DAY 10 AF and bored to death

[fluff]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Mama...that could be one of 101 to 110 that's missing...or all of them...(hee-hee)

[caper564]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Supercrew;1220967 wrote:

If your child came to you and said, "I'm bored", would you say, "well there is a 12 pack in the fridge you should get drunk." Or would you say, "read a book, or find something useful to do, or go to bed and get up early and workout tomorrow."?

OK good point.. your right I think i am using it as an excuse...

thanks everyone... I will change it to "hmm what should i do today?" I need to find out who "sober caper" is .. i know "drunk caper" and she sucks !!!!!!

[Bruunhilde]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Great thread, all. Thank you, I'm wondering the same thing today. I just need a kick in the ass to do all the work that's been waiting around while I let the house go to hell in a handbasket. Not to mention the garden, my body, etc. Problem is it seems all like drudgery, but you're right SC, its no reason to drink, that just makes everything so much worse.

By the way, this is a little hijack and I apologize, but I found kombucha helped my craving. Its sweet and sparkling, and really good for you. You can find it in healthfood stores next to the expensive special sodas and stuff. Or make it yourself.

[Unwasted]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Caper, I'm wondering for me at least if my boredom is tied to depression. I just don't feel like doing a lot. I think of things and then can't seem to move forward and retreat back into being reclusive. I may even go to my doctor for a checkup -- I'm sure my hormones are out of whack. I think I'm probably a candidate for some anti ds, but I just hate to take stuff. Anyway, you might kind of watch for that. I live in a somewhat remote area which I think is adding to my mental outlook - really takes a lot of driving for me to do almost anything - I'm starting to think it's just an excuse and that I probably have some low-level depression.

Bruun - thanks for the Kombucha tip.

[lolab]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

caper564;1220897 wrote: I don't mean to complain i am very happy about being on day 10 BUT.. OMG its so boring.. what do sober people do all night??? watch TV and clean the kitchen.. UGHHHH .. i go to bed when the kids do because I can't stand the thought of sitting around being bored to death.. I have knit more hats in the past 10 days then i can stand.. the dog is starting to NOT want me to walk her anymore. i can read her mind when i head to the door .. "ummm!! really?? ANOTHER walk? can't i skip this one? " LOL
Does this pass? will the boredom ever end? i quit for 6 weeks a few months ago and i can't remember beng this bored... maybe i blocked it. Its funny really, when i drank i could sit for hours just staring at the walls and not care... now i can't sit still for 5 minutes. AAWWWWWWEEEE.. I use my ativan to fall asleep i am afraid if i don't i will lie in bed awake.. oK now i am babbling.. but good lord..
well gotta go, the dog is sleeping and i need to wake her up and walk her again... HEEHEE...

caper *yawn*

Good thread! And entertaining too! :-)
I will say that yes I do think it will ease up some too as you adjust to sobriety - like you said getting to know your sober self. Enjoy your clean kitchen and your lean doggy while you can- as time went on my obsessiveness with cleaning eased up too.

Also I see you're in Canada - 6 months ago there was plenty more available to do as in outdoor chores! And more daylight hours to do them...so I'd tty to kick back and enjoy your down time while you have it- life will get busier and then you'll be all rested up and ready for it!!! :-)

[Irie]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

mollyka;1221207 wrote: I have found that after any length of sober time, anything over bout 3 months, I regained interest in things that I had completely and utterly lost interest in from my drinking days.

Thanks for sharing this thought, Molly. I hope that it is true for me. My life has gotten so narrow over the years, to make room for hours and hours of daily drinking. I'm looking forward to bringing new hobbies and pass times into my life.

[BlondeAFAmbition]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

I can relate to this...I sometimes feel boredom creep on and think, wow, this sober thing is BORING. But what is the alternative...to drink your evening away only to wake up regretting all the next day? I have taken up MWO, reading novels, watching movies, doing craft work. But mostly reading and then getting a good night's sleep.

[mama bear]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

excellent point Molly

[Unwasted]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Molly, thanks for your post - it's really helpful to hear what you've had to say here. It's just such an adjustment to replace all that former AL time. Knowing it gets better helps us newbies hang in there!

[BlondeAFAmbition]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

I needed a good laugh after today Oney and you provided. Thank you! Seriously, I have been there too...the sad music and then drinking more and then crying and making up shite in my head that isn't even reality just to get sad over it. AL sucks. No more for this Blonde Babe.

[Supercrew]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Here is an essay about boredom that I found interesting. Please feel free to read if you are bored.

Zeek | The Gifts of Boredom | Jay Michaelson

[Unwasted]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

SC - I think boredom is just a way of looking at things incorrectly and am learning this as we speak. To quote from the article you posted the link to:

It?s simple: boredom plus surrender equals enlightenment

THANK YOU! EXCELLENT SUMMARY of some of the things I'm studying at this very moment through meditation and Buddhism!

[Unwasted]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

SC - I think boredom is just a way of looking at things incorrectly and am learning this as we speak. To quote from the article you posted the link to:

It?s simple: boredom plus surrender equals enlightenment

THANK YOU! EXCELLENT SUMMARY of some of the things I'm studying at this very moment through meditation, Buddhism and Eckhart Tolle's books!

[caper564]

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

SC i will read your post tonight.... well its good to know i am not the only one..yes i wonder about depression but i too hate taking drugs and have to force myself to take the 1/2 ativan a nght to sleep. but also i agree with the 3 month .. i think it wil take awhile toadjust to the NEW and improved sober me. Everyday gets better... Now to just hold on through Xmas.. Ugghhh..

C