Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Morning Tipppers, Mariooooooo, Starters, Mollers, Expatty, Reccybear and all those yet to drop by

Glad to hear that, Jilly got away OK, but Mollers have a big fat :l


The son and heir has gorn back to work this morning but will be back for New Years Eve.

And rather sad news is that me daughter and her boyfriend have split up. I actually found out a couple of weeks before Christmas but didn't want to say anything until I'd had a bit of a talk with her and just in case they got back together. Up to now all I really know is that she finished the relationship and she is very very sad it came to this and there's no one else involved.

[expat3]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

I am going to change my life in as many positive ways as I can this coming year, anyone care to join me?
I'm in!
Morning KTAB and Reccie!

[expat3]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Morning JC-xpost. I'm sorry to her about your daughter's news. Were you very close to the boy too? I know when my first boyfriend and I broke up that it was difficult for our families as well. I ran into his little sister a few weeks after the breakup and she hugged me and cried.:upset:

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Morning KTabbers,

Didn't really know her ex at all, Patty. Only met him half a dozen times. Nice lad but if I'm honest a bit of a wet weekend. Where as the daughter is ploughing ahead in her career in bar management he just seemed happy to play on his x-box and go out with his mates.

I'm just going to sit on me hands and be at the end of the phone and keep a pan of mince and tatties ready 24/7 for now.

[expat3]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Probably a good thing she worked it out now while she's still young than letting it drag on. But I know it's still a painful experience even if we know we're doing the right thing.:l
Off to give pug dog a proper walk and then lock myself in the house for a few hours. Hair dye, home facial, bubble bath...and then meeting up with my friend later. And the child is happily playing at camp. Whew!
back laters xxx

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Sorry, KT, had to get that bit about me daughter off me chest.

Now exactly what were you thinking about.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

JackieClaire;1234139 wrote: Morning KTabbers,

Didn't really know her ex at all, Patty. Only met him half a dozen times. Nice lad but if I'm honest a bit of a wet weekend. Where as the daughter is ploughing ahead in her career in bar management he just seemed happy to play on his x-box and go out with his mates.

I'm just going to sit on me hands and be at the end of the phone and keep a pan of mince and tatties ready 24/7 for now.

Sounds like it was better than the alternative, some things just arent meant to be. I know a few people who really shouldnt have stuck together and it always ends in tears. Good that your daughter realised in time what was the best for all concerned.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

It'll all work out eventually, she'll find her own way. At least she hasn't got a burbling drunk mother on the phone every 10 mins this time.

[anon]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Morning Army.
Busy thread today.
Cannot do the multiquote thingy.
:lMolly I was sad when my girls left home but it is so good for them to spread their wings.
JC better to get out of an unsatisfactory relationship before it goes pear shaped.
Busy day here so probably will AWOL until Friday

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

expat3;1234137 wrote: I am going to change my life in as many positive ways as I can this coming year, anyone care to join me?
I'm in!
Morning KTAB and Reccie!

mollyka;1234142 wrote: Yes Tabbers, I'd love to join you. I've been feeling for a while that really what I am is a 'dry drunk' a lot of the time, the problem is that there isn't a lot that I 'want' to do -- so would love to know what you have in mind

JackieClaire;1234144 wrote: Sorry, KT, had to get that bit about me daughter off me chest.

Now exactly what were you thinking about.

Well now I have been thinking for a while, nothing changes if we just sit still. When I logged in this morning the first thread I came across was his one:

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...hol-54181.html

Seems sometimes we read what we need here at just the perfect time. Having said that I read most of the threads :H
Now I know this thread relates mostly to the void left in our lives when we get sober, I think it can be true in a wider sense. I doubt any one is truly happy with everything in their lives and that is ok, for true happiness come from within and anyone who thinks they have it all is missing the point. But there are so many things I sit and moan about, or regrets I have about things I could have done differently or just have never had the guts or drive to try. Well the good news is that it's never too late. These are changes that are very personal to us, like JC's terrific weight loss, for instance. I know where I am going to start though and that is two fold, the first being tackling head on my still continuing to drink however small an amount and secondly by sorting my business and finances. I have an embryo of an idea and possibly a backer who is not family so we shall see. If that doesnt take off I shall widen the area of my search for work to overseas if necessary. Just thinking positive is a great start.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Crikey today's the day,Mrs A. That's come round fast.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Hi Anon, good luck with everything.

Yep JC, your daughter is lucky to have you there on the other end of the phone for her. Just another possibly previously unseen bonus of getting clean, I know there are so many of them we dont even think of.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Just had a read through the thread.

It's so right about just sitting here being sober and not drinking.

Now this is just me:

I still give myself a wee pat on the back each day I'm sober and have a real gratitude for laying my sober head down to sleep.

Over the last couple of years I've have literally had to take baby steps. It's hard to believe I used to shake like a leaf when I stood waiting for a bus I was so scared but by giving my self small but manageable challenges. I can now nip on a flight with just the usual amount of nervousness that come with flying and come see yous lot in Dubbers.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

:goodjob:

I dont think many of us really understand what we are capable of if we put our minds to it and want it badly enough, just my take on things.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Wednesday 28th December

Well I certainly surprised meself.