what makes you value AL more?

    I wasn't born a Alcoholic. For me an emptiness existed in myself that I didn't know how to fill. I feel things deeply and am easily hurt. I felt alone and of no value. Al made me feel happy and took away all the emotional pain.

    What makes you addicted to alcohol?
    To see a world in a grain of sand
    And a heaven in a wildflower.
    Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
    And eternity in an hour.
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    #2
    What makes you an addict?

    What made me an alcoholic was the obsession !!! I would be drinking one drink with my mind focused on my next one . I was not even enjoying the one in my hand.

    Also the encouragement I would give to others to drink more while drinking with them so I wouldn't feel bad about myself , or so the night wouldn't end before I was good and drunk!!
    I'm ashamed now and saddened by the fact that I encouraged my own husband to drink up, giving no thought to the fact that he had to drive . Alcohol made me lose all inhibitions and all respect!

    But happily I have decided to love myself and to nurture myself , as I'm now realizing no one else can give you what your supposed to give yourself.
    Alcohol may numb us briefly , but in a flash the numbness is gone and we are left raw with our open wounds , only now we have rubbed salt into them .

    There is a spark of divinity within us all , with a sober life I can see my divinity
    I am the master of my fate . I am the captain of my soul.

    Had 10 weeks AF from 9-11-11 to 11-24-11


    AF since 2/20/12

    Goal no.1 - 1 week DONE !

    Goal no.2 - 2 weeks.

    Goal no.3 - 30 days.

    Gaol no.4 - 10 weeks .

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      #3
      What makes you an addict?

      Hey Lost Soul

      I think you described addiction in your question about lying etc to hide alcohol use etc.

      I understand where you are coming from. I really believe that the feeling of not being good enough, not being as "good" as everyone else often has a lot to do with alcohol addiction.
      There almost has to be some level of self-loathing in the picture with drinking as well as other self-destructive behaviors. I was told from a young age that I was garbage and it took years to realize that it's not true.

      Everyone here can relate to what you said. I wish you well and hope you can keep on trying. It's worth it!

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        #4
        What makes you an addict?

        From my perspective and purely based on me .. because I am a week don't know what good for nothing

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          #5
          What makes you an addict?

          They do lab experiments where they give rats lots of alcohol or cocaine or whatever and turn them into addicts and then test them and measure them and.....but all it took to turn them into addicts and drunks was enough of the drug of choice. The rats didn't become addicted because they were weak or had bad childhoods or because they were worthless pieces of shit...they just took in too much substance for too long. Once addicted they choose their "drug of choice" over everything, because the drug becomes their everything.
          But we are not rats even tho we may perceive ourselves as such. We can try to beat our addictions whatever their cause. Which, for most of us, is why we are here.
          "If I don't go crazy, honey, I'm going to lose my mind." Son House

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            #6
            What makes you an addict?

            Bama John , that was very inspirational
            I am the master of my fate . I am the captain of my soul.

            Had 10 weeks AF from 9-11-11 to 11-24-11


            AF since 2/20/12

            Goal no.1 - 1 week DONE !

            Goal no.2 - 2 weeks.

            Goal no.3 - 30 days.

            Gaol no.4 - 10 weeks .

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              #7
              What makes you an addict?

              Great post John. As humans/problem drinkers we like to paint our problem as something that is not only beyond our control, but also that is unique to us as individuals and as spiritual beings. I think your post sums up the reality of the problem and how to solve it. A rat doesn't need to go to meetings and do self improvement exercises and really dig deep down in their soul to see their moral shortfalls to quit drinking...you just take away their booze and they learn to live without it again. I think many of us have a hard time because we are addicted so we need to explain to ourselves and others why we have all of these other issues that are holding back from sobriety....basically we over think our own excuses...I know I did for a very long time.

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                #8
                What makes you an addict?

                thanks Bama John...excellent point.
                I had a troubled childhood, but was always proud of the fact that I was sucessful and happy in spite of it. I started drinking too much as a way to deal with MAJOR stress and financial difficulties...my husband's business clsoed and my life changed drastically.
                Too much AL....BAM addiction! Makes perfect sense to me
                I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                  #9
                  What makes you an addict?

                  I agree, some of us may be more prone to addiction than others, like the rats, but people are a bit more complicated, I'd like to think! :H

                  We all have the ability to choose to fight our addictions and take responsibility for our actions and own self-happiness.

                  Staying sober is the start, but without looking at the WHY I became an addict, I think it would be easier to be a 'dry' drunk or at least fill my life with distractions (even if positive) which make me think I'm doing ok when I'm not dealing with the problem.

                  There is nothing wrong with looking at the why or the excuses we make, as long as hold ourselves accountable and try not to make the same mistakes.
                  To see a world in a grain of sand
                  And a heaven in a wildflower.
                  Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
                  And eternity in an hour.

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                    #10
                    What makes you an addict?

                    Hey Lost Soul

                    Sounds like you're doing OK. Great!
                    Isn't the term "dry drunk" one of the AA things? I understand the concept but I don't agree with it. As I understand it , it implies that even if you are not drinking you are not progressing or "getting it" unless you are following the steps of AA.
                    I think that if you are not drinking your thinking clears, your memory improves and your decisions are made by a more rational mind. There is no downside to not drinking, that I can see, and this "dry drunk" idea seems derogatory.
                    BUT AA helps a lot of people and it could be of interest to you. Whatever keeps a person from drinking has to be a good thing.
                    Take care and good luck.

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                      #11
                      What makes you an addict?

                      The lying. AL is the only thing I lie about. I hurt myself and my family by lying. So shameful.
                      Living life to the fullest.

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                        #12
                        What makes you an addict?

                        right there with you MM.....
                        I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                        Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                          #13
                          What makes you an addict?

                          I'm sorry Ann, I didn't mean to offend and certainly all AF time is a blessing!

                          I heard dry drunk and could relate to it with AL, without regard to a 12 step programme.

                          I see that I have a relationship with AL much like I could have with a spouse, friend, relative. If that 'person' wrongs you, you can choose to remove them from your life. You will still have love for that person, and in the short term you can 'distract' yourself to take your mind off them while you get over them and your feelings subside. If you don't get over them and want them back it's like being a dry drunk. You may not be with them but you want them. Does that make sense?
                          To see a world in a grain of sand
                          And a heaven in a wildflower.
                          Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
                          And eternity in an hour.

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