The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

rubywillow;1232717 wrote: Mish, I so glad you got the gift of some comforting news. The waiting must be terrible, but you know best, and maybe her pride is holding her back a bit. Keep praying, dear.

You're right, Ruby, the waiting is awful, but I had a message from Chris's mum who said she's spoken to him and that Ashe is ok. She wants to go down and hear both sides of the story and remain neutral.

I have no intention of going down there. I'll give them their space. Ashe knows I'm here and love her more than anyone else on the planet. She'll contact me when she's ready. It isn't pride with her, she's not like that. She poured her heart out to me when she and the kids came up last month and knows I'm here when she's ready. Marcy (his mum) wants to mediate, but I prefer to let them work it out themselves. Getting involved in others relationship issues is a no no for me. It always comes back to bite you on the bum. I'll just trust in her because I know her sweet heart and that she doesn't want to raise her kids with a foul-mouthed lazy wanna be bikie pot head. She knows how a family should be, and she knows she made a big mistake leaving her values and standards to be with him. She wants a clean, secure life like she had before. It's taken real guts to leave, but I'm just relieved that she has and is safe with people who care about her.

I'm so proud of her I want to burst, but knowing the emotional trauma they're all going through is painful.

I hope everyone's day went well yesterday. I'm tempted to hit the Boxing Day sales (I've heard of people picking up three thousand dollar fridges for about a hundred and fifty dollars), but my poor credit card is pleading with me to be strong...even though I'd love a new fridge, or a 3D tele, or a really great surround sound system or....no, stop it Mish. People are more important than stuff.

Love and hugs, everyone, I'm off to take James to the hospital for his treatment and conference with the specialist.

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

fennel;1232795 wrote: Having a cranky sort of day. I'm glad I got through yesterday okay, but the champagne was flowing like water, and I couldn't partake of it. Mrs. Fen clearly told her obnoxious, shrill older sis about me, because she kept screeching "Fen! Do you want some more coffee?!!!" Just bugged me. I don't want my nephew to know, because he looks up to me. Thank god he was there...I so adore him. Going off to do some escapist reading, now.

I love you all. :h

:happy::yay::wave: to you, dear Fen. We all love you, too. As for Mrs Fen's obnoxious, shrill sister:
:b&d: and :blah:
Enjoy your book.

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Mish;1232904 wrote: :happy::yay::wave: to you, dear Fen. We all love you, too. As for Mrs Fen's obnoxious, shrill sister:
:b&d: and :blah:
Enjoy your book.

Thanks, Mish! :h

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Hubs and I did something we never do his evening - sat and watched 2 movies. I'd seen hem before (Lincoln Lawyer and True Grit) but sat wih him anyway through most of them. They are both outstanding I recommend them. I LOVE Jeff Bridges in True Grit.
Nephew surprised me with a call this afternoon and was in town. Haven' seen him in over 15 years, though I nearly raised him. His mother, my sister, has disowned him because he has been in prison for a sex related crime. When he was about 19 he sex with an underage girl. It was consentual and he was drunk, but still wrong. He had the worst lawyer (who has since been disbarred) who convinced him to plead or he'd get life where he was. I don't defend him; I ABHOR that crime, but he was a wild boy then, and is a man now. I was impressed with his maturity, the change in him, so we will see. My sister would be livid if she knew I had him here for over two hours, gave him homemade Christmas goodies, and some Christian kindness. Oh well. I'm praying he IS changed.
Later, friends.

[mama bear]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

I am home and exhausted and glad everyone had a good day...in bed with feet up...will chat more tomorrow...I love you all

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Right now, I feel that family is over-rated. I feel that my friends here and elsewhere are closer to me than my biological family. Does anybody else here feel that way?

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

rubywillow;1232717 wrote:

Cousin and his daughter (they had SO much fun, brought little gifts)

They look so sweet! Did you mean they brought "tiny" gifts, or "few"?

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

I am seeking advice. As most of you know, I am experiencing sobriety these days to preserve my relationship with Mrs. Fen. I have made it clear to her that being in drinking situations right now is very...well gosh. It smarts. It feels too soon for me to be surrounded by booze when I am trying to be sober.

First thing I saw when we pulled up to her parent's house was two bottles of bubbly chilling on the back porch. And that was only the tip of the iceberg.

In the nine plus hours we were there, the family went through three or four bottles of champagne, numerous beers, and three bottles of wine. Not a big family. Mrs. Fen's sister kept loudly pushing coffee in my direction, which felt embarrassing, as if I were a five year old.

Mrs. Fen was incensed at the idea of me staying at home ONCE for Christmas. What do you all think? What would you have done if you were me?

I just wish I could have stayed home.

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

OH, and despite my disdain for AA? I am going to a meeting tomorrow. Am I crazy to want to stay out of drinking situations while trying to quit? It makes sense to me, but not Mrs. Fen.

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Darling Fen, I wish I could advise you. However, if you feel, in your heart, that staying away from boozy situations is what to do though, I'd probably listen to your heart. Why ruin a good relationship over a few days of the year? You're so brave and strong and offer so much encouragement and support to everyone else that it feels strange to hear you asking for help. I totally understand the feeling of being closer to people in our 'MWO world' rather than in our daily lives away from MWO. They just don't get it. We do. Here we're honest and don't judge. Who are people to judge anyway? It's not their job!

I wish you could just drop your France plans and hop a jet to the Land of Oz. No obnoxious, shrill older siblings or judgemental family here with me. Just Mish with open arms and glorious Summer weather.
I couldn't do AA, I just couldn't face it, but hurrah for Baclofen, Naltrexone and all of you, and I don't have to. My love and prayers going your way, also for Mrs Fen to try and understand how you feel and realise that she is more important to you than drinking situations with people you don't particularly like for just a few days of the year.

[fennel]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Staying away from boozy situations means staying away from Mrs. Fen's family. At least until I am stronger. The hard part is getting Mrs. Fen to realize that being around drinkers (ie; her family) is hard right now. She wants me to be "all better" right now, which is impossible. I just need a few months off!

[Mish]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

What can I say? You must be torn in half. I'm thinking of you every moment and sending loving thoughts. Email me if you want to chat. Do you have skype?

[sunshinedaisies]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Good Morning everyone. fen, I am so sorry about how you are feeling - but we have talked so am not going to say more. I hope that you and Mish talked and maybe that helped a bit. I agree - it did sound strange you asking for help and maybe the others here can offer some advice.
Mish - I hope yesterday went well for you - you are such a good friend to James and I hope his arm is improving? I know you will let us all know when you hear from your daughter. Prayers coming your way that it will be soon......
It seems VERY early right now - even the dogs thought it too early to be up when I got up about 45 mins ago! On the plus side, I shall be getting off work at 2.30.
I am looking forward to hearing about your Days yesterday - now we can take a breath and calm down and get back to normal - whatever that is - LOL
Have a wonderful day everyone - love and hugs,
Sun XX

[bird]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Hi all
Fenn, maybe you could write her a letter explaining how it is to be around booze for you at this time. I wrote one to my daughter awhile back, since talking to her was just not getting through.....I don't feel very close to my family at all. My Mom calls about once a month, and I get a letter here and there from a couple others. I have a couple friends I see now and then, most of my social life is talking to parents of my kids friends and coming here. ...am up eating the leftovers again, think I am going to join team lean at the Y today, it goes for 10 weeks with a weekly weigh in and boot camp if you want to attend. Cash for the biggest weight loss...hmmm think I'll practice piano.

[rubywillow]

The Journey begins here so get YOUR ASSES IN GEAR!!!! for december

Fen, that's another reason I've lost my connection to my bio family. They still party hardy. (My T is obviously sill sticking sometimes!). We don't. Son-in-law and Hubs wen Sa urday for one pack of nice beer and some of the guys and daughter had one each. The end. I couldn't handle the judgemental treatment either. IMHO you need some space from it for a while. People here love you just the way you are, it's obvious. Anyhing else I say is an opinion, and I'm not in your situation, love, so it wouldn't be fair to share them. You know wha you need to do, love, and it may be hard to explain that to others. I do understand the 'be better right now' idea. We're here for you to pour out your thoughts.
RE: my cousin, they have NO income right now, and he brought little things he had found in his mother's things that were even more precious to us because of his pride in being able to give them. His daughter brought 2 big pans of apple dumplings, so they were happy they could share in every way with us. They were also among the last to leave.
Take care, friend. This too shall pass.