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**mama bear** · December 5, 2011, 10:14 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

I SOOOOOO feel where you are coming from Caper. Sleep is an issue for me as well and I actually feel myself getting anxious around bedtime
I have lost myself in needlepoint, and my absolute FAVE....Netflix......you might to give that a try
the other thing I try to remember is....what the hell did I do before I got loaded night after night....and that was ...take care of small children
my kids are teens and don't need me to be as hands on as I used to be, but it sure is nice to be able to have conversations with them with a clear head and actually remember what we talked about the next day

ps...poor puppy.....she is prolly getting leg cramps!!:H

**FlyAway** · December 5, 2011, 10:19 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

How did you spend your time when you were drinking?

**one2many** · December 5, 2011, 10:24 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Well when i look back on my drinking career, opening a bottle and pouring a drink,lighting a fag, settling down in front of the tv,lighting a fag, drinking,lighting a fag, flicking channels,lighting a fag. finding a show I wanted to watch,lighting a fag, pouring another, ringing my mother,poring another,lighting a fag, talking shite, pouring another, lighting a fag, arguing with my mother, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, going on facebook, posting shite, lighting a fag, sending crap emails to people I have not seen in years, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, playing sad songs, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, crying over same sad songs, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, ringing ex boyfriend, pouring a drink, crying on the phone, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, eating a load of shite, pouring a drink, lighing a fag, pouring another drink because I spilled the one before, light another fag off the cooker and burn my fringe off, pour another drink, sit and get maudlin, pour another drink, light another fag....then PASS OUT.

Now that to me is boring......

**mama bear** · December 5, 2011, 10:25 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

EXCELLENT POINT ONEY!!!!

**caper564** · December 5, 2011, 10:26 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

hey flyaway....well when i was drnnking i didn't care about doing nothing, like i said i could sit like a blob and stare at the wall in a drunken stupor.. but sober... no way..
mamabear, your right.. when the kids were little i would not drink until they were safe in bed asleep.. and even then it was only 1 or 2 glasses.. jsut in case they woke up during the night... but now they are teens... maybe i should have a baby??? BWAHAHAHAH i'm not that desperate.. LOL

**mama bear** · December 5, 2011, 10:29 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

NO BABIES for this bear!!!!

**Struggles 106** · December 5, 2011, 10:40 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

HEY ONE2Many

That post was great! I laughed out loud. Hilarious!
That was certainly descriptive of me too, but I would add in a couple other stupid activities, and I agree THAT is boredom.

Without drinking I am getting a lot done. Tonight I'm actually hanging curtains in a window-have never done that. Drinking is such a waste of time.

**caper564** · December 5, 2011, 10:51 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

HAHAHA One2... yes ok when you put it that way..its sounds stupid and a waste of life.. thanks for the reminder..

**Panno** · December 5, 2011, 10:56 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

one2many;1220909 wrote: Well when i look back on my drinking career, opening a bottle and pouring a drink,lighting a fag, settling down in front of the tv,lighting a fag, drinking,lighting a fag, flicking channels,lighting a fag. finding a show I wanted to watch,lighting a fag, pouring another, ringing my mother,poring another,lighting a fag, talking shite, pouring another, lighting a fag, arguing with my mother, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, going on facebook, posting shite, lighting a fag, sending crap emails to people I have not seen in years, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, playing sad songs, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, crying over same sad songs, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, ringing ex boyfriend, pouring a drink, crying on the phone, pouring a drink, lighting a fag, eating a load of shite, pouring a drink, lighing a fag, pouring another drink because I spilled the one before, light another fag off the cooker and burn my fringe off, pour another drink, sit and get maudlin, pour another drink, light another fag....then PASS OUT.

Now that to me is boring......

:H:H:H

**fluff** · December 5, 2011, 10:58 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Hey Oney-that was too damn funny! But, oh so true! :H
So, maybe , we can offer up some suggestions...
Caper, is there something other than knitting? Like some other form of creativity you can try, painting, painting clay pots, immersing yourself in a good book-crosswords, um...photography and playing around with your pics on the computer-using special imaging techniques?
Maybe knit the dog a sweater? Paint a picture of the dog? Or use special photo imaging of the dog? Now your dog will surely just run away....

:h

**Unwasted** · December 5, 2011, 11:00 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Oney, your post deserves a gold star. Outrageously funny; sadly so descriptive of the time we've squandered. I'd much rather try to be deciding what to do with my time and feeling bored now and then as opposed to desperately overcoming a hangover.

Caper - I (and I'm sure most) of us have the same dilemma. All I can say is I fill my time with t.v., reading, exercise, meditating (just learning), cooking, internet. Like you, though, I'm looking for an additional hobby. We're even thinking of moving back into town (we're kind of remote right now) so we'll have access to things - there I could actually do some volunteer work, which I think would be really rewarding.

Hope that helps some.

**one2many** · December 5, 2011, 11:01 AM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

150 Things To Do Instead of Drinking

1. Read a book
2. Take a walk
3. Play a musical instrument
4. Knit
5. Clean your closets
6. Research your genealogy
7. Cook a gourmet dinner
8. Write an article for your local newspaper
9. Go take some pictures
10. Clean the mildew in your bathroom
11. Start writing that book you've been planning
12. Plan a garden
13. Plant a garden
14. Play with a pet
15. Read to a child
16. Visit someone in an old folks' home
17. Watch a news special on TV
18. Set up a family budget
19. Make a web site
20. Take up archery
21. Exercise
22. Go to an online recovery meeting
23. Surf the internet
24. Call your mom
25. Learn a foreign language
26. Write a poem
27. Play golf
28. Take a bubble bath
29. Draw
30. Teach a parakeet to whistle
31. Take a nap
32. Listen to music
33. Paint
34. Clean your desk
35. Start a stamp collection
36. Go window shopping
37. Browse in a book store
38. Go to an art gallery
39. Go for a drive
40. Paint a room
41. Watch the clouds go by
42. Play darts
43. Do target shooting
44. Do home repairs
45. Clean your garage
46. Sort your photographs
47. Make a scrapbook
48. Climb a tree
49. Plant a tree
50. Make marmalade
51. Make a list of things to do
52. Write a letter to the editor
53. Volunteer somewhere
54. Take a hike
55. Take a college class
56. Try yoga
57. Meditate
58. Get a massage
59. Make fruit smoothies
60. Bake cookies
61. Do a crossword puzzle
62. Go to the gym
63. Plant a color bowl
64. Sharpen your pruning tools
65. Change your engine oil
66. Sew
67. Groom your dog
68. Go see a play
69. Write a sonnet
70. Sort your recipes
71. Play solitaire
72. Go bird watching
73. Write a letter to a friend
74. Read a poetry book
75. Repot your houseplants
76. Go to a movie
77. Mow your lawn
78. Put up (or take down) your Christmas lights
79. Make pickles
80. Go jogging
81. Watch sitcoms
82. Plan menus for a diet
83. Do a jigsaw puzzle
84. Play chess
85. Write a country-western song
86. Watch a video
87. Go for a bike ride
88. Plant an herb garden
89. Start an online journal
90. Dye your hair
91. Go to a restaurant
92. Lift weights
93. Bake some bread
94. Learn a martial art
95. Polish the furniture
96. Make a flower arrangement
97. Read the newspaper
98. Start some seeds
99. Sort your magazines
100. Do some laundry.
111. Take a nature walk
112. Play with your kids
113. Volunteer at a homeless shelter
114. Volunteer at a school
115. Pick up garbage in a park
116. Tickle your kids
117. Play basketball
118. Volunteer at an animal shelter
119. Read to a child or pet
120. Sign up for obedience training with your dog
121. Take a walk and pick up litter you see on the way
122. Spend time at the library
123. Sort all your digital photos and make an album to print for holiday gifts to family.
124. Help your kid organize his closet.
125. Figure out the melody and chords to your current favorite tune on the piano.
126. Practice your holiday cookie recipes
127. Make crackers from scratch (that one didn't go so well).
128. Make tortillas from scratch (better). />129. Reread a book you haven't read for years.
130. Tango
131. Learn about someone else’s religion.
132. Reread one of your college textbooks.
133. Key out a wildflower.
134. Do your nails.
135. Do word puzzles.
136. Play a board game.
137. Burn CD’s of some of your favorite music for a friend.
138. Plant a bonsai.
139. Play Mad Libs.
140. Speak only in heroic couplets for an hour.
141. Read poetry online.
142. Ride a stationary bicycle.
143. Set up a domino topple.
144. Play backgammon.
145. Build a house of cards
146. Make an entry in Wikipedia.
147. Read a world almanac.
148. Publish a family newsletter.
149. Throw cards at a hat.
150. Go to bed.
...you can fill in 101 - 110!

**Supercrew** · December 5, 2011, 12:46 PM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

You're bored because you let yourself be bored. It has nothing to do with drinking or not drinking. Find something to better yourself. Take the time to learn about something that interests you. Improve your living space. It's sounds like you were bored before you quit drinking. Don't blame your boredom on not being able to drink, blame you bordom on you for not taking action in your life to keep yourself mentally stimulated.

Boredom is a state of mind, and it is caused by a lack of fulfilling action in your life, and you are trying to use it as an excuse to drink. Start using this free time to focus on how you want your life to be and embrace your sobriety, then start making changes through learning or exercise to accomplish the things you are focusing on. If your child came to you and said, "I'm bored", would you say, "well there is a 12 pack in the fridge you should get drunk." Or would you say, "read a book, or find something useful to do, or go to bed and get up early and workout tomorrow."?

I apologize but the drinking out of boredom excuse was one I used for many years, and one that I hate because it just means that I'm too lazy to take action to try and better my life.

**mama bear** · December 5, 2011, 01:02 PM

DAY 10 AF and bored to death

Oney...did you mention HAVE SEX????:H:H

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