from CS04

[caysea]

from CS04

Hi CS
Many times we come upon cross roads in our recovery. This seems to be a time for you and the next road may help you find the key. I know it has been tough for you as it has been for all of us getting al out of our lives. Use the tools and support you will recieve and we will be here for you during and after.


Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
AF 5-16-08

[CS04]

from CS04

Thank you for all your good words. I am taking my son to my sister's (in fact she is the one who called this place for me and scoped it out; although she has been critical and judgmental of my AL issues in the past, she is being very supportive now). I'll check back in here later this afternoon or evening. xoxo to you all.

[K9Lover]

from CS04

Just want to send my support and well wishes to you also CS. Take the advice of others, use your insurance and view this chance as a gift.
Sending you strength.
K9

[MWOLady]

from CS04

I'm very new here but wish you well too. And do what you have to do, no matter what. Life goes on and if you have to be away for 28 days so be it. We often fear bad things will happen if we do...such and such...and then after we've done it we see things aren't so bad. I sincerely hope this works out for you. All we can do is offer you our support and prayers.

[Guitarista]

from CS04

Thinking of you CS.

Go for it!

G-bloke.

[CS04]

from CS04

The assessment interview was rather extensive (almost 2.5 hours). She did not recommend stopping drinking without medical detox, and not at home. (My husband drinks too...a lot.) This could last anywhere from 72 hrs to 5 or 6 days. We then discussed their intensive outpatient programs, both morning and evening, and the morning sounds a bit more appealing (start the day off right) but that won't fit my work schedule and I don't know if I'm in a position to take a leave of absence. Also not sure about longer inpatient since I have my 5 year old. I do have off work for the next couple of weeks, so I need to make a decision soon. Most important right now to me is the conversation I need to have with my husband. He doesn't know I went today but I will tell him once lil guy is in bed. When I have tried MWO or other ways of sobriety before, he says he is supportive, but really those are only words because he has continued to drink. I know it is up to ME to get well but the family dynamic is a big issue. The counselor wants me to call or email in the next 2 days to help me make a decision.
All of your thoughts, comments and concerns are much appreciated. xoxoxo CS

[Juja]

from CS04

CS,

That's a lot of juggling to do...

Talking with your husband first sounds like a good idea to me. I would think he would eventually be brought into some sort of family counseling...?

You have a child who needs you. You have to take care of yourself so you can be there for him/her.

If you don't do it now, when?

My best to you:l:l:l:l:l:l

Juja

[ThreeDogNight]

from CS04

Just want to wish you good luck with this. I know it will work out for you.

TDN

[lukalee]

from CS04

CS----Big hugs to you! I am here for you!

[rubywillow]

from CS04

C, I'm not in your position, but nothing is more important right now than your getting well. Your son will be cared for. Your husband will have to face both your problems. But you need some time to get straight. I'm sorry this sounds hard - it is! I'm here for you, as always. Do you still have my #? I'll PM it if you want.

[Cinders]

from CS04

CS,

You have a deadly addiction. If you had cancer or some other life threatening illness, you would be in the hospital, period.

This is really no different, even though we think it is.

A good detox is great help, btw. Not only do you help your body heal, you get a few days in an environment where you cannot drink. It is a good start for the rest of the program.

I hope the discussion with your husband went/goes well.

Make sure your counselors know about his drinking when you are in therapy. They deal with this all the time and can give you some advice about how to deal with it in a positive way and still maintain your sobriety.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. We have both been fighting this a long time. We will win.

Love,
Cindi

[CS04]

from CS04

Ruby,
I don't think I ever had your phone #, so yes, I'd appreciate it if you would PM me with it. I also had a hard time getting into chat for months on end.

I haven't had the conversation with my husband yet, but he is supposed to come home from work early today, so hopefully this afternoon before it gets too late.

[Doggygirl]

from CS04

CS, one thing is for sure. The problems you describe - juggling work, having a husband who also drinks, concerns about child care, etc. are not uncommon among women seeking treatment. I would just keep talking honestly to the counselor about the issues you are trying to juggle and see what they suggest. The important thing is to keep working to figure out how to get the treatment you need. As was mentioned upthread, what we have is a deadly thing. The important thing is to get treatment, however that works out best for your situation.

:l

DG

[KateH1]

from CS04

:hHi CS, It sounds like you have reached a crossroads concerning your problems with alcohol. I commend you for searching for the treatment that will work for you. I know from our many conversations that life has certainly been tough for you on many levels for a long while now, but as we all know so well, alcohol never solves our problems, in fact, alcohol makes everything far worse.

Taking action regarding alcohol takes a lot of courage and I know for a fact that you are a courageous woman! Take the steps that are best for you because in the long run, your family will also reap the benefits of your sobriety. I wish you peace and success.

Sending you love and support:h

Kate

[CS04]

from CS04

I just emailed the counselor with some questions about detox, the admit date (could I start next week or do I have to schedule this months from now) and some concerns about the 12-step orientation of the program. I've been to AA and I know that people here have benefited from it, but I am not sure about a lot of it.

Some other avenues I'm considering are getting in to see my dr. (who is new to me) much sooner than the Feb. 1st physical I have currently scheduled. She also gave me some info about a cognitive therapy center that is also local. I know some of you have experience with cognitive therapy, so any info you have on that is appreciated.

It is so nice to see many of you that I've known for a long time chime in with your support. Thank you so much. xoxo CS