Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

[Recluse]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Morning Jackie

Glad you're feeling better. :goodjob: Have you any plans to get yourself your own car or will you share the existing car with Mr JC?

[Recluse]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

JackieClaire;1229076 wrote: Whoever invented Olbas oil should be given a sainthood.

We're going out in our car today. It's a estate car so it's just a matter of me getting used to the length of it........as the actress said to the bishop.

Oooh, a long time ago I once had to borrow a Volvo estate company car to drive to visit a client and it was like driving a blooming bus! Reversing was absolute murder! I don't envy you at all trying to drive your estate, but wish you the best of luck with it. I'm sure you'll get the hang of it cos you seem to be able to do almost anything when you put your mind to it.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Recluse;1229079 wrote: Morning Jackie

Glad you're feeling better. :goodjob: Have you any plans to get yourself your own car or will you share the existing car with Mr JC?

I'd love one,but it's just a financial impossibility at the mo , so I'll just be frightening the bejaysus out of people in ours.

Yo Mollers.

[Recluse]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Morning molly

Yep, tips' pictures are really good!

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Good morning

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Morning mariooooooooooo,

Must be orff. It's going to take half an hour to get the driver's seat where I like it.

Bacinabit.

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Morning Jc happy driving

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

No mollyka, no work, finished. might get a day or 2 over the next week but the man want to pay me the rest of the money first :-)

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

mallika;1229097 wrote: Just putting this out there - doing what I preach I s'pose. Last night had a lovely (another) evening with Jilly after hubs and Joey went to bed. Just chewing the cud, nothing special, but when I went to bed it hit me like a sledgehammer that she'll be going back to Canada on the 28th. Not sure if I dozed off or if it was a 'rational' thought, but when I woke up this morning the thought swirling round in my head was - I'll drop her at the airport at 5am that day, come home, get blathered, go to bed, go asleep and wake up maybe lunchtime as if nothing had happened, and no one would know. This is scaring the shit out of me. I've not hardly THOUGHT of a drink for nigh on 2 months, this is really horrible. Right, I've said it - does that make it 'realer' as in now I'll do it or does it make it 'ridiculous' as in when I see it in words I can see what a crazy stupid idea that would be. Bloody hell, where oh where did that come from

Mollyka these drinking out of the blue thoughts are normal, I still get them, got one last week when I never got paid, But I laugh at them now, it actually brings a smile to my face.
Once you are beating this recurring monster we have to have in our minds the tools always ready to dismiss theses attacks as they are always hovering around ready to pounce.good for you for sharing it thats a good move.:good job:

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

mollyka;1229100 wrote: Deffo get the money first!! Second son is working on a contract basis, and he has noticed the money is coming later and later!

Yep it be well to keep an eye on the ball ok

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Molly found this in my files :-)

It is true that we have to think about taking a drink before we actually take one,The thought always comes before the act,and yet the thoughts that come before taking a drink are often largely subconscious,people usually dont know consciously what made them do it,Therefore the common practice in a lot of alcohol forums/communities is to call these things slips,for instance,some of us dream about being drunk when we are asleep,even after several years of sobriety,during our drinking days,our subconscious minds have been thoroughly conditioned by our alcoholic ways of thinking and it is doubtful if they ever become entirely free of such thoughts during our lifetime,But when our conscious minds are fully conditioned against drinking we can stay sober & our subconscious minds do not bother us. impo

[one2many]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

mollyka;1229097 wrote: Just putting this out there - doing what I preach I s'pose. Last night had a lovely (another) evening with Jilly after hubs and Joey went to bed. Just chewing the cud, nothing special, but when I went to bed it hit me like a sledgehammer that she'll be going back to Canada on the 28th. Not sure if I dozed off or if it was a 'rational' thought, but when I woke up this morning the thought swirling round in my head was - I'll drop her at the airport at 5am that day, come home, get blathered, go to bed, go asleep and wake up maybe lunchtime as if nothing had happened, and no one would know. This is scaring the shit out of me. I've not hardly THOUGHT of a drink for nigh on 2 months, this is really horrible. Right, I've said it - does that make it 'realer' as in now I'll do it or does it make it 'ridiculous' as in when I see it in words I can see what a crazy stupid idea that would be. Bloody hell, where oh where did that come from

It is a natural reaction, booze has been your coping mechanism for so many years, so when you think of something stressful, you automatically think of how you are going to cope with it....and your mind goes straight to the tried and tested.
What you need to realise is...IT IS JUST A THOUGHT...nothing more...a thought, it is not a command, an instruction, a requirement, an order, a necessity or something on your to do list.
Recognise it for what it is, acknowledge it, understand that it is just your brain leading you to old, ingrained habits, know that you DO NOT have to act on it and understand that you have new habits now and they don't involve booze.

The very fact that you are questioning these thoughts shows that your brain already knows that something has changed and sends out those warning signals.

Remember, we NEVER have to act on thoughts Mollers, thats all they are. You will deal with Jilly's departure without booze because you don't drink. Period.
:l:l:l

[one2many]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

We all have those thoughts Mollers, every single one of us......you are not alone there hon. I did get a pang last week when I thought of Christmas Eve sober, just a fleeting thought and ping it was gone...but it did cross my mind.

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Great post one2many, Dont worry mollyka we have all been through this and together we can all beat anything.

[mario]

Army Thread MONDAY 19th December

Have to go and see jim, it keeps the stress out of my life :-)