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[AGUYFROMNC]

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Day 9 AF
Just was cleaning up and found a almost full bottle bottle and dumped it right out... Wow the cravings are calling bad.. I know I keep saying but I am on day 9 this is from a gallon of day rum drinker.. The buzz always felt good but didnt last long.... not worth the health problems...glad I found the support here..

[ronnie]

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What a great post oney....brought tears to my eyes as I can relate so much to it.....
Here's to a wonderful sober Christmas xxx

[Georgie]

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Great post. I saw myself,my parents, my uncles and grandparents. Generations of Christmases like that. Time to break that chain:l:h thank you for this painful reminder:hGina

[CS04]

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Very well expressed. Thank you as I struggle.

[Cinders]

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(((Oney)))

Love,
Cindi

[hart]

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(((Oney)))

You are a gifted writer!!! And having met you I'll tell you all she talks as she writes, animated and with much wit and enthusiasm.

I too needed to read this and though I am not going to be sober this X-mas, Joe and I plan on going AF in January and we are tapering off toward that event.

Thank you so much for sharing hon. :l

[one2many]

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I am so glad that this resonated with so many of you.

It really is a hard time of year for us alkies.....drinking is allowed at Christmas, it is almost expected. A Christmas drink, Christmas session, Christmas nightcap, Christmas party..........

but with us it leads to..

Christmas hangovers, Christmas mess, Christmas broken promises and Christmas regrets.

Seems like a HUGE ask doesn't it?? NO DRINKING WHATSOEVER over Christmas??? Well this year is gonna be a boring, horrible, wanky, depressing, crappy Christmas.

My first year seemed SO daunting, so insurmountable, the days just dragged out before me in one long, pox ridden slog of abstinence. Then I remembered ONE DAY AT A TIME! Little by little and easy does it.
The major advice I've been given as far as the holidays are concerned is the fact that it's just another day. Since I live one day at a time I can make no excuse to justify a drink. Before I knew it, the days were adding up and it was January and I had made it sober!!!!

Another trick I used was the Gratitude V Deprivation mode (now this really did help)

When I had feelings of...

"Oh this is SO horrible, I cannot have a drink"
"Why me?? Look at all the others enjoying themselves"
"Christmas is SHITE without a drink"
" I would feel better if I had a drink..F*** it!"

I turned that on it's head and changed it to....

"Isn't this wonderful that I am not pouring poison into my body"
" It really feels so good not to be making a show of myself at this party"
" Christmas is different without a drink, I remember it and can enjoy it"
" I would feel better for the first couple of hours and then I would go to the bad place and disappoint and upset my family, I am so grateful that will not be happening this year"

I am not saying it is easy, I am not saying it is smooth sailing but I am saying it is worth it, totally, totally worth it and remember...there is nobody who would wake up and say " Shite I wish I had drank last night"


We have a great little community here with people online 24/7 day and night so you will always find support, USE it and if you feel wobbly or about to cave, come here first and talk, it really can mean the difference in drinking and not drinking and it has saved my ass on many an occasion.

A sober Christmas is achievable and whats more, it is bloody enjoyable. One day at a time, with support from here, YOU CAN DO IT!!

[Captainjack]

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Damm you are cool

Great post One 2

You still fill my heart with Joy

[Captainjack]

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Ps sailing over to IRE you available for a quickie

[Captainjack]

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close engagement that is ..rooty toot

[Captainjack]

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Swissh outa here

[Captainjack]

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Wonderfull person you are.... still with a beaming smile !!!!

[changemeforever]

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Oh Oney these words are so true and so inspiring! I'm glad to be back!! And above all looking forward to an AF Christmas! I've a Christmas meal on Sunday and I will not make an arse of myself this time
So Merry Christmas one and all!!! xxx

[Unwasted]

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Oney, you are a true inspiration. Thank you for taking the time and effort to post - invaluable!:l

[daisy45]

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Oney, brilliant post. This should be bumped every day in the lead-up to Christmas. Thank you. x